To wish people would just shut up about the amount of kids I have?

[AngelicaDemonica]

I'm pregnant with our fourth baby in four years (Been together 8) and I wonder why friends, family and aquaintences seem to think it's appropriate to constantly ask me and OH when we're going to get sterilised!

It's really beginning to grate my cheese tbh. We decided right from the start that we wanted a big family and although this baby will definarely be our last for quite a while I can't honesly say that it will be the last. Not to mention how I feel about being sterilised in the first place.

Where do people get off telling me in the middle of Iceland to get my tubes tied? Personally I find it's more of a reflection of themselvews. Like, they would never have a big family or kids so close together and can't imagine why we would so they just feel te need to spout off thoughless crap.

End rant lol

tryingtoleave- I'm not saying it's not hard but hellish is definately not the right word. I have a very busy and active life that has real meaning for me. That said, at the moment OH is taking the eldest to nursery and the boys are both napping so it's quiet time for Mummy brews coffee

Night time is just for us caue they go to bed at 7. I really don't feel anyone misses out o anything to be honest. They all get time with us both individually and every day.

Imarriedafrog- turns out it was my friend trying to be a funny fucker. The very person who referred me here in the first place lol

And I would also like to thank everyone who has left positive comments. Your families are all lucky to have you to look up to for examples of how to be :)

OMG angelica why would somebody write such horrible things to you. And what a fucking coward sending a message instead of even writing it here. Twat

Oh x post. A joke? WTF!

I know... she's well and truly on the naughty step!

So sorry you get the message about your spelling, I feel sad for their kids if they are not perfect in everything at school.

Good Luck and enjoy the gift of new life

MW called today- I'm being offered an extra scan cause it's a home birth! Awesomness! saves me havibg to pay for a $D one :)

*4D

To the person who sent angelica a PM - can you spell CUNT, sorry ladies, but that had to be said

how times and birth rates have changed. a couple of generations ago and having anything less than 4 would have been rather unusual.

that said, we can't sustain everyone having that many kids. then again, we all do some stuff that is pretty selfish / using more than our fair share. i'll trade you the kids i haven't had if you can swap me the overseas holidays you can't afford. how's that for a bit of carbon trading?

Angelica, it was a joke, about the food. I posted before I saw what flack you were getting. Sorry, it was in haste.

As for the poster who pmd you, you should report them to MNHQ. It is blatant abuse of the pm functionality. There is also an option to block them.

LOL brightlightsandpromises I found out it was my friend. She thought she was being a funny bitch. She knows fine well I'm visually impaired and was trying to wind me up. PS- mission accomplished. I am so PMing what you said back to her though! :)

QuintessentialShadows- OK tis cool. I had no idea that Iceland was so vehmently boycotted on MN lol

kelper, how do you know the OP can't afford overseas holidays!!

Doesn't Xenia have five children? Didn't she pop them all out rather quickly at a young age? Isn't she like, the richest person on mumsnet, if not the world?

oh, anglelica - you must have a good sense of humour! would you like to borrow my wet salmon to twat her round the head with :)

its funny, you just happened to type iceland, had you typed waitrose, this thread might have been completely different!

Congratulations Angelica. Some people should be ashamed of themselves.

I'd be more offended by being in Iceland

Some people are nosey, some people are clumsy, some people are Not Very Good At Making Small Talk. Everyone can have a bad day. But to ask you when you're getting sterilised is just beyond fucking rude, frankly. Good luck with no. 4!

Oh and best of luck. I never comment on how many kids people have. Each to their own. I think people feel they can say more in general to pregnant women so I guess this goes along with that. Silly people.

Tryingtoleave Just because you couldnt cope with more kids doesnt automatically mean that no one else should be able to either! If you are struggling with 2 then you need to look at what you can do to make things better and give them more time than spend some of that time on here slagging someone off for being able to do something you cant!

I am having number 6 atm, do you want to make assumptions about me and my dh and slag us off for being organised and able to cope?!

I have to confess to having thought that someone probably ought to get her tubes tied. But good lord I wouldn't have said as much.

Some people always feel the need to comment on what I think are very personal decisions. You get asked about your big family, I'm always expected to justify why I have 'only one child' - nosy feckers, the lot of them

Tryingtoleave would hate it in my house! We have 5 under 5 (5,4,4,3,3 months)! However, 2 of these are my SS's but I have them all the time (still get comments though!), they've only seen their 'mother' 4 hours in the past 12 months. Now thats someone who should be sterilised (5 kids with 3 dads, all living with their dads).

fluffygal- ouch! It's good that they have you for a bit of stability!

brightlightsandpromises LOl @ wet salmon. And I'm very new to this board (Yesterday I joined) so I guess it's my own fault for thinking that there wouldm't be any snobby buggers around rollin their eyes at where I buy my kids' breakfast. I guess IBU to shop at anywhere other than Waitrose (Which we do't have in Sctland anyway) or M&S lol.