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To think this doesn't constitute 'Sunday lunch'

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Doobies · 28/11/2010 21:21

I probably am but am so starving hungry and pissed off I don't care....

Myself, dh and ds eight months visited dh's brother and his wife today. They normally come to us as they have been renovating their house (it's all completed now) and I always cook a Sunday roast. They live a good hour and half drive away so I think its appropriate to have a nice meal ready for them.

Anyway, they invited us over and said they would cook Sunday lunch which I assumed would be a roast dinner type of thing and ds could pick bits of it. It took us two hours to get there and when we arrived finally at three this is what was waiting for us:

2 mini quiches between the four adults

A bowl of bagged salad leaves

Four slices of ham and four sticks of cheese

A French stick

And, I kid you not, a turkey burger thing cut into four pieces.

There was nothing there that ds could eat because he has a dairy intolerance.

I could have cried. I was sooooo hungry and there was barely enough to go round. Am I expecting too much? They have invited us again in a month but I don't think I can bear it....

Tell me to get a life. I think I have low blood sugar....

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gapbear · 28/11/2010 21:24

YADNBU

Jeez, they sound odd. I could happily trough that little lot all on my own. Although that possibly says as much about me as your bizarre in-laws... Blush

parakeet · 28/11/2010 21:26

Get a life you ingrate.

If your son has a dairy intolerance you should have checked what they'd be serving beforehand. And couldn't you have asked them for some extra bread for him?

masochismTangoer · 28/11/2010 21:27

There was nothing there that ds could eat because he has a dairy intolerance.

If they knew that - why on earth did they not cater for it or explain that they could not so you could bring food.

Very rude - could of least of warned you what they had planned.

Fernie3 · 28/11/2010 21:29

It is odd maybe they forgot you were coming?

kreecherlivesupstairs · 28/11/2010 21:29

I am so hungry at the moment, I would have eaten that lot in three bites.
I do agree with parakeet, you should have checked that there would have been something for DS, but YADNBU to think it doesn't constitute a proper Sunday lunch.

WhereYouLeftIt · 28/11/2010 21:29

Well, did you say anything to them as they served this up?

hocuspontas · 28/11/2010 21:29

To be fair not everyone has a roast for Sunday lunch. But agree there didn't seem a lot to go round.

KangarooCaught · 28/11/2010 21:29

Weird - did they not twig?

DuelingFanio · 28/11/2010 21:31

SOunds ok to me to be honest.

MistsAndMellow · 28/11/2010 21:31

Horrified at quartered turkey burger "thing" Shock as well as the rest of it.

YANBU, the Bear nutters.

MisSalLaneous · 28/11/2010 21:32

Sounds odd. Could they by any chance have forgotten about it?

We once invited friends to join us for the day and lunch whilst camping, and somehow crossed wires (our mistake) as to whether we'd have lunch together before we left home. As we thought we'd just meet for a nice afternoon together, we thought we'd not bother with food at all and have breakfasts and early dinners at the pub when alone. We realised our mistake too late and there was no time to get anything, so we could only offer them one cup of coffee each and some bread and cheese! To this day, no-one has mentioned anything and we're still great friends, but they must have wondered what on earth was up with us.

Maybe give them another try, but take some provisions for an impromptu picnic along the way home in case. Ds don't have to know - you could just pretend you are uber cool parents living an exciting life! Wink

southeastastra · 28/11/2010 21:32

dear lord

Trebuchet · 28/11/2010 21:33

yanbu esspecially as you've been cooking for them. I'd be embarrassed serving that up

maktaitai · 28/11/2010 21:33

I have to say, a lot of people without children or whose children have grown up are absolutely clueless about feeding small ones, I know I was (and possibly still am).

Don't really see why your ds couldn't have had some ham and French bread?

Possibly they are hinting that they don't like eating huge meals when they come to yours?

But yes, YADNBU, that wasn't enough.

MoonUnitAlpha · 28/11/2010 21:33

YANBU - that is very odd!

Half a mini quiche, a slice of ham, a stick of cheese and some bread is a summer lunch for a toddler, not a winter Sunday lunch for a fully grown adult.

SparkleSoiree · 28/11/2010 21:34

The first thing that came to my mind was that they may be seriously short of money!

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Doobies · 28/11/2010 21:35

To be fair, it didn't really matter about ds because I bf him anyway. I just feel fucked off because whenever they've been to our house I've told them that I'm making Sunday lunch which is always a roast dinner so when they said the same to us we assumed it would be a roast too iyswim.

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MisSalLaneous · 28/11/2010 21:35

Everything in there sounds like fridge back-ups, I'm convinced they must have forgotten and didn't know how to own up.

FakePlasticTrees · 28/11/2010 21:35

Maybe next time suggest eating out?

MaureenMLove · 28/11/2010 21:35

Oh, I feel your pain!

MIL always does a buffet style lunch, which is perfectly fine, that's what they like to eat and we have been going there for 20 years, so we make sure we have big breakfast and something easily cooked when we get home, in case of emergency!

However, she choses the oddest things to put together! Like goats cheese flan and Findas pancakes! Hmm

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Doobies · 28/11/2010 21:36

Sparkle they are not short of money. The grub was from M + S no less.

Good quality just not enough of it....

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magicmummy1 · 28/11/2010 21:37

I have had similar served up by a friend - didn't really bother me tbh. I went to see her and her family, not for the food!

Greythorne · 28/11/2010 21:38

I think YAB a bit Unreasonable.

Lots of people (read us) don't ever eat a traditional roast on Sunday, so you can't expect to eat exactly what you would have at home.

Also, you need to have a back up plan for your DS at all times. People might serve stuff that even if you're doing BLW would just not be suitable for an 8 month old.... Anything with nuts for example or even honey roast parsnips or Thai Green curry. Best to have breadsticks or bread, fruit, vegetable batons (cucumber / pepper) to hand in case of emergency / delays for your DS. When travelling, I would cook a handful of tortellini for the DC as they can be eaten cold, are portable and not too messy.

But it does sound like overall there was not much food to go round and they had not made much effort. So I would be a bit ticked off, too.

Lougle · 28/11/2010 21:38

DH, myself, and my 3 children went to have Boxing Day dinner with the in-laws, DH's brother and an uncle last year. They used left-overs from the day before. Not a big issue, really.

But, the potatoes were dished up and they had forgotten about the 3 girls. I had to ask if there were any spare.

The vegetables amounted to 1 tbsp of sweetcorn each, and 1 and a half brussel sprouts for the adults, with only half a brussel sprout for the children!!

Tiny portion of meat.

It was shocking. I had to put my hand up to my chin to keep my jaw in place.

6 adults, 3 children and 11 brussel sprouts!!

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Doobies · 28/11/2010 21:43

They had been to M+S that morning to get the food in. It's not really the food but the principal of it. We live in Woodford in Essex and they live in surrey and they know it can take ages to get there with the traffic.

I was really disappointed

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