To wish people would just shut up about the amount of kids I have?

[AngelicaDemonica]

I'm pregnant with our fourth baby in four years (Been together 8) and I wonder why friends, family and aquaintences seem to think it's appropriate to constantly ask me and OH when we're going to get sterilised!

It's really beginning to grate my cheese tbh. We decided right from the start that we wanted a big family and although this baby will definarely be our last for quite a while I can't honesly say that it will be the last. Not to mention how I feel about being sterilised in the first place.

Where do people get off telling me in the middle of Iceland to get my tubes tied? Personally I find it's more of a reflection of themselvews. Like, they would never have a big family or kids so close together and can't imagine why we would so they just feel te need to spout off thoughless crap.

End rant lol

it is totally attention seeking though to have them so close!

Iget this - it's annoying but ignore it. People just don't think. I also got asked how could I not know I was preg with dd until 5 months. Just gave the full explaination - bf on demand. Stops them in their tracks & then you can comment on the weather :)

It's reassuring to know that others have had or have known others who've hada bigger family close together.

Our main reason for wanting them so close is so they can grow up together and because tey'll be at school together. Also, by the time I hit 30 the fourth will be at nursery and I'll be able toncerntrate more on "me" stuff without feeling that I've neglected my maternal side (Which has been really string since childhood.)

Also, OH is an only child and hated it.

Yes eagleswings we do but every penny of it is in a savings account in our DS name for him to fund college or university fees.

I don't think you're being unreasonable, I can see how that would be really aggravating. On the upside people are just making conversation, and trying to be funny probably, so it's there's no harm meant. But still, I gets old quick.

My older sister has 5, and I have 2, and people constantly ask me if I'm going to have as many as my sister, which is also aggravating.

It's pretty bloody rude to comment on other people personal choices I think, but anything that's not the 'norm' will get people going, what can I say, we live in a world of normaloids.

My sister also gets tired of people asking if they are all her husbands, lol, so now if they ask she says 'I have 5, all his, all mine' to cut to the chase, ha.

Well, I'm too! I always wanted a big family but that was before exH b*ggered off!

really?! they say that to you?! wow how rude! i am just

Its unbelievable really

They don't think - just like when they ask why we've got such a big gap.

@ Iceland!

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@ Iceland..

I had 4 in 4 years and have 5 all together. The youngest is 6 now and we still get asked if we're having any more.I normally just answer with 'No! Are you?'. Funny how quickly people change the subject.
As for being asked if we have got a telly yet........
I haven't committed murder...yet!

bloody hell! i struggle with two!

you ladies with more have my admiration!

OP It depends on whether you or your OH work to support your children or rely on the taxpayer? other posters have asked the question and it seems you have not answered?

Good for you, tell them to mind their own business. Enjoy your lovely large family

They actually ask when you're going to be sterilised?! how rude!
I would probably ask them when they are going to get some bloody manners!

Just say you're aiming to take the Duggar's record

fishtank - perhaps she has risen above it. What, do you assuem because she shops in iceland that she is on benefits, or is it that all people with more than 2.4 children must be sponging off the state.

WTF has it to do with you what her financial status is, go back to reading the dailymail wont you dear

OP my friend had four unplanned children under four, she was, and is an uber mummy - her boys, all boys!! are the most well mannered young men now a real credit to her, personally, i think you are mad as i struggled with one at a time, to the extent that we had a 15 year gap! lol

Someone actually said that to me when I was only expecting number 2.

We now have 6 (so far...)

The tv thing.....people genuinely seem to think they are being hilarious and original yawn

Congrats to you on your lovely family :o

I have 5, always got this type of thing, still do.

Mine are 9,7,3,2 & 1

Most annoying comment was "don't you have a telly?"

I started replying "yes it's on my bedroom wall"

Nosey feckers.

And congrats btw!

People are probably just trying to make conversation beyond the inane superficial 'oh lovely'.

I'm sure we all make unintentional crass comments in our daily clumsy attempts to converse. MN's threads would seem to suggest this anyway.

I think it is quite rude to ask if the OP is getting benefits. Are you suggesting that people who have large families and are on benefits have children to gain the benefits?Or is it just that they might be using some of the tax pounds? How about considering that these children will most likely be paying taxes later on, and also be providing for the needs of the older population?One of them might turn out to be the nurse who cares for you in your nursing home.

I have 5 kids.Very spread out - ages 19 down to 2. And really hoping for another. And no, I'm not on benefits, I live in Australia and my DH works, as did I until this last baby.

I have had many, many rude comments, especially from men, who, I think are actually a bit at the large family and/or the amount of sex it suggests we must have! My latest response to the comment about the telly, is that we do have one but don't have time to watch it because we are always at it like rabbits. That shuts them up pretty quickly.

It's your personal choice. Enjoy your family, they grow up too fast!

Yes, if they know you're having all your children for the taxpayer to pay for, ie you're on benefits, they're going to comment, obviously. I would say that's quite natural. Otherwise it's really ever so rude.