To think this doesn't constitute 'Sunday lunch'

[Doobies]

I probably am but am so starving hungry and pissed off I don't care....

Myself, dh and ds eight months visited dh's brother and his wife today. They normally come to us as they have been renovating their house (it's all completed now) and I always cook a Sunday roast. They live a good hour and half drive away so I think its appropriate to have a nice meal ready for them.

Anyway, they invited us over and said they would cook Sunday lunch which I assumed would be a roast dinner type of thing and ds could pick bits of it. It took us two hours to get there and when we arrived finally at three this is what was waiting for us:

2 mini quiches between the four adults

A bowl of bagged salad leaves

Four slices of ham and four sticks of cheese

A French stick

And, I kid you not, a turkey burger thing cut into four pieces.

There was nothing there that ds could eat because he has a dairy intolerance.

I could have cried. I was sooooo hungry and there was barely enough to go round. Am I expecting too much? They have invited us again in a month but I don't think I can bear it....

Tell me to get a life. I think I have low blood sugar....

"Lunch" is a light meal. "Sunday lunch" is a roast.

OH I didnt realise that you left home at 1pm and got there at 3pm!!
That changes things!

Quite reasonable to assume that you'd had a snack/sandwich before you left and that seeing as you would be eating at 3.30pm ish when you arrived there that you'd be happy with a smaller buffet style meal tbh

So did they say anything at the time re size ?

4 slices ham /cheese total YANBU
Each YABU

"Lunch" is a light meal. "Sunday lunch" is a roast.

Not to me it aint. If I have a roast it will be much later in the day, I'd never make it for lunch time. Maybe it's in English thing that you like having your main meal so early.

It's like Christmas Dinner - have noticed a lot of english people arrange it for mid dayish. We would never sit down to Christmas dinner any earlier then 3pm, or maybe that is just our family tradition, though Dh's family were the same.

Greythorne As long as I'm not in danger of poisoning DD then, thought I was doing untold damage to her!

OP - YANBU. I'd scoff that lot waiting for my dinner!

Could it be a regional thing. When we were little we had some friends who had recently moved down south from Lancahsire. They invited our family for Sunday tea. My mum assumed this was a tea and cake affair so we had Sunday lunch as usual and then arrived at their's to have another full roast!

Similar confusion wit the same friends when my Mum invited them for supper, which left them very bemused at the thought of going to someone's house for cocoa and a biscuit before bed!!

To refer back to the OP and why her DC couldn't eat anything - ham and bread often have milk in.

My DD is lactose intolerant. Despite always discussing food before she goes anywhere, friends have still managed to feed her a dairy free birthday cake sandwiched with whipped cream, chocolate coins and home made pancakes made with normal milk. That annoys me.

Greythorne - my DCs were BLWed and I didn't give them my (entirely natural made from scratch ) TGC because it is way too spicy. Proper TGC is hot. I did give them milder curries, and I also gave them a tiny bit of TGC with lots of extra coconut milk. (I didn';t know that about the laxative effect!)

Forgot to say - I think you lots who are going on about portion sizes are probably heifers.

What's wrong with that? :o

"I think you lots who are going on about portion sizes are probably heifers."

MOOOOOOOOOO!

YANBU - since when did lunch have to be a roast. And if you have a baby and go anywhere withiut having a stock of emergency food for him you are crazy unrealistic.

OP is breast feeding, enough said I reckon. I was starving all the time when bf, would have been seriously hacked off (and frequently was) now really couldn't care less what people serve .

Have to say would have had supplies for 8m old though

Sunday lunch in England is generally expected to be a roast. Sunday lunch is traditionally eaten lunchtime - about three-ish. Of course there are family and maybe regional variations but stop anyone in the street and ask and that's the answer you'd get.

Sunday lunch has this definition for older people but I would say that for the young it doesn't really.

I don't know anyone of my generation who cooks a roast for Sunday lunch.

I must be ancient then! :o

Is that because your generation can't cook?

"Sunday lunch has this definition for older people but I would say that for the young it doesn't really."

yes lots of my gen can't cook!

Doobies your thread has made me hungry! You should have seen what I put on my plate at the carvery the other day after reading this thread. Then, with all the suggestions that they could have easily provided a load of jacket spuds, today I felt the urge to do a large tray of baked potatoes with 3 different toppings. DP came home, looked at me strange and sarcastically asked if I was sure I'd cooked enough potato.

How old are you Fatty? I dont think I'm particularly old and I'm a crap cook but even I can do a roast and so do most people I know. Try going to a pub about 1pm on a Sunday and have a look around you at what everyone is eating.

I think Doobies and I are secretly related because this is exactly what my brother and sister-in-law always do to us! We always end up pigging out at McD's on the way home (2hour drive) out of desperation!

I am not young but I went to a very academic school where they scorned the very idea of cookery lessons. The ethos was that "cooking was for women who were not able to be academic achievers". Clearly dangerously bonkers ideology - but it did result in a lot of women who are clueless in the kitchen and have no idea how to clean a house.

I honestly know nobody at all who has a regular Sunday roast at lunchtime other than from my parents' generation.

Nobody I know goes for a Sunday lunch at the pub either. What is the demographic for Sunday lunch pub eaters? Are these not mainly old people?

I am under 30 and can cook a lip smacking, coma inducing, prize winning roast.
You don't have to be old to be able to cook, and you don't have to have formal lessons to learn how to cook.
I've learnt most things from reading cookery books or watching my nanna.
If you want to do it, you will do it from your own accord.

FattyA, its always mixed, completely mixed ages at Sunday pub lunches, its on a Friday the oldies all come out and have their fish supper, well round here they do