To be upset with FIL

[mosschops30]

IL's have the 2 dcs once a week for me to work. I am very grateful for this, always take them and pick them up on time, always say thank you for having them and dont really ask for any extra childcare (or very rarely).

Yesterday I picked up dcs and asked if they could do 2 days next week because I am taking my mum to see a show for her birthday. I am doing it in the shortest time possible (driving 3 hours to mums, then an hour to show, then staying over, then driving mum back home, then 3 hours home for me). They said ok.

Then this morning I had a txt saying 'you will have to find someone else for next week, please dont take us for granted in future'

I was initially really cross, but am now just upset that this txt will now cause bad feeling between us. DH has spoken to FIL and FIL says they love having the dcs but they didnt like that I had planned something and then asked them, if I had asked them before and then planned it they would be ok with it

So now I dont think I can take my mum away next week, not because the IL's are doing anything, but just because I didnt ask them the right way round!

your mother has cancelled, she can';t get a babysitter for teh cat?

Peter Kaye has cancelled as he can;t get a babysitter?

Oh - they are free now, after all. If it was me, I'd say 'Thanks, but I've already made other arrangements' - but then, I told you, I'm like that!! :)

FIL apologised.

FIL admitted to being drunk when sent text.

FIL had been having a laugh.

Has no one guessed yet? Do we still have to keep going?

no one has got it so far

put us out of our misery (I was sooo sure my PK one was right!)

FIL has been posting on AIBU?

You've been asked to work.

Peter Kay may well not have a babysitter for next week!!

I have just looked at my tickets (to see if I could get there by train later on in the day) and he is actually on 5th October 2011

NOT 2010

aaah my only defence is my blonde hair . My mum is gutted

Does that give your ILs enough notice then? Oh dear. Your poor Mum.

pmsl (sorry for your mum though) at least you can give PIL plenty of notice.

If you want to be very sneaky you could claimed to have cancelled (let FIl wonder if it was their refusal but don;t say so... evil )

Yes very funny , but for my mum who has just said she was sooo looking forward to the girlie break.

Never mind we have a whole year to prepare now, at least that leaves lots of time to ask to IL's and we may even include some shopping next time

Sorry mosschops30 I wanted to post earlier, but didn't, wish I had now only to say that we also have tickets for 5.10.11 are you sure it's next week????... could have saved 7 pages of replies!

At least IL's have a bit more notice now!

I feel your pain. I was browsing internet and noticed Peter Kay tickets on sale (think beginning of this year, maybe even end of 2009) I quickly snapped them up (and haven't yet arranged sitter)told my husband and elder 2 children - then realised it was for April 2011!

thanks, Im just glad I noticed now, not when we actually got there!

Yes i booked mine in december 2009, seems weird they were almost 2 years ahead with booking.

Case closed: If you genuinely appreciated your FIL and had not taken him for granted, you'd have read your tickets more carefully before asking him to babysit. (... Ducks for cover with great speed)

ah brilliant!

Thought you were going to say that you´d missed it

Oops!!

btw YANBU - it sounds like your FIL is being a bit of a grouch - fancing texting you such a snotty message! No need for that, a polite telephone call would have been much nicer.

gooftroop just give it up will you!

forsty sadly its just not practical to drive 3 hours to go out for a meal. But shes just treated herself to a new Radley as I had the sale email this morning, and shes gonna come back down to stay in November.

sorry frosty