To wish people would just shut up about the amount of kids I have?

[AngelicaDemonica]

I'm pregnant with our fourth baby in four years (Been together 8) and I wonder why friends, family and aquaintences seem to think it's appropriate to constantly ask me and OH when we're going to get sterilised!

It's really beginning to grate my cheese tbh. We decided right from the start that we wanted a big family and although this baby will definarely be our last for quite a while I can't honesly say that it will be the last. Not to mention how I feel about being sterilised in the first place.

Where do people get off telling me in the middle of Iceland to get my tubes tied? Personally I find it's more of a reflection of themselvews. Like, they would never have a big family or kids so close together and can't imagine why we would so they just feel te need to spout off thoughless crap.

End rant lol

er...don't shop in Iceland

Dont worry about it my daughter has 5!!

Ages 10, 9, 3, 16 months and 10 weeks.

If I were in your shoes, and someone asked if I was getting sterilized, I'd laugh, and say "No way! Do you know how much kids will fetch on the blackmarket?!"
but then I'm an asshole like that!

lol Goodynuff I'm stealing that ;)

Next time ask them in return when they'll be getting their brain transplant - as they clearly need a new one. Or if they have missed out on their dose of good manners this month?

Cheeky feckers!

Next time ask them in return when they'll be getting their brain transplant - as they clearly need a new one. Or if they have missed out on their dose of good manners this month?

Cheeky feckers!

Damn double post lol

yeah do the goodynuff thing

that'll shut em up

As long as you can afford them it's no-ones business. If you were having kids on the tax payers money I could see why people would comment though.

How incredibly rude!

Come and live in my neighbourhood - having four kids close together is perfectly normal round here and nobody bats an eyelid.

How strange. I don't think I've ever met anyone as rude as that - poor you.

Agree with workhard, as long as you are financially supporting them with no assistance from tax payers then who cares. If tax payers are picking up the cost then yes people will comment.

My friend is having her third in three years. She gets a lot of comments about the telly not working in her house. Sigh. Congrats to you :)

It's odd, isn't it? If someone is having a baby and they are pleased about it, why wouldn't everyone else be pleased for them?

I have 3 DC from my first marriage who live with us, DH has 2 DC from his first marriage who don't live with us. We decided to have a baby last year, which no-one found odd at all (I suppose because we didn't have any DC together) but when we found out it was twins everyone seemed to think that was hilarious. Not sure why, we were overjoyed!

We lost the twins vry sadly, but I am pregnant again and I strongly feel I would like another baby after this one. I suspect I'll get plenty of comments then. I love the idea of a big family though and so do my DC. DH isn't quite so sure...

As long as you can pay for them all, then it's no one's business how many you have.

Oh I've met someone way ruder than that JoBettany!!

My mate has 6 kids...she is blonde and I must admit stunningly pretty (spits in jealous rage lol)

A mother in the school playground said to her "Six kids? OMG and you're so pretty too." When I asked her what she meant by that she said "Well I'm not being funny, but you expect the Munters to get knocked up six times but not the pretty ones"

Seriously though....when are you getting your tubes tied???

Incredibly rude.

I can't imagine any situation where it would be appropriate to drop sterilisation - especially somebody else's - into the conversation, to be honest

well if you were talking to me I would be insanely jealous and in awe

I have two but am so so broody at the mo

LOL mutznuts - some people eh...

Aw.. maybe they're just jealous of your lovely big family.
I reckon some people are just "commenters" - I am 38 and finally conceived after 10 years and 4 rounds of IVF at age 36. Strangers are always asking me when I'm having another. When I pleasantly say "Oh, one's enough", I am always responded to with... "Oh, i bet you'll have another/wait and see/oh but he wants a brother or sister" or similar.

You're so right, OP, it's no one else's business, and I think your family sounds lovely

(Also - at "grate my cheese")

Cheeky gets!! It's none of their business!!

I have two dds one aged 8 (from previous relationship) and one 3months. I can't wait to have a few more, counting down till may/june when we can start trying again!!!

My MIL has 9 aged 21, 19, 17, 14, 13, 12, 11, 7 and 6.

The 14 and 13 year olds have only 11 months between them and the 13 and 12 year olds have 1 year and 1 day between them.

When I had my ds she was constantly saying how broody it made her and she was thinking about number 10!

Nobody dares say anything to her for fear they will be mobbed by the hoardes of children I think.

workhard and others, I take it you do not receive child benefit?

So people who do well paid jobs can have lots of kids but those who work hard but with only minimum wage can't? Even if they make wonderful parents?

OK rant over, sorry OP for taking over thread. I'm as I would love 4