To have asked the receptionist to switch off the Lady GaGa video...

[MooMooFarm]

My DS is deeply embarrassed after a visit to the orthodontist. We were waiting in the reception, which had a music channel showing on a big screen - there were ten or so children/teens waiting for appointments. My v young DD was with us.

Anyway Lady GaGa came on with the video to 'Telephone' or whatever it's called. I've not watched it before but was a bit [shocked] at the video. When it got to the bit where she's wearing nothing but a bit of gaffer tape I (quietly) asked the receptionist if she would please switch it off as it wasn't appropriate viewing for my young daughter. It was quickly switched off without comment.

I then spent another five minutes being given snotty looks by other teens in the room and my DS is saying I need to 'stop being a grumpy old granny'.

AIBU?

And I stand by my usual name!

"MooMooFarm does not want her DD to watch music videos containing bondage/gang bangs/other soft porn images. But I do like a good shag! (in private)" (shouting from a high place emoticon)

A waiting area is for everyone - it should be a 'U' rated space - if there is a TV DC will look at it, fact - you can distract but save pinning their head down they will be able to turn around/look up and see it. Anyone who thinks it is OK to constantly bombard us with violent and/or sexual images is a twunt.

IMO, I wouldn't let my DS watch any music tv, it's utterly disgusting the portrayal and treatment of women, and there is no warning, nor certificate it would seem.

Gaga is horrific, and tbh, I question whether we need to have this constant Pipe Feed of entertainment wherever we sit, wait or shop. It's brain-numbing!

a bloody CAR PARK I use has piped Shopping Centre music FGS - WHY???? It's total noise pollution

Well, MooMoo based on some research some of us did from an earlier thread, the watershed isn't really kept for cable. And music channels are cable.

It's all very vague these days anyway.

An orthodentist waiting room is like school.

Sexy videos don't seem right to me.

I'm with you OP. Well done, I would have done the same thing.

Sex is everywhere but it defeatist to say we can't avoid it. Of course we can, and should, protect our children as much as we can for as long as we see fit.

I'm with you, OP! The likes of Lady Gaga, Rihanna and Katy Perry videos are nothing better than soft porn, inappropriate for little children, appalling role models for older girls and sadly if women object, they are labelled prudes.

"Anyone who thinks it is OK to constantly bombard us with violent and/or sexual images is a twunt."

Constantly?

YANBU.

YANBU.

I think more people should do it and then maybe sex wouldnt be everywhere.

Sex is great. Young women selling themselves as if they have nothing to offer but their sex is not. Doing it for children to see is also Not Ok.

I questioned the choice of music in the Body Shop once. Lots of young staff members who were used to listening to women being called whores and bitches and motherfucking pigs having a few caps popped in dem heads etc

I dont want to listen to it whilst buying vit E cream and I dont want my kids listening to it either.

They were fine when I told them I didnt think it appropriate. They just didnt 'hear' the lyrics (my OH is like this ). The girl I spoke to agreed with me and was a bit embarrassed.

If you want to watch it/listen to it its easy enough to access. If you dont its far harder to avoid.

in our doctors waiting room they have bbcnews 24 on......images of war,people in distress etc etc.....no toys anymore to distract with either.

Tiffany I see your point, but I would have less of a problem with that. I'm not suggesting I should shield DD from real life (in a moderated way) - my main issue is that I don't want her to grow up seeing Lady GaGa and the like as some kind of role-model

You can't stop her seeing anyone as a rold model as she grows up unfortunately.

I've yet to see a poster of Mother Theresa on any teenagers wall.

'Role' model

Good for you MooMooFarm.

I def agree with TheFirstMrsDeVere and chipmonkey.

I absolutely agree you were NBU. I did this in HMV where there was highly offensive music playing anf **ing etc was blaring out on the loudspeaker. I had a 6, 3 and 1 year old with me. Not at all appropriate even in that setting. I also asked for it to be switched off and it was I had a funny look from some staff but some seemed quite relieved by it.

worra maybe not, but she is pre-school age and therefore is always tucked up in bed before the tv watershed. Therefore she doesn't see strong sexual images on a day to day basis. Apart from when we walked into the orthodontist's office, that is, because for some reason strong sexual images are ok in music videos, but not anywhere else on tv before 9.

Do you honestly think it's wrong for me to not want a child that young to see a women thrusting around in nothing but bondage tape? Honestly?

You are sooooo NBU.

I hate this kind of thing being pushed at the public and thus 'normalising' the idea of suddenly deciding to remove the majority of ones clothes and thrust about in a manic way.

Clearly this behaviour is not normal. Constantly displaying it in all sorts of public areas will never make it normal.

Funny how in these situations everyone sits there going "ho hum, lets just look at this book here", "oh look lady has taken her clothes off, no problem with at - all completely normal, ho hum", "nothing to look at here everyobody, just lady with no clothes on - all fine and normal over here...." etc...etc...

UNTIL, somebody like the OP actually bothers to say something and then suddenly receptionist/shop assistant/whatever is suddenly all embarrassed as if to say "oh shit, yeah, lady taken clothes off. Not so normal after all. Buggger. How did I gat taken in by that one?"

Your DS got off lightly. If it were me, the whole room would have been treated to a loud feminist critique of the video including a discussion about the lack of pubic hair and the ubiquity of bikinis and underwear. I was a teacher, I can effortlessly fill a room with my voice without appearing to shout.

I loathe Lady Gaga, she's a piss poor Madonna wannabe without an original idea to call her own.

Good for you

YANBU - I hate my DD's seeing this stuff. I know I can't protect them from it forever, but I don't expect it to be shown in public waiting areas either. I probably wouldn't have been brave enough to ask them to turn over though - so good for you.

@ "at our village fete they had some music blasting out that had totally inappropriate lyrics - lot of 'f'ing this and mother 'f'ing that "

I now have a vision of a jam-making granny singing along to Eminem

Yanbu

Count yourself lucky it wasn't her alejandro video where she is raping Nazi soldiers with in inverted cross on her crotch. She is into some very dark sick stuff and I would ban dd from seeing these videos for as long as I can.