The worlds most boring hen do ever....AIBU to pull out?

[mistletoekisses]

The highlights of the aforementioned hen do involve cupcake baking...and wait for it..a country walk with a treasure hunt. There are far more 'treats' along these lines involved, but dont want to post too much incase another attendee is a fellow mnetter.

My background? I have DC's, I bake cupcakes every bloody week. We are grown adults FGS, why would I want to spend a morning on a walk doing a treasure hunt? It is without a doubt the most boring weekend I have been invited away on?

I think that if I am going to be away for a weekend from my family, then it should be for something I enjoy. Whilst I accept that the bride comes first on the big day...I dont think the same courtesy extends to the hen party. The hen is not a close friend and based on that; I am 99% sure that I am going to back out. AIBU?

(Oh and no monies have been committed by anyone yet)

"I'm not writing them off, there's just as much a place for wholesome dullards as there is for fun, "

Nah.... not writing them off at all

The hole you're digging for yourself grows ever deeper LeQueen.

And I'm quite sure they don't want to be in your place either.

I think it would depend on how well I got on with the rest of the group. I do enjoy country retreat style breaks (provided the cottage is worth staying in, why would I want to stay somewhere with no class or style and pay for the privilege?!) when with a group of people I get on well with. Gin, good food and conversation on tap, walks with the dogs, log fires in winter (actually this does sound a lot like being at home...) etc etc. Equally I enjoy a good night out with whatever alcohol tickles my fancy. (Which would be everything at the moment as I have been abstaining for the last 39 wks...)

But, if I didn't know or really get on with the rest of the people I would have to be in precisely the right mood to want to shack up with them for the weekend. And chances are, I wouldn't necessarily be in that mood because to be fair, most of the time I don't play well with others and don't feel like making nice with strangers! But I wouldn't be mean to her about it (each to their own etc, there have been some very strong opinions on others' choice of pastimes which seems like an odd attitude for adults to take) I would just tell her you're really sorry but something unavoidable has come up family-wise. Then don't elaborate, you don't have to justify yourself but equally there is no need to be needlessly rude just because your tastes differ.

Cheese factory would be fine. At least the bride filtered the self obsessed princesses.

Beauty treatments? I'd sooner go to a cheese factory.

It doesn't sound like a night of action,fun and thrills either.

You've been talking about how dull baking cakes is, and about how dynamic you are but your idea of a good hen night involves beauty treatment? It's not exactly an action packed evening is it?

Dinner prepared by an in house chef sounds lovely but rather more expensive than cupcakes. Perhaps bride to be and friends can't afford in house chefs.

I think i'd give the beauty treatments a miss, find a local riding stables instead and go for a canter.

But even that won't appeal to everyone.It worked for your group but beauty treatments and a salsa bar sounds like my idea of hell.

'socially astute'- the only bit of that hen night I'd like would be the meal. I'd go if I really really liked the hen/crowd but otherwise no thanks. Find an excuse. Wouldn't bitch about it though.

Well i'm not hairy legged either. Doesn't go with jodhpurs. I think I like the same things as letthereberock.

Why has everyone assumed the cottage is damp?

If it was a good friend's hen party I'd grit my teeth and go anyway because it's not about what I like or want to do.