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Day one and onwards

131 replies

Hazelnutmochi · 04/01/2021 09:41

Thread two for those on the 'day one for those starting out' thread. New joiners very welcome 😀

OP posts:
spongebobscaredypants · 04/01/2021 09:42

I would love to join you, although I'm not a drunk and hate feeling out of control, I think I've drunk every single night since lockdown 1, only ever 2/3 glasses of wine but it needs to stop.

Ynwa12345 · 04/01/2021 10:07

Thank you for the belated birthday wishes @hazelnutmochi!!! Glad we have a new thread.
Welcome @spongebobscaredypants. I started dry Jan with the try dry app give it a whirl!
Just tagging
@Sneachta
@writingsonthewall

LegallyBlondeee · 04/01/2021 10:22

Day 3 today for me. Feeling a huge difference already to my sleep, my mood and energy levels and also I have become a lot more patient.

Rumblebear · 04/01/2021 12:23

Hi - I would love to join as well? Like @spongebobscaredypants I realised I don't think I have had many (if any) non drinking days since lockdown 1 and the 1 glass of wine is creeping up to 2 then 3...and that's not having an effect on me (scarily) any more. I've not drunk for 2 days (this is day 3) but unlike other times I've decided to do this, I've decided now to just abstain completely rather than moderate....my sleep has been much better last couple nights but I'm back at work this week and am worried, I have a stressful job which is a cause of anxiety for me and to help switch off, I turn to wine (which I know increases the anxiety!). Need to get through this week. Having a check in daily to make me accountable would really help!

Sneachta · 04/01/2021 17:07

EXCELLENT Smile thanks @Hazelnutmochi

Tagging @newernewist @GRMA @rupertpenrysmistress @joysmoy

PeacheyPeach · 04/01/2021 17:13

Hi all I am.on the dry jan thread but wanted to come on here as well if that's ok with you ladies xx
I have been a long time lurker on these threads and you have all done amazing and have genuinely given me the boost to start dry Jan. I am only on day 4 cannot wait to be coming in saying it's day 100 for me!

Sneachta · 04/01/2021 17:14

Welcome new people you wont regret it (strong arm emoji)

Rumblebear · 04/01/2021 18:24

Getting a bit of a headache-normally would just assume I was a bit dehydrated, vow to drink more water tomorrow and have my wine as usual...amaking myself be more mindful now and wondering if it's my bodies reaction to the third evening without wine? Anyway am determined to stick to it, despite whatever announcement comes our way later.

@PeacheyPeach also can't wait to be able to say I haven't had a drink for 3 months!!

hunchicklove · 04/01/2021 19:09

I'd like to join. Day 2 for me. Drank far too much over the Christmas break and didn't remember going to bed one night. Spent the next day recovering.
I want to give up not moderate. Alcohol is a crutch for me and I don't think I can be a moderate drinker.
Here is to 100 days and more besides.

timkerbellx · 04/01/2021 21:28

Hi can I join please .
I want to but out drinking during the week and I think tonight is probably the first night in a year I haven't had a few glasses of wine .
It feels quite scary to be honest .
Have had earl gray and sofa water wi Th ice and freshly squeezed lime .
Good luck all. .

mumgg · 04/01/2021 23:21

Hi all in the same boat been drinking a lot more during lock down and need to pull it back. I think it started as there was not much else to do but now feel I have to give myself a wake up call. Day 2 for me

GRMA · 05/01/2021 06:40

Well we are in Lockdown again, it is going to be difficult for everyone to stay focused, BUT you are all doing so well be it 3 days in or 3 months in Stay Strong everyone the group is here if you need support :)

Sneachta · 05/01/2021 07:24

Morning everyone it is very daunting @timkerbellx and @rumblebear yeh you can feel shite for a while. I had terrible withdrawals and GP prescribed librium and sleeping tablets. I was an extremely heavy drinker though. I know a few here where AA have been amazing and its NOT a God thing.

There are loads of books you can download to give you a good kickstart. My 2 favourites are The Unexpected joy of bring sober and Alchol lied to me. Loads more though which you might prefer, the others here can reccomend. . My refreshing drink for my trigger time of 6pm was tonic water. My DH cleaned out our bedroom and bought brand new covers and sheets and candles and made it really cosy. Even changing rooms when cravings hit really helped and I'd read my help books. I changed my diet to non trigger foods, ie fajitas equals beer, lasagne equals wine. Ate earlier to stop cravings. Once I was full I wasnt thinking about it as much. Then had a cup of tea and something nice to look forward to later. If I was tempted I'd just let the feelings come and tell my self 'in an hour I'll go down and get a bottle' I'd have a non alcoholic drink planned or something light to eat and I'd repeat. I never went and got that bottle.

In Craig Becks book he talks a lot about vitamins to counter the affects of alcohol. Start those. There are a lot but it really helps. You will be shocked at how shit you may feel and how alcholol seriously strips you of those.

Get out and walk or any exercise, I went like a lunatic at the walking and yoga for the first month.

Try and get the person you are living with to support you. Tell them what will help you. For me DH didnt drink at at all in the house. Xmas he had about 6 beers in total. This is massive for me not having it around.

A positive that kept me going are the thoughts of waking up feeling hangover free. I still revel in this and wake up earlier than everyone and enjoy the peace and fannying around setting myself up for the day.

Looking, feeling good and sleep for me took ages (just to warn you) but I'm 5 months down. Aniexty levels whilst still there are SO much more manageable. I'm no longer depressed (wanted to run my car into a wall several times and with the awful withdrawals throw myself onto the road) Cravings lessened on day 26 (yeh I know it seems far away)

No more feeling ashamed of my drinking or my youngest child asking why I always smell like beer. Confidence and self esteem is so much better. I'm smug if someone has a hangover (to myself obviously!) Relationships are far better, concentration, going to bed clean and happy with a lovely book.

I'm sure there are more things but I'm boring myself now Smile day 168 here and I NEVER thought I could do that.

LegallyBlondeee · 05/01/2021 07:44

Morning everyone. I stayed strong last night and didn’t reach for the gin like I normally would when I’m stressed to max and I feel like my heads going to explode. Instead I stuck with my fizzy water and woke up today feeling a lot more clear headed and ready to tackle anything.
I’m waiting for my daughters place in school from tomorrow as I am a critical worker so fingers crossed I get some sort of resolute today. I hope every one is okay.

Ynwa12345 · 05/01/2021 08:18

@Sneachta everytime I hear you and your advice it makes me smile you have done so ooooo amazingly since we started. You should be so proud. And @writingsonthewall @Hazelnutmochi @Newernewist
As @Sneachta said it does get better. I've been on and off for years now. It really didnt help my H was drinking every day he was no support in that sense. Just before the 1st lockdown I d been drinking daily earlier and earlier I was worried for myself and kids (I'd been there before and then went to counselling etc and managed 10 months AF) and we went on hols and I thought sod it I'll have one as I've done sk well.. And well it spirals doesn't it?
I then started again with this group and then again something happened and there was always booze in my face. I didn't drink 29th and 30th December. It was my birthday 31st and d rank too much from 1pm and I cried and felt like shite. So my H I challenged him to dry Jan and we are both day 4 now. I'm taking 1 day at a time it really helps. Follow other ppl on insta sober Instagram accounts help and the books Sneatcha mentioned. The naked mind by Annie Grace is supposed to be good. Some say thiamine is good too but I just take normal vits. I also gave up smoking too over 20 plus years... So it's been a struggle! Hated someone famous yday tweeted 'bet the ppl doing dry Jan are kicking themselves or won't do it' because of lockdown what a dick

Sneachta · 05/01/2021 08:26

@ymna oooooohhhh delighted DH is doing it with you. Fair play in the fags, amazing. Dont scratch that itch Smile

Newernewist · 05/01/2021 08:44

Hi everyone, welcome to new members !
I'm day 139 now
As @sneachta said a few of us are sober because of AA, I was put off by the God thing, but im not religious at all.
When they use the God word or talk about a higher power, I replace it with "group of drunks" as do a few members of the fellowship.
That's my higher power, a group of people who understand and support me.
I couldn't have stopped drinking by myself but this group of drinks did.
So if anyone is considering AA, try it.
It might be for you, it might not, but it is not a religious thing unless you want it to be.
Keep posting here any new posters, read the literature that people have recommended, just take one day at a time

But I don't know anyone who has stopped drinking by what ever method works for them and regretted it.

I thought I could cut down, tried so many times and have realised I am an alcoholic, its not my fault, but drinking and ruining my life and hurting other people is my fault.
I have never felt better than I do now, its partly down to this thread, AA and finally looking at myself and admitting I have a problem with alcohol.
Stick around new people x

Newernewist · 05/01/2021 08:46

I'm sober because of AA I should add, not @sneatchta

timkerbellx · 05/01/2021 09:05

Morning everyone .
Stayed strong last night and am really pleased with myself .... seems so bad that I'm proud of not drinking for one single night and it was surprisingly okay . Better than okay it was nice ! I was nice .
So I'm working today and nervous about the week ahead as in demanding job working in nhs and need to focus .... my head feels a bit foggy already and I'm sort of feeling really uptight with clenched teeth . Probably as not got over a bottle of wine trugging around my system .
Will this get worse please ?

Newernewist · 05/01/2021 10:19

@timkerbellx its breaking the habit, you've got one day out of the way.
I used to think alcohol was my go to for everything, when I was stressed, anxious, scared, happy, every emotion was assisted by alcohol.
It wasnt my best friend, it was my worst enemy.
My anxiety levels have reduced dramatically since stopping drinking, it is a depressant, the constant state of anxiety I was in was because of the hangover I had every day, not that I realised it at the time
Just take one day at a time x

Rumblebear · 05/01/2021 11:38

Morning.

@Sneachta @Ynwa12345

Thanks for that- your stories are really motivating me. I am reading the unexpected joy of being sober. I don't identify massively with the author but the one thing she said really resonated...how moderation is much more difficult than abstinence. I never really "got that" before, but for some reason she made me see it totally clearly and I'm determine to abstain for at least 3 months to kick the habit. Then, possibly seeing how I feel,go back to drinking a glass of wine on a special occasion/meal out and see if I can stick to it (with young kids I don't have much of a party social life so if I cut out home drinking, that's by far the largest part for me). Maybe I won't want to reintroduce it though.

@LegallyBlondeee @timkerbellx - well done for staying strong last night,I think we should pat ourselves on the back! Each day at a time, if we can make it to the end of the week with no drinking despite being back at work, we'll know we can do it. Xx

timkerbellx · 05/01/2021 20:04

Thanks both .
Worked late so kind of passed my trigger time now which has helped .
Really great to hear your stories and thanks for tips .
Dizziness seems to jane subsided and looking forward to an early night !
Stay safe and stay strong everyone.

Sneachta · 06/01/2021 06:02

Morning, how is everyone doing today?

Great posts @Newernewist as you said the anxiety/depression (and teeth clenching) lessen. I awoke far too early today, I know schools will bloody close here too. But motivated myself to go for a walk. Which first lockdown sneactha would have been wondering at what time can she open a bottle later. I also had notions that I could back to moderate drinking. I think this kept me going btw. Said if I kept sober for a few months I can slightly indulge at xmas. Which I didnt. Anything to keep you from the corkscrew really. (Moderation envy for those who can)

@tinkerbellx that's it, keeping busy and distracted is the way to go. I cant imagine how stressed you must be working for NHS but your staying strong somehow

Anyway, off to apply my very expensive better looking 30 years younger soon vitamin c ampoules my resolution of self care continues

Sneachta · 06/01/2021 06:05

Oh how are you @Hazelnutmochi ?

@ymna ? Laughing over insta story

LegallyBlondeee · 06/01/2021 06:12

Morning everyone. Day 5 for me today, and oh my god I just had the best nights sleep I’ve had in about 10 years. I can’t remember the last time I had 5 days off drinking so I’m feeling pretty damn smug about myself right now.
Hope every one is doing well.