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To have asked the receptionist to switch off the Lady GaGa video...

215 replies

MooMooFarm · 30/03/2011 12:49

My DS is deeply embarrassed after a visit to the orthodontist. We were waiting in the reception, which had a music channel showing on a big screen - there were ten or so children/teens waiting for appointments. My v young DD was with us.

Anyway Lady GaGa came on with the video to 'Telephone' or whatever it's called. I've not watched it before but was a bit [shocked] at the video. When it got to the bit where she's wearing nothing but a bit of gaffer tape I (quietly) asked the receptionist if she would please switch it off as it wasn't appropriate viewing for my young daughter. It was quickly switched off without comment.

I then spent another five minutes being given snotty looks by other teens in the room and my DS is saying I need to 'stop being a grumpy old granny'.

AIBU?

OP posts:
FattyArbuckel · 31/03/2011 12:50

I liked the name because the idea of a famous person being called fatty is kind of odd - then I found out about the scandal afterwards. Do you think I should change names?

Animation · 31/03/2011 12:50

Mm I guess his name does have nasty associations - whether it's true or not.

FattyArbuckel · 31/03/2011 12:52

think you are right

grovel · 31/03/2011 12:53

jeeee is right. It is our duty to embarrass our children at regular intervals. It toughens them up.

Animation · 31/03/2011 12:53

Maybe you should change your name - I do like reading your posts actually, and usually find myself agreeing with you, but the name jares a bit.

FattyArbuckel · 31/03/2011 12:56

I will have a ponder

Animation · 31/03/2011 12:57
Smile
FattyArbuckel · 31/03/2011 12:57

nice how we can regenerate whenever we like kind of like Dr Who

Animation · 31/03/2011 13:00

If you change it how will we know its you?

weedle · 31/03/2011 13:03

Fatty Arbuckel - your name makes me think of a restaurant with a massive plate challenge. So I smile fondly at your name.

Just goes to show that everyone can have different connotations of the same thing...

thefirstMrsDeVere · 31/03/2011 13:03

Going off on a tangent a bit but,

He didnt do anything wrong. Seems a bit unfair to behave as if he did.

But of course ,up to you.

FattyAcid · 31/03/2011 13:05

thefirstMrsDeVere that was my thinking when I found out
weedle thanks!
Animation can you tell its me?

bonkers20 · 31/03/2011 13:09

Pretty sure I had to tick I was over 18 to watch the vid. on You Tube (wanted to see it before DS (aged 12) watched it). I didn't let him.
I wouldn't mind my 2 year old seeing it, he wouldn't get it, but I'd feel rather uncomfortable sitting in a waiting room with my 12 year old son watching that!
There's no need for it in the dentist really. Much better to read ancient copies of Good Housekeeping so he can get some new recipes to try.

Animation · 31/03/2011 13:10

FattyAcid!!!

Grin Wine
berlinnovels · 31/03/2011 13:11

I emailed Urban Outfitters once to complain about a branch playing a song which featured the line 'Bitch, you're breakfast' nearly the whole way through. I was 26 at the time, have no kids and was in a 'trendy' shop and still didn't think it was appropriate for the teenage girls in the shop to be exposed to the misogynist lyrics.

They wrote back within the hour to apologise and said they had used their non-edited CD by mistake and that the shops were normally issued with 'non-offensive lyrics' (radio) versions of songs. If UO, which is aimed almost exclusively at teenagers and youngish adults, can recognise that, why not the Body Shop/ a health practitioner?

BringBackGoingForGold · 31/03/2011 13:36

YANBU. I'm sick of seeing so many music videos that consist of nothing but women writhing around in no clothes, sticking their arses in the air and basically simulating sex (or availability). It's not just about protecting children, IMO; I'm thinking about complaining to my gym about the endless round of soft-porn videos they show while you're trying to exercise, and only grown-ups frequent my gym. It is depressing how images from the porn world have become so commonplace.

And as for your son, well, frankly, teenagers don't even need half an excuse to find their parents embarrassing.

I don't even feel the need to issue an 'I like sex and am not a prude, by the way' disclaimer.

ItsNotUnusual · 31/03/2011 13:40

FattyA(whatever) I think your whole comment is spot on esp the bolded bit:

freshtodeath a society which rewards female singers for gyrating in little clothing in an overtly sexual manner is a mysogynistic and oppressive society for women to live in. We don't say it is enough Rihanna to be a talented singer, we say pander to male fantasies of controlling you Rihanna so that however rich and talented and beautiful you may be you still want to be controlled my a man and are no threat to men. And please encourage other women to behave like this and to know their place.

I don't know too much about the Amish lifestyle but suspect that it too is controlling of women. So no, freshtodeath, I don't want to live the amish way either. There is another way to live where women can be respected and not just sexually objectified and controlled and worse still, brain washed to think that this is an expression of how free they are.

OP - YANBU and well done to your DS for coming to the same conclusion.

donnie · 31/03/2011 13:45

hear hear - I totally agree ItsnotUnusual.

Not unreasonable at all, OP. It is the people who expect to be drip fed soft porn crap wherever they are who are unreasonable (and also sad fuckwits to boot). They will be playing this misogynistic shite in public toilets soon I expect.

ChristinaEliopolis · 31/03/2011 13:49

Another YY to what Fatty A said.

I like Fatty Acid too Wink

ItsNotUnusual · 31/03/2011 13:58

I am also horrified to realise that the Rihanna video was playing on Saturday night at the after show party for my daughter's drama group. The music channels were on the big screen as background music. The party was in a held in a private room in a rugby club and it was late - after 10pm. The children were aged between 8 and 15. Admittedly it was late for them to be at a party. I've just watched the whole video on You Tube and I am fucking disgusted. At the time I only caught a snippet of it.

FattyAcid · 31/03/2011 14:09
Wine Wink
PaisleyLeaf · 31/03/2011 14:20

yanbu
I recently unplugged a violent gaming machine with a big screen in the family room of a pub. (No one was playing it anyway, it was just running demos).

ChristinaEliopolis · 31/03/2011 14:21

Wa-hay Fatty! Love your name! Really looks gorgeous! Wine Clink!

FattyAcid · 31/03/2011 15:09

Cheers Christina!

Paisleyleaf maybe we can start an underground UNPLUG campaign and pull the plug all around the country on inappropriate stuff Grin

Deliainthemaking · 31/03/2011 15:19

I think the sexualised message is wrong

but tbf she looks like a drag queen in gaffa tape, Many young girls wonr aspire to that tbh and thing Ooh she looks grown up and nice.she's probably be thinking what on earth??

Now if it was beyonce,Rhianna etc were talking about then I'm with you