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To have asked the receptionist to switch off the Lady GaGa video...

215 replies

MooMooFarm · 30/03/2011 12:49

My DS is deeply embarrassed after a visit to the orthodontist. We were waiting in the reception, which had a music channel showing on a big screen - there were ten or so children/teens waiting for appointments. My v young DD was with us.

Anyway Lady GaGa came on with the video to 'Telephone' or whatever it's called. I've not watched it before but was a bit [shocked] at the video. When it got to the bit where she's wearing nothing but a bit of gaffer tape I (quietly) asked the receptionist if she would please switch it off as it wasn't appropriate viewing for my young daughter. It was quickly switched off without comment.

I then spent another five minutes being given snotty looks by other teens in the room and my DS is saying I need to 'stop being a grumpy old granny'.

AIBU?

OP posts:
Toygirl · 30/03/2011 14:33

Soft porn? I think people need to start realising that things are changing. Music is changing and you can't avoid it. Also, it isn't just women that are supposedly being objectified, men are too. Not that I think they are. You are B U because it's isn't up to you what people watch and the videos can't be that bad if on in the daytime because believe it or not, there is a watershed for music videos.

RunAwayWife · 30/03/2011 14:35

YABU get over yourself

mummysleepy · 30/03/2011 14:40

Yanbu
Well done you. I don't let my kids watch music videos as they are generally so sexist and objectify women
Can't see why anyone would have a problem with it being switched off

PaperView · 30/03/2011 14:40

She is pre school age and you are worried about her seeing it? And understanding it? And it was teh gaffer tape costume that offended you (not your DD or anyone else in the room) and not the lesbianism or murder?

riiiiiight

ensure · 30/03/2011 14:43

Yanbu.

They ought to think about what they put on the tv in the waiting room. Something that won't offend or upset anybody who has to sit there surely can be found?

Radio 4? Except when one of those godawful plays starts, then silence.

LaurieFairyCake · 30/03/2011 14:44

Yanbu

Some of those music videos have a 12 or 15 certificate and therefore shouldn't be shown to young children

It is no different than walking in and seeing an episode of "law and order" rated 15 but shown during the day on satellite channels.

Of course you should ask to turn it over if they are showing older rated content to minors.

LaurieFairyCake · 30/03/2011 14:45

There is no watershed for music channels, just like there isn't for other satellite channels which is why you can see "law and order" during the day, even the ones rated 12 and 15.

StewieGriffinsMom · 30/03/2011 14:52

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ENormaSnob · 30/03/2011 14:56

Yanbu

I like gaga but her videos are inappropriate IMO

Bramshott · 30/03/2011 14:58

YANBU - I would have been tempted to complain even if I hadn't had a pre-schooler with me, as I would object to being to being subjected to that sort of crap in a public space.

Quasimojo · 30/03/2011 15:07

Def not being U. Who the hell wants to watch that stuff with their (or other peoples) children present? I really really object to being made to put up with soft porn masquerading as song videos. In fact I once complained at the gym I go to since the TVs were always on some R & B channel where every other vid was full of crotch thrusting, ggyrating, slickly oiled breasts ect etc. It irritated me. Probably irritated others too. But even if not I dont care! One or 2 people have commented here about you dictating what the others were or weren't allowed to watch. But why should they dictate to you (or me) what I watch. And no, I should not have to shieold my or my daughters eyes because of someone elses lack of sensitivity or common sense.

Those of you who cant see the harm have been taken in badly by the warped music industry.

Rant over.

DitheringDoofus · 30/03/2011 15:08

Toygirl - " You are B U because it's isn't up to you what people watch and the videos can't be that bad if on in the daytime because believe it or not, there is a watershed for music videos."

It is up to the OP what her daughter watches though. I doubt the OP cares what people watch in their own homes. And all sorts of unsuitable crap is shown on daytime TV.

fuzzysnout · 30/03/2011 15:10

YANBU. I went to an appointment in the cancer centre of a large hospital recently to have to sit through "Can't live, if living is without you"
blasting out from the reception TV at top volume!! Also inappropriate I feel!

LaurieFairyCake · 30/03/2011 15:13

I would have even had it turned over for 13 year old foster dd if it was a rated 15 music video. She's not allowed to watch unsuitable content and it would be wrong of me (and I could lose my job) if I exposed her to adult content.

So not just pre-schoolers for me.

GabbyLoggon · 30/03/2011 15:21

Lady Ga Ga is a very successful capitalist; and she does much less harm than David Cameron

orangeeyebrows · 30/03/2011 15:22

dear me

i wonder how many of our grannies tutted and hid their eyes at Elvis the Pelvis gyrating sexily and thrusting at the young girls

LaurieFairyCake · 30/03/2011 15:23

To be fair, I wouldn't expose her to David camerons crotch either .

Hth.

LaurieFairyCake · 30/03/2011 15:27

Classifications are generally there for a reason. Whether it's music videos or horror films.

I thought there was only a couple of people on mumsnet who were "cool" with children playing adult games, viewing adult films.

Where have you all been hiding, this has been discussed hundreds of times.

TurkeyBurgerThing · 30/03/2011 15:29

Gaga is a thing. But I don't mind her music!

YABU.

MollyMurphy · 30/03/2011 15:29

I don't think that is appropriate viewing for a public waiting room. I wouldn't let my young child watch that video or that music video channel for that matter. If that makes people tutt and whinge at me so be it.

Quenelle · 30/03/2011 15:42

YANBU I don't think it's appropriate for a public waiting room either.

Once, when I was pregnant, I had to sit through Bargain Hunt in my GP's waiting room. I wish I'd had the guts to ask them to switch that off.

notsweatingthesmallstuff · 30/03/2011 15:42

Definitely not unreasonable. Its not unreasonable to try to protect your child from things that you think are unsuitable, thats what being a parent is about. And the more people try to protect kids from this sort of thing the better in my view. I dont know if its the age i have reached, but I am starting to think that Mary Whitehouse wasnt all wrong! I have tried to be a fairly liberal mum, but now I have a young granddaughter, I think maybe there are programmes and images around that will not benefit her or anybody else and that I would really rather she wasnt exposed to. So there.

orangeeyebrows · 30/03/2011 15:44

I might start asking them to remove any mags that have pics/stories of zelebs in them because I find them extremely offensive to intelligence

upahill · 30/03/2011 15:47

YABU and if I had been sat there I would have told the receptionist that I was watching that and don't be so bloody rude dictating what was on the tv because it doesn't suit you.

Deliainthemaking · 30/03/2011 15:48

tbh I dont think your DD would see a woman in some gaffa tape they way you

would probably think its a bit silly.