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Original poster

To have asked the receptionist to switch off the Lady GaGa video...

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MooMooFarm · 30/03/2011 12:49

My DS is deeply embarrassed after a visit to the orthodontist. We were waiting in the reception, which had a music channel showing on a big screen - there were ten or so children/teens waiting for appointments. My v young DD was with us.

Anyway Lady GaGa came on with the video to 'Telephone' or whatever it's called. I've not watched it before but was a bit [shocked] at the video. When it got to the bit where she's wearing nothing but a bit of gaffer tape I (quietly) asked the receptionist if she would please switch it off as it wasn't appropriate viewing for my young daughter. It was quickly switched off without comment.

I then spent another five minutes being given snotty looks by other teens in the room and my DS is saying I need to 'stop being a grumpy old granny'.

AIBU?

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LilQueenie · 30/03/2011 12:50

yabu It sounds as if your DS was embarrassed by you and not the actual video.

Callisto · 30/03/2011 12:51

YANBU, I would have done the same. Plus Lady Gaga is vile.

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MooMooFarm · 30/03/2011 12:53

Lil I know he wasn't embarrassed by the video - probably every teen boys dream Hmm - I was thinking more at the time of not wanting my v young DD to see it, not what he would think about it....

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Lovethelittlefishes · 30/03/2011 12:54

I love Gaga - and that video - but it's not appropriate viewing in an orthodontist's office, where children of any age might be watching. YANBU.

worraliberty · 30/03/2011 12:54

You couldn't distract your DD instead of spoiling everyone else's viewing?

doutzen · 30/03/2011 12:55

I'd be more concerned about the mass slaughter that occurs, not the gaffer tape.

Tee2072 · 30/03/2011 12:55

How old is your daughter? Was she even paying attention to the video?

Sex is everywhere. There is no avoiding it.

I think I agree with your son.

Gemsy83 · 30/03/2011 12:57

Spoiling everyone elses viewing of WHAT exactly? A childlike looking woman in the nude acting overtly sexual? She is so unladylike looking it actually freaks me out

ChristinedePizan · 30/03/2011 12:57

Well presumably most of the other clients were teenagers given that orthodontics are pretty pointless for young children. So I think you were a bit unreasonable - they were probably anxious and turning the telly off isn't going to help. Couldn't you read a story to your DD instead?

BitOfFun · 30/03/2011 12:57

I dint think the music channels are really neutral viewing for a public space anyway. YANBU.

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MooMooFarm · 30/03/2011 12:57

No I couldn't! It was a big room, all the chairs faced the same way with a huge screen tv at the front. Maybe next time I should take some childrens books with me so I can swivel DD round on my lap so she can't see the soft porn on the tv Hmm

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Bringonthegoat · 30/03/2011 12:58

YANBU - inappropriate to have it on in a communial space used by children. Sod everyone else's viewing - if people want to watch soft porn (which is basically what these videos are now) they can do it with other adults. Am genuinely surprised anyone would think YABU to be honest Hmm

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MooMooFarm · 30/03/2011 12:58

Was replying to worra btw

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Vallhala · 30/03/2011 12:58

IMHO you were being precious. As has been said, IF your DD was paying attention to the video she could have been distracted instead of you expecting it to be turned off.

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MooMooFarm · 30/03/2011 12:59

doutzen didn't get as far as the 'mass slaughter'!

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jeee · 30/03/2011 12:59

Tell your DS that it is your responsibility as a mother to completely embarrass him from time to time.

With this in mind, it's irrelevant whether your were reasonable or not.

BranchingOut · 30/03/2011 13:00

I wouldn't like this either.

What is wrong with reading a book or magazine in a waiting room? Hmm

Or maybe just 'waiting'.

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MooMooFarm · 30/03/2011 13:01

And I didn't ask for it to be switched off, just switched over.

There were a couple of other v young children sitting there too, btw.

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tulpe · 30/03/2011 13:01

Tough one. I understand why your POV but also can see your son's perspective. In addition, it isn't really up to you what may or may not be suitable for other children to watch in a public space.

Had I have been in your situation I probably would have distracted DD by chatting or reading together and perhaps only mentioned a concern to the receptionist rather than asking them to switch it off.

dolldaggabuzzbuzz · 30/03/2011 13:01

YANBU Who in their right mind wants to see and hear that utter shite?

tulpe · 30/03/2011 13:02

x-post. Got the impression you had asked for it to be switched off.

But other comments still stand.

Callisto · 30/03/2011 13:02

How on earth can it be 'precious' to not want one's young children watching soft porn?

ivykaty44 · 30/03/2011 13:02

change your name quick Mary Whitehouse lives on Wink

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MooMooFarm · 30/03/2011 13:03

This has made me wonder....

If what was in that video had been on a tv programme or film instead, I wouldn't have thought it could have been shown before 9pm. Is there a different rule for music videos?

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worraliberty · 30/03/2011 13:04

Spoiling everyone elses viewing of WHAT exactly? A childlike looking woman in the nude acting overtly sexual? She is so unladylike looking it actually freaks me out

Yes...that.

Some people like it and some don't like it. It's not really for the taste police to judge.

Personally I think your suggestion of bringing books next time OP, is a good one.