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AIBU to be annoyed with mothers who can't be bothered to work?

395 replies

HellaH · 28/01/2011 10:46

Went to a baby playgroup the other day and met yet another mother who has handed in her notice just because she has had a baby.

Thanks a lot! Now when I will go looking for a job employers will think that I too will hand in my notice if I fall pregnant again and will probably take on a man instead of me.

Can't wait for men to get more parental leave, maybe it will equal things out a bit!

And surely with the flexible working hours law and such a woman CAN go back to work without silly excuses.

OP posts:
ValiumSandwichTime · 30/01/2011 16:49

yeah, breaking even doesn't leave much to pass on ¬

stropicana2011 · 30/01/2011 16:54
Biscuit

If you can why not? Until very recently I did not work. Why the bloody hell work if a) you don't want to and b0 you don't need to providing you or your partner pay the way.Hmm

gaelicsheep · 30/01/2011 17:01

How many times are we going to go over these same non-arguments? YAAAAWN.

mrsgetonwithit · 30/01/2011 17:04

The couple of people on this thread who believe all women should work......OP and someone beginning with x.

Would you work if you won £26,567,452 on the lottery?

Normantebbit · 30/01/2011 17:12

I think that's what Xenia earns p/a

mrsgetonwithit · 30/01/2011 17:15

Maybe she should think about getting a life then...lol.....or a hobby.

Xenia · 30/01/2011 17:42

I have a few hobbies.. when women have good careers they can afford to indulge them.

It's just very important women realise that when they rather than their husband give up that potential seat on the board to stay home they are not helping other women. If there is a choice let it be the man at home at least until women have consolidated their positions at 50% in terms of seats of power in the UK. We have a huge long way to go until then unles say one year 100% of equity partners at PWC were female and it were so un- notable that no one even commented on it.

Forcing this year teams to be 1 woman in 5 at Davos even, has been hard for some male dominated groups.

slightlymad72 · 30/01/2011 17:50

Why don't we all hire surrogates and wet nurses, that way we need never have time away from the board. Time off for pregnancy and delivery, for god sakes this is the 21st century surely us women would have realised by now that there is no need to have children by such archaic methods.

mrsgetonwithit · 30/01/2011 17:50

Quite frankly I am not bothered about what other women want or men.

I am interested in my family, my life and the harmony of it all.

I work 16 hours a week on a till and that is enough for me.

When I was asked to do a higher graded job I said

''oh no, I don't do responsibility in the workplace, I have responsibilities at home''

Who would take the pork chops out of the freezer if I did'nt?

If men want the high powered jobs let them have it, I would rather finish my four hour shift on the till and pick up my son and go swimming.

GMajor7 · 30/01/2011 18:08

I think Xenia wants to be a SAHM Smile

MadBanners · 30/01/2011 18:16

ooh, Xenia..I am really going to disappoint you!

I am just a nurse! A nurse who has handed in her notice to become just a housewife!

I clearly need to be beaten with a large wet fish repeatedly round the head, for choosing for myself I wanted to be a nurse, and not a surgeon. My right to choose was clearly misused by me! My years of training a waste, in fact the last nine years of my life a waste, for becoming just a nurse, despite it being what I wanted to do, despite having no desire to become a Doctor, I should have done so, I have let myself down, you down, and clearly the entire female population of the world down....oh dear.

Ah well. I am sure I will get over it.

I really do not care, that at the moment, you are not happy for women to have the choice to stay at home if they wish, that we have a moral duty to stick it out in jobs we do not like, or resent, as they are making our home life not workable.

I have a duty to my children, to provide them with a loving home, and happy parents, as opposed to tired, stressed parents, who feel that they barely see or speak to each other. I have a duty to make sure they grow up secure and happy, and one of the ways we have decided to do this, is to have one parent at home.

I am not sacrificing my family life, and my happiness, out of some sense of misplaced moral duty!

But then I suppose, it does not matter that I am resigning, after all, I was only a nurse, and in your view, I have already let the side down!

mrsgetonwithit · 30/01/2011 18:24

madbanners............shame on you Grin

slightlymad72 · 30/01/2011 18:27

madbanners you have contaminated the thread, go and disinfect yourself. UNCLEAN UNCLEAN!!! :)

Sillyoldme · 30/01/2011 18:30

I was going to write a well thought out answer pointing out how much of a STOOOPID post the OP is, but I shall just settle for "oh do piss off". So there you go.

buggerlugsandbananafeet · 30/01/2011 18:31

madbanners, that was so well said i think i love you.

jellybeans · 30/01/2011 18:34

Not everybody is as career driven. Some women prefer being home. Is it really a gain forcing people to be at work if they want to be with their children.

So it is purely that women have a moral duty to go back, not that the job they do as a SAHM is in itself rubbish?

What if there aren't as many managers in SOME cases because women don't want the jobs. Many of studies that say women prefer part time. Is it really a gain for our daughters to have NO choice? I don't think so.

hoovercraft · 30/01/2011 18:36

I work in a female dominated profession. My work environment is full of bitches, back stabbers, power hungry slags, kind people, underachievers, the brilliant, the envious, the driven. I dont owe anything to womankind. Each woman can sort themsleves out.

NoWayNoHow · 30/01/2011 18:39

Firstly, I always wanted to spend the first few years of my only child's life with him, if we could afford it, and DH agreed. It was far more important for him and us than making YOU happy is.

Secondly, have a Biscuit

mrsgetonwithit · 30/01/2011 18:40

Just to add I would rather work for a man any day.

Give some women a piece of power they turn into monsters.

hoovercraft · 30/01/2011 18:40

I hate working for women, totally agree

SpareRoomSleeper · 30/01/2011 19:03

What a self important and narrowminded OP!

I would much rather be at home with my 22 month old.

Oh, and I'm also too busy shagging to conceive DC2.

Grin
gaelicsheep · 30/01/2011 20:28

Totally agree mrsgeonwithit. The two worst bosses I've had have been women. Total cows.

bullet234 · 30/01/2011 21:12

"the right to be surgeons rather than nurses"

You do realise that if there were no nurses then the surgeons couldn't do their jobs, don't you? Hmm.

Xenia · 30/01/2011 22:29

Yes but I will rest when over 50% of leading surgeons are male and more nurses are male than female.....

Binfullofmaggotsonthe45 · 30/01/2011 22:34

Xenia I'm very curious to know what it is you do for a living, are you happy to share?

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