The worlds most boring hen do ever....AIBU to pull out?

[mistletoekisses]

The highlights of the aforementioned hen do involve cupcake baking...and wait for it..a country walk with a treasure hunt. There are far more 'treats' along these lines involved, but dont want to post too much incase another attendee is a fellow mnetter.

My background? I have DC's, I bake cupcakes every bloody week. We are grown adults FGS, why would I want to spend a morning on a walk doing a treasure hunt? It is without a doubt the most boring weekend I have been invited away on?

I think that if I am going to be away for a weekend from my family, then it should be for something I enjoy. Whilst I accept that the bride comes first on the big day...I dont think the same courtesy extends to the hen party. The hen is not a close friend and based on that; I am 99% sure that I am going to back out. AIBU?

(Oh and no monies have been committed by anyone yet)

Why don't you make them 'special'? Should make the treasure hunt more fun too?

I would be giving that one a miss tbh but there again I don't have friends who would think that itinary is exciting (Ours usually involve a couple of nights at Malmaission and gallons of alcohol)

YANBU! Am a SAHM and this sounds a total busmans holiday. Make up some excuse and dont go. Shudder to think of you wasting a childfree weekend on baking bloody cupcakes. Perhaps tell DH you are going and go away with a friend somewhere fun

No YANBU My dp backed out of my uncles stag weekend and I backed out of the hen weekend because it was gonna cost to much money. When I get married it will be just a pissup. My god more time is spent on the hen night now that the wedding you know the important bit .

Does the walk end in a pub? Has someone put a lot of work in organising the treasure hunt?

Could you attend just part of the hen do (preferably the pub part)? I have done this before when the hen was having a spa day. I said straight away that I didn't do spas but would be happy to join them in the nightclub afterwards (note - the spa cost a fortune). The hen was fine with this.

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Seriously though WTF? It's a mad mad world out there in RL, don't go there. Stick to Mumsnet like I do. Never did me any harm

Bring a hip flask.

It depends, a drunken treasure hunt could be fun.

We arrive at a country house where we cook for ourselves. And we do not leave again. No restaurants...no getting glammed up...and specifically no clubs per the hens instructions.

Sooooo boring! Can I please join the malmaison hen does please? Much more my cup of tea.

YABU

You are there to help hen celebrate, if that's what she wants, so be it. Maybe she doesn't want to have yet another same old hen night piss up.

If she had arranged an expensive Las Vegas style hen weekend, then I'd be right behind you but it's cheap, she'll be able to spend time with all the girls that she's invited and obviously more effort has been involved than booking a lastminute hotel deal in anonymous city centre.com type night out

btw

I had a city centre booze up, meal out dancing do, so am not practising what I preach (did blend in to any other number of nights out though)

I think that I would decide whether to go on a hen night or not based on my relationship with the hen, not based on the activities. If good friend and shit activities = have to suck it up!

Why did she invite you if you are not particularly good friends?

Is there going to be booze involved? it might be good fun if you all get on and get pissed. Thankfully, I'm too old for hen nights now.

Take a case of champagne.

Tbh, it sounds better than all the rank pole dance class ones I'been invited to.

I think it sounds OK. I hate clubs and don't much care for glammed up.

But you do need champagne.

agree with purpletrees

Yes, I'd deffo prefer it to a club. I'm guessing you're young though. If you don't know the hen well then yes, drop out if you'll hate it.

The 'treasure' might be miniatures
The cupcakes might need to be in rude shapes
would that be more acceptable?

can you spike the cupcakes with some dodgy alcohol - might get the w/end off to a good start?

LeQueen - apart from the cheese factory, that is my everyday life

I pulled out of a similar hen do - no way was I going to put £100 towards a weekend in a damp cottage in the middle of a field, I see enough of my own for free.

Have to agree with Purpletrees. If it's the brides choice you should respect that and your decision should be made on whether you are good friends with her or not. You've already said you're not close to her so don't go for that reason. Just don't diss what her idea of fun is just because it's not the same as yours. For what it's worth, I'm in the Malmaison category.

Was that the "stuck in airport dressed as Vegas Elvis" occasion LeQ? Love that story.

Have you thought about getting MrQ to branch out as a party-planner? He'd be bloody good.

And I meant to say on that basis YABU