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AIBU to be annoyed with mothers who can't be bothered to work?

395 replies

HellaH · 28/01/2011 10:46

Went to a baby playgroup the other day and met yet another mother who has handed in her notice just because she has had a baby.

Thanks a lot! Now when I will go looking for a job employers will think that I too will hand in my notice if I fall pregnant again and will probably take on a man instead of me.

Can't wait for men to get more parental leave, maybe it will equal things out a bit!

And surely with the flexible working hours law and such a woman CAN go back to work without silly excuses.

OP posts:
galletti · 28/01/2011 10:54

Another Biscuit

skybluepearl · 28/01/2011 10:55

get over yourself. life isn't about work -family are far more important. she has decided to put her childs needs first and stay at home with him/her. what a good choice considering how formative the first few years are.

mamasmissionimpossible · 28/01/2011 10:56

I would love to comment, but I'm too busy eating Biscuit Biscuit :o

Fontsnob · 28/01/2011 10:56

When you go looking for a job?? Does that mean you don't have one now? What a ridiculous thing to worry about, it's nothing to do with you if someone decides to be a sahm. Bowing to this attitude is hardly the way to fight unfair employment practice!

DirtyMartini · 28/01/2011 10:56

YABAT

WincyEtNightie · 28/01/2011 10:57

Grin Dirty Martini

GMajor7 · 28/01/2011 10:58

Hehe - that's my riposte - YABAT - usually said with a dodgy feigned Russian accent and a dismissive flick of the hand!

TheSkiingGardener · 28/01/2011 10:58

YAAK

You Are A Knob

Maylee · 28/01/2011 10:58

If financially she is able top cope, then why not?

If, on the other hand, she is quitting and expects to live on benefits, then that's another argument

GetOrfMoiLand · 28/01/2011 10:59

OP - you are talking shite.

I am always changing jobs and I have never felt discriminated against because I am of childbearing age. And I work in a very male industry.

I am an absolute supporter of going back to work when your baby is young as I think it is a good thing to get back to work sharpish (for your career) and also think it is better to introduce a baby to childcare at, say, 6 months old as opposed to 10. But bloody hell that is my opinion and what worked for me, it is not written in stone.

Your views are very blinkered and judgemental.

sighnomore · 28/01/2011 10:59

So what? Each family is different, some women go back some don't. I did and enjoy my job, but would hand my notice in in an instant if we could afford it to be with my babies while they're young. Some of my friends work full time, some part time, some are at home, I don't give a thought to other Peoples lifestyle choices

Wise up

sevendwarves · 28/01/2011 10:59

Does the OP plan on coming back to explain her horrible opinions herself?

gordyslovesheep · 28/01/2011 11:00

but the more women can't be 'bothered' to work the more lovely jobs for the rest of us - yay Grin

seriously yabu!

WincyEtNightie · 28/01/2011 11:01

Well said GOML.

That could catch on too. YABBAJ

GlynistheMenace · 28/01/2011 11:01

yeah, so what?

loving that from sighnomore Grin

Overcooked · 28/01/2011 11:02

I'm with Maylee - if she is quitting becuase she can afford to then fine but if she is quitting so that I have to support her on benefits then that is not fine.

Flame me if you want I stand by it.

FranSanDisco · 28/01/2011 11:02

OP, silly argument!! YABU.

WurzelBoot · 28/01/2011 11:02

"Now when I will go looking for a job"

Why aren't you working now? Is it possible you have something important to do with your life that is delaying you starting work? Perhaps you're getting an education at the moment, or something else that you need to somehow schedule into your life.

"And surely with the flexible working hours law..."

The law is that you are allowed to request it. They are allowed to refuse for a valid business reason. If you can get truly flexible hours (i.e., I will work when I choose to, not when you do), you're very, very lucky. That kind of independence often comes from being freelance or self employed, both of which come with their own set of problems.

employers will think that I too will hand in my notice

Why would you assume that the employer you're seeking a job from knows the woman you met yesterday? There are loads of working Mums in society. Loads of us. The other working Mums I know are all exceptionally good at there jobs, and therefore valued by their employers.

I genuinely don't think this is what you really think. I suspect you popped on here with the intention of annoying Mums for no good reason. Nice.

Piggyleroux · 28/01/2011 11:03

First ever Biscuit

Twat.

animula · 28/01/2011 11:03

Yes, you are so right!

Do people not understand? Have people not read the Hitchhiker's Guide to the Galaxy? (Some people think it's fiction, but in fact it's a message from our creators, delivered in code, to be understood by the initiated.)

Earth was made as an experiment to find out the meaning of life. Now, in THGttG, the answer is, playfully, given as "42". Of course, that's a joke. As you have worked out, the meaning of life is ... work!

Yes, it is our sole function and raison d'être for being on this planet.

Those fools who do not realise this!!!

How can these women not understand that this is what they must do.

Work!!!

And anyone who says that there is something a little daft about worshipping at the altar of uninflected capitalism, and slaving away to make other people rich, and that, actually, there are other values is a FOOL!!!!

I think we should found a new religion, HellaH. There will be a Hell, filled with awful, mind-bending, X-rated punishments for those who do not see the light. And a purgatory, where people can work off their slacker-sins after death. Maybe a kind of Macdonalds?

Aloneinthehouse · 28/01/2011 11:03

I don't often say this

Sod Off and keep your beak out its got nothing to do with you

Maylee · 28/01/2011 11:04

Thanks, I stand by it too.

Ohforfoxsake · 28/01/2011 11:05

Yes, all employers will think that. Pesky women, continuing the human race with their breeding.

It is SO easy to find a job with all those flexible working hours. Tsk. Those who don't are just idle.

Honestly, us women have never had it so good.

Now, I must get back to This Morning. Geno might take his clothes off again.

gleechie · 28/01/2011 11:05

You sound a teeny bit jealous perhaps and very judgy, have a Biscuit and calm down. If it bothers you i suggest you look into yourself for why it does so much, it's none of your business quite frankly. Hmm

swanandduck · 28/01/2011 11:07

Yes, every woman no matter how much she can afford to and would like to stay at home with her children, should go back to work to facilitate people like you.

Anything else you'd like us all to do for you??

Also, news to me that SAHMs 'don't work'.