To wish people would just shut up about the amount of kids I have?

[AngelicaDemonica]

I'm pregnant with our fourth baby in four years (Been together 8) and I wonder why friends, family and aquaintences seem to think it's appropriate to constantly ask me and OH when we're going to get sterilised!

It's really beginning to grate my cheese tbh. We decided right from the start that we wanted a big family and although this baby will definarely be our last for quite a while I can't honesly say that it will be the last. Not to mention how I feel about being sterilised in the first place.

Where do people get off telling me in the middle of Iceland to get my tubes tied? Personally I find it's more of a reflection of themselvews. Like, they would never have a big family or kids so close together and can't imagine why we would so they just feel te need to spout off thoughless crap.

End rant lol

Angelica, I nip in there sometimes too as they can have good deals on bread and some cupboard bits and bobs. As you said, having a large family means you are just sensible with money. I personally think that anyone who will happily spend £1 more than they need to on an identical box of cereal just so they dont have to go in a "chav" shop then more fool them!

Who decided that Iceland was a benefits scroungers shop anyway?!

I though you were new as you didn't explain in the op that you weren't on any benefits. I read it when you posted it and though god help her if she reveals she claims anything other than child benefit. People really spit some bile about benefits round here.

You musn't shop in Iceland, Asda, buy Greggs sausage rolls or give your kids fruit shoots. People frequently get told off about their spelling. Mumsnet has a lot of snobby buggers.

Wow, what a shockingly judgmental thread. I must remember that I have the right to query anyone's procreational habits if their is the slightest chance they might claim a benefit. Tis my right as a tax payer obviously, they must answer to me.

I dont go to Greggs as I dont like pastries and pasties, but where does an UberMummy go for her pastry based snacks? Does Waitrose have a "Pasty Van"?

four in four years??

WHere is the "hard as nails" emoticon?

Angelica, i come and go onto this board, mostlyi get a bee in my bonnet and leave because of the snobbery! But there are some lovely ladies on here who offer some genuine advice or who can be funny and entertaining without doing so at other's expense

See, i steal grapes from supermarkets and don't care who knows it!

YANBU to be annoyed OP. Jokes about your telly being broken are one thing but for someone to ask when you're having your tubes tied is out of order.

As for people arguing now about whether it's acceptable to have a large family based on whether the large family are taxpayers or not should get over it. Really. Why get worked up about how much child benefit/ CTC a family may or may not be claiming? You can't control it can you?

Once upon a time when people met someone with a new baby they'd ask "is he/she good?" (whatever that means.) Or "how much he/she weigh?" "Long labour was it?" But now it seems it's gonna be "you a taxpayer?" "What you claiming?" I always thought it was rude to talk about other peoples' financial situation.....

Yes I didn't get the Iceland thing either, I wouldn't buy everything there but they have a few odd bits I ocassionally go for and I also like Aldi for that matter. Tut tut to all the supermarket snobs

ImarriedafrogI think people get too touchy about subjects and just go on a tangent sometimes without all the info.

Personally I try not to judge a book by its cover from personal experience. Someone very close to me was a teen mother and used to face a lot of stereotyping from people who didn't know her. Such as the dad not being around and the idea that she must be sitting in a sink estate somewhere on benefits. She even used to get dirty looks on the bus when out with her baby

In actual fact she used to work damn hard and has never been unemployed, has been with her partner for well over a decade, they now have three kids and are still very much in love. And she has never claimed benefit on principle as she felt her partner and herself were able to provide without it (not that you shouldn't if you need it).

People like to stereotype.

There are two Waitroses in Scotland. I've been in neither.

I'm surprised that you haven't been lambasted for using 'amount of children' and for buying cheerios - I assumed that's why the thread was so long...

MNetters are a fickle lot

It drives me nuts too, when i am out with the double and my eldest walkig, strangers love to tell me either i am mad or have my hands full.

Well actually i love the three i have and am planning more, also yes i am mad, but thats another story lol

My family are always shocked when i am pregnant again, even though i always said i wanted a big family.

I have not had the time to read the whole thread so pleaseforgive me if I say something that has already been said.

If you are working and able to support your children then no-one has the right to judge your choices in life.

However, my next door neighbours have 4 children under the age of four. Neither are working and will freely admit that they prefer to stay on benefits especially as their benefits increase every time they have a new baby.

In this instance I think they are being unreasonable and that taxpayers have the right to comment on a situation that they are paying for.