To think this doesn't constitute 'Sunday lunch'

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I probably am but am so starving hungry and pissed off I don't care....

Myself, dh and ds eight months visited dh's brother and his wife today. They normally come to us as they have been renovating their house (it's all completed now) and I always cook a Sunday roast. They live a good hour and half drive away so I think its appropriate to have a nice meal ready for them.

Anyway, they invited us over and said they would cook Sunday lunch which I assumed would be a roast dinner type of thing and ds could pick bits of it. It took us two hours to get there and when we arrived finally at three this is what was waiting for us:

2 mini quiches between the four adults

A bowl of bagged salad leaves

Four slices of ham and four sticks of cheese

A French stick

And, I kid you not, a turkey burger thing cut into four pieces.

There was nothing there that ds could eat because he has a dairy intolerance.

I could have cried. I was sooooo hungry and there was barely enough to go round. Am I expecting too much? They have invited us again in a month but I don't think I can bear it....

Tell me to get a life. I think I have low blood sugar....

maybe they are showing you what THEY like to eat, maybe they don't enjoy your heavy roasts? trying to be healthy? hinting that you should be getting rid of the baby weight by now? whatever, its a tad rude and unwelcoming to serve mean portions, i think!

sod em get chips on way home!!

but i agree, i always had a wee snack for ds whenever we went ANYWHERE - rice cakes, bananas, raisins, breadsticks, cheerios, that kind of thing in a little tupperware box that fitted into my handbag. Even more important if your child has an allergy or intolerance to be prepared?. Glad you could bf him to keep him happy this time.

Well, i am sure that when my children were only 8 months old I would have taken their food with me - and they didn't have any intolerances. I don't think its unreasonable for them not to have catered for your baby, particularly if they don't have kids.
As for the rest, ok i would say for a lunch, though granted not overly generous - was there anything for dessert/pud? How big were the quiches?

Erm... where does OP says her son has dairy intolerance?

And as others have said, Sunday lunch doesn't have to mean big hunk of meat!
i have entertained with quiche and salad for sunday lunch before- never occured to me that people would expect roast! (though to be fair I did also serve potatoes and a pudding so i don't think they went hungry!)

erm...in the OP!!

So each person would get half a mini quiche, one slice of ham, one stick of cheese and a quarter of turkey burger? And some lettuce?

YADNBU.

Come on, that is odd, in the normal way of things that is not acceptable for a lunch for 4 adults, Sunday or not. And as for the apologists saying it's their way of disapproving of your heavy lunches, what bollocks! Presumably they're willing enough to tuck in when they come to you?

I'd have said sorry we're interrupting your lunch. We'll go and get something ourselves. Have the kettle on in an hour.

Ha, ha - my husband and I once drove similar distance to see friend and his wife, brought flowers and wine and they opened a packet of crisps and some cheese . It was a Sunday lunchtime. My dad still gets grumpy at memory of visiting once of my mother's relatives 35 years ago and having one trout between the four of them...

Oooh... i see it now... sorry.... too much wine

Its not compulsory to have a roast on a Sunday

toomuchmonth - a properly cooked roast dinner with plenty of vegetables is much healthier than quiche, cheese and turkey burger!

YANBU OP - I would have laughed I think.

Still think YANBU.... you cooked em sunday bloody lunch for how many weeks on the trot? They know what Sunday lunch means. Or did they leave your generous offerings when they came to you?

Are they very skinny?

I think it's the disappointment rather than the food. And I do understand - I get cross beyond all proportion when we go to someone's and for some reason I have it my head that the food will be nice, and then it's shit.

Are they both very thin?

YABU to expect a roast but YANBU to be disappointed with what you got as it does not sound like a decent meal.

Not compulsory to have a roast, but if you invite people to lunch then you have to provide a proper meal! A big bowl of pasta and some salad would have been ok.

They are skinny. They are clearly not goodies like me and dh.

It's all becoming very clear....

Foodies not goodies. Bloody iPad.

well next time they come to you, give em pom bears!

It's not the fact that it wasn't a roast, although salad and quiche isn't my idea of a winter meal. But it's common courtesy to make sure that your guests are well provided for, surely? I would be mortified if anyone left my house with their guts rumbling.

Oh, come on- one burger cut in four??????

How can anyone here deny that this is beyond strange?

Sounds like quite a lot to me.

I wouldn't eat quiche and ham and cheese and odd turkey burger.

Maybe they eat a big meal at night so that is a big lunch for them.

If I'm having people over for Sunday lunch them I would make more than that but it doesn't sound like a bad lunch.

Lougle, Lol! How did you not laugh?

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