Day one and onwards

[Hazelnutmochi]

Thread two for those on the 'day one for those starting out' thread. New joiners very welcome 😀

@Ynwa12345 I feel like we are living the exact same life! My DH is exactly how you describe yours! Down to the doing the dishes. I feel myself getting cranky at 9pm too. But I’m pretty sure that’s because I’m knackered and I’m sleeping so so well. Maybe I’m in sleep debt and I’m catching up on all those years wasted by unsettled pissed comas.
My thumb well.... it’s a hell of a lot better! Something gross happened yesterday at work we’re let’s say the infection literally came out of my thumb. But it does feel almost like normal. Apparently it’s caused by biting your nails. Which I have a terrible habit of doing so... looks like I’m quitting all my vices this year....
Who was the poster that was quitting cigarettes too? Was it you @Ynwa12345?
I spent 8 years of my life dedicated to helping people quit smoking so if anyone needs help. Hollaaaaaa!

No way! Haha well I've done it for about 7 8 weeks now... Longest I've gone is both pregnancies and a bit couple of years ago when I wasn't smoking or drinking I felt my best! When I get stressed I do think about it but there's no point and I can't afford it anymore as not working as much so win win!
Sounds gross about the infection coming out hahah

Hi all, so that's two nights I've done so far.

My skin already looks better, and my eyes brighter. I slept like a log last night, didn't wake up til mid morning this morning, so those things alone are giving me the will to go on.

Hope everyone else is doing ok today.

I finished my antibiotics 3 days ago and was going to do dry January but here I am on my 3rd glass of wine. Please, can anyone give me advice on how not to slip back? I've felt so much better this past week in the mornings and have been so much more productive at work. I don't even know why I am drinking again!

Mining @SaladBowlsAndBasinsAndBuckets. Don't beat yourself up! For me it was about if I couldn't moderate no point drinking. Also trigger times.. It helped by having done thing else to replace the wine... My choice was appletiser! As its the sugar you miss when you stop boozing... You say yourself you felt much happier.. I once stuck a post it note on my bedroom mirror saying drinking messes up sleep something similar (and another cigs cause cancer) etc etc that helped me stay off it. We are all human! Have you read any books?

Morning not mining! And I mean quit lit books...

Morning @SaladBowlsAndBasinsAndBuckets
I hope you’re not being too hard on yourself, you’ve had a minor bump in the road and our mistakes are what makes us human. Antibiotics didn’t even stop me from drinking before, I used to be actually take my antibiotics with a glass of wine so credit where credit is due, you’re doing great!
How are you? @Ynwa12345

Hi @LegallyBlondeee I am OK thank you but just tired of this home learning now to be honest. And we can't even really look forward to anything at the weekend! Maybe my H will play with the kids so I can go for a 30 min walk! I miss even going to the playground (even though they're open my friends H got it from there apparently!) his only symptom is loss of smell... How's thumb?
I'm day 15 now gone past the 2 week mark which is great!

@Ynwa12345 I’m not doing too badly, DD got sent home from school again yesterday as we had so much snow! It basically brought the whole of south Yorkshire to a stand still, they are closed again today as well so DD has gone to my mums while I work. Thumb is doing a lot better. I’ve only got a bit of broken skin now so, happy days! Over the two week mark is absolutely amazing! You’re doing so well with that and the smoking. I’d of killed someone by now lol! The weekends are the worst for me, I feel like I work so hard and the. Have nothing to show for it, so I’m going to Tesco’s from work and I’m buying myself a new dressing gown and slippers and I’m going to treat DD to something too. DH says he wants a fancy IPA as his treat so we all get something this weekend!

Thank you @LegallyBlondeee and @Ynwa12345 for being understanding. I feel pretty shit today. Headache and no motivation. I'm going to stick to a mug of warm cocoa this evening like I should have done yesterday. It's a new day.

@SaladBowlsAndBasinsAndBuckets like ynwa said I find it easier to replace my “wine time” with something similar. I never drank hot drinks in an evening, so I don’t now when I’m sober. My favourite alcohol drinks are Sauvignon blanc which I have now replaced with apple juice and lemonade, i pour it into my wine glass on an evening and top it up through the night. I don’t know why but I love drinking from my wine glasses. Makes me feel like I’m being naughty!
I also really enjoy gin and tonic, you can get alcohol free Gordon’s now but i refuse to spend £14 on it. So I just buy tonic and ass frozen fruit to it and have it from my gin glass. Maybe something like this could work?
Like if your poison is red wine.... get some cranberry juice... similar colour, quite tarte etc?

Ass frozen fruit haha! Should say add

@LegallyBlondeee I love those ideas and drinking from a wine glass.

@SaladBowlsAndBasinsAndBuckets You can do this.

@Ynwa12345 I've been buying a different juice for the evenings, as part of the wine drinking was I am sure a bit of boredom too.

So 3 nights no alcohol for me now, slept much better again. Skin is looking clearer and I feel better. My sons are really pleased with me too so I need to carry on for them, even if I just have the odd drink when I am out - although when that might be who knows!!

Usually I would weaken on a Friday, giving myself the excuse that it is Friday etc, I will not be doing that tonight.

Ouch @LegallyBlondeee thumb sounds painful. I had that kind of thing on my finger last year wheee I'd chewed it at the side and then it got infected. Jesus SO PAINFUL. hope it's on the mend now.

Hey @Ynwa12345 I think it's pretty universal to have a frayed temper at the mo. My h is doing my head in too, it's the lockdown. He hasn't even really done anything wrong and he isn't selfish around the house so god knows why he's so annoying!! I just want out of the bloody house, I want a holiday.

Well done @Ineedaslap

Oh@SaladBowlsAndBasinsAndBuckets well, if it was easy everybody would be doing it right? Don't stress and don't make it into something bigger than it is. You've had a few drinks, it's a slip up. Hey straight back on the wagon. And agree with @LegallyBlondeee there is no way antibiotics would have stopped me drinking in the past.

Well done on your 15 days @Ynwa12345 properly getting back into the swing of it 

Hope you're ok @Sneachta and @HearMeRoarr

@Newernewist and @Hazelnutmochi hope you guys have had a good week too.

My fave alcohol replacement drinks are fake Prosecco (2.50 from Tesco it's the very low alcohol sparkling wine and is like

Just checking in for the day, day 2 here after a glorious nights sleep. Will post more later

Well done on day 2 @HearMeRawwr!
Sleep was pretty good last night. Although I wanted to lay in bed for ages but alas the children up at crack of fing dawn.
Weather is sooooo ooo shite and they're just on their crap gaming I hate it. Haha I'm a Ray of sunshine this morning aren't I!???
Will try a rainy walk later. The highlight of H day is going to get a click and collect..

4 nights without alcohol now. Feeling good, and surprised how easy I am finding it, in the past I have struggled, I must be in the right frame of mind at the moment.

@HearMeRawwr the good nights sleep are so nice aren't they?

@Ynwa12345 Hope you day is improving!

Morning all, day 2 here. I'm also find she'd reading Nina is not Ok' by Shappi Khorsandi and have really enjoyed it, i know there is lots of non-fiction/memoir type sober literature but wondered if anyone could recommend any fiction they enjoyed where the hero/heroine struggles and overcomes dependence on alcohol. Many thanks

Correction day 3! Small but significant difference!!

Mornimg folks, welcome new people and congrats everyone in your days.

I have read all the posts. Sleep is the worst isnt it. I bought some nylon, I have no problems flying asleep but awaken very early (that would be the no alcohol). Aswell as all the alcohol literature definitely start taking vitamins. Alcohol depletes your reverse.

Writing- the yoga is not happening I cannot seem to motivate myself. I was really getting into my self care, the overwhelming need to give up drink/all that distracting stuff it took my months to finally look at looking after and treating my body then bloody home schooling hit again and it's gone to shit. Main thing is I'm still booze free.

Batch cooking at the moment to get ahead and going to start pembrokeshire murders. I should be going for a walk!!!

Keep posting- nearly 6 months here - if I can do it anyone can

Ffs types nytol! Falling asleep

TYPOS

Morning @Sneachta hope you are well. Don't worry about the yoga with lockdown and bloody home schooling you are doing great can't believe nesrly 6 months u go girl! (I would have been there too...) but not going to stress as I'm on day 17 now.
My day was so so shite yday and I didn't sleep a wink... H and I had arguments in front of the kids and all sorts. Was horrible. He's just selfish but he doesn't think he is. I am due on I think like right now lol but he's just being ratty. He doesn't work at weekends why can't he pull his weight? He knows when kids eat dinner yet starts making spag bol at 515pm when they eat at 530pm so I knew I couldn't trust him (while I'm upstairs cleaning his filthy room we sleep separately maybe that's most of the issue too but I can't deal with that right now). I think not smoking not drinking and lockdown has made me mehhhhhh. I wish i could snap out of it!
@HearMeRawwr well done on day 3! I read the sample of nina is not OK and some things resonated so will get that but am getting through other fiction books currently! Hopefully some others can recommend the types of books ur looking for... I am exhausted already roll on bedtime. I decided I'm not going to do anything I will take kids out for a walk and if H wants to come he can but I'm not talking tk him today hahah I'm so immature

Good morning everyone. Sorry @Sneachta on your crappy weekend. I hope you feel better today. I had a few glasses of wine Saturday night with DH nothing too much but it’s certainly had an impact on my quality of sleep as I feel absolutely exhausted, but knowing I’m going to get a full night of quality nights sleep tonight makes me happy. Hope everyone had a good weekend!

Morning all. No worries if you had a few glasses but it's good you recognise that it affects your sleep! I haven't been sleeping great unfortunately but all good! I have along with no booze or no smokes am now going to attempt the no swearing under my breath or over my breath rule.... Let's see.
Day 18 doesn't feel like anything special tbh but I was pondering whether I will drink on Feb 1st esp if H does xx