Day one and onwards

[Hazelnutmochi]

Thread two for those on the 'day one for those starting out' thread. New joiners very welcome 😀

Hahah @Sneachta! Are u having a Laff in the bath you giraffe! (say in Northern England accent) lol I used to say it all the time I was quite good at accents back in the day... Now I just sound Welsh even when I'm doing an Indian accent hahaha
I had so my rage yday I'm wondering what it is as I had to Google how to stay calm when angry. I will start writing maybe online again like I just type on note pad it does help. But also it's my H that is getting on my nerves.. He sits in his boxers at weekend glued on the sofa that's my main gripe. And he has no regard for the kids getting them changed feeding etc I don't know just feel like I have 3 kids sometimes not 2.
I was also using a new ish face scrub which I think is quite harsh a nip fab one which could be causing the outbreak.
If you tell us what you want from amazon I am happy to post it to u!!!!@Sneachta

Anyway onwards and upwards guys. Has your asos stuff come yet @LegallyBlondeee? I'm tempted to get some joggers etc but I'm very short 5ft1
How are you doing ?
Everyone is doing superb remember that x

Day 3 and I’m enjoying hangover free mornings! I slept better last night and night sweats not such a problem. Still worrying about withdrawal symptoms kicking in. Thinking about doing dry January once I’ve finished the antibiotics but the end of the packet is a few days off yet.

@SaladBowlsAndBasinsAndBuckets sorry you are on antibiotics but also that's what stopped me back IN August! I had the most painful tooth extraction took 2 hours and blood etc and I was on 2 sets of strong antibiotics and painkillers. And I thought sod it so didn't drink or smoke then. You can do it!!

@Ynwa12345 my asos order isn’t here yet which I’m gutted about because there’s a pair of pjs in there which I’m gagging to get my hands on. I hear you about having a rage day. I had one last week and every time I looked at H I just wanted to rip his head off. Poor guy hadn’t even done anything wrong. I felt like a little angry psychopath (I’m only 5ft 2 myself) I thought it was rage from not drinking and then I came on yesterday morning and I was like ahhhhh! That’s why I’ve been a fucking bitch for a week 😂. Get the joggers, treat yo self! Talking about antibiotics I had to get some yesterday because my thumbs swollen up like a balloon and it’s very very painful turns out I have a skin infection. So I’m feel very sorry for myself at the moment

Oh shame asos hasn't come yet maybe tomorrow! I have about 15 pj's this is my issue... I can never find decent pair of leggings either for my short ass.
Coming on and rage makes sense I'm also due! Sorry to hear about your thumb hope it heals soon!

@Ynwa12345 I swear by new looks short range. I managed to get a pair of jeans from there that were absolutely perfect in length which is incredible as I never get jeans that fit properly. I always have to roll them up like a child 😂

Good morning everyone. Hope every one is waking up feeling fresh as a daisy today and ready to tackle what ever life throws at us this week.
I had a particularly hard day yesterday. I had a full on pity party for myself. My thumb is swollen still and very very painful and red. Work today is going to be hell as I need my hands for work. It’s my writing hand as well. Funny isn’t it how you realise how much you use your thumbs until you can barely use them anymore. Hopefully the antibiotics will start working soon. Then on top of that I had his aweful period pains and DD came home from her dads on a sugar high and was up crying till 11pm because she couldn’t sleep. God give me strength. But I did not crack. And I’ve woke up today feeling a lot more clear headed. I’ve taken myself back to bed with a coffee and vowed to be kind to myself today.
Hope every one is okay.

Morning @LegallyBlondeee. Hope you are OK that sounds like a horrendous day and you should be proud you didn't crack! Is this the first time you are giving up the drink? Are you hoping to go beyond dry Jan?
Yes be kind to yourself please its so important. I can't be bothered with home schooling today and picking up click and collect and half the items are missing.. We can live tho! I am very grateful for a lot of things in life at the moment and always put things in perspective!
Can you tell your work you can't really work without a working thumb? Hope it gets better very soon!
I started watching something called the minimalists on Netflix only first 10 mins so far but its stopped me buying unnecessary items online yesterday! I think I can be a bit addicted sometimes so can H. He normally buys things for his precious bike.
Hope everyone is OK and has a great day. I'm on day 11 whoooooppppppp

Oh no @Ynwa12345 are you a strava widow too 😭😭😭. My H took 3 hours yesterday preening his bike. I’m like hello, poorly wife give me your attention please!

Sorry i speed repliednthere @Ynwa12345 yes I’m hoping to go beyond dry January. My best friend found out she was expecting on Boxing Day and I promised her I would go alcohol free as well to support her. Most of our 20 year friendship has been centred around alcohol so it’s really interesting to see how our friendship is evolving now we are both (almost) AF. She is also DHs sister so I know he will grass me up in seconds if I decide to go off the rails lol. Day 11! What a massive achievement. I never thought I’d say this but I much prefer the sober life. Life is so much calmer.

Yes it feels good waking up with a lovely clear head doesn't it?
Yes H would go for 4 hour bike rides every Sunday... But he hasn't been as its so cold hah! But also He is also rattier if he doesn't go so... He does deeseve some exercise of course but 4 hours is too much imo.that's so nice your bff is your sil! I used to be do close with my sils but alas one turned out to be a right cow (h sister) I just smile and nod and be fake unfortunately and my bro divorced the other who I literally grew up with I'm close with my neice and nephew though. Just found out one of my oldest friends dad passed away heart attack..

Oh I’m so sorry to hear that @Ynwa12345 it comes at a time where we want to be there for those we love and miss the most which absolutely sucks.
I was best friends with sil before H, he was the nerdy little brother. Always had a thing for me when we were teenagers and then I was bridesmaid at his mums wedding I’d not seen him in years and the rest is history. How vom worthy 🤮 lol.

Morning everyone, congrats on your days ymna and legally, fair play stopping at one little one. I couldn't do that.

There are a lot on dry jan boards now. Some good refreshing drink tips and another board talking about for the first while treating yourself like a toddler to get through the cravings and temptation. I suppose I did similar with setting my bedroom up comfy

Sorry to hear about the rages. Totally get it, it's really putting relationships to the test isnt it. Not natural at all to be stuck 24/7 with a P or H. We have a good routine now (albeit I had to sit him down and threaten all sorts) I get my time out as does he etc. It makes a huge difference to the mental health. Surely if they can take time to do their hobbies you can too? That AND the MILLIONS of vitamins I'm on have really made me feel healthier overall.

Sorry about your thumb legally, sounds nasty. Yeh ymna missing the Amazon browsing, it's more i now cant have it and now i want it lol. And thanks for the postage offer. I know no one in the UK so I know where to go now if I need something urgent.

We have the highest cases in Europe, how the hell did that happen!!

Keep strong everyone very tough back to lockdown but alcohol will NOT help that. Feeling proud

Morning all, hope you all had a restful sleep. Its raining buckets over here, the harsh ,will the roof leak again rain?
I did not sleep at all, I told my little one to stfu i felt so bad (not sure he heard as he was in and out of sleep all night with a bloody blocked nose!)
He hasnt been anywhere to get a freaking cold! anyway i couldnt find the olbas or vicks in the middle of the bloody night so he just flitted and breathed heavy all night hence no sleep!
I have noticed tho aside of last night the magnesium powder (£20 from Holland and BArrat) really does work for the sleep...
Sent my dear friends flowers yesterday for her poor dad (I have known for about 20 plus years), its such a fing shame, I would normally race there in my car to support her...
highest cases in europe does not surprise me
hows the thumb @LegallyBlondeee?
how are you @Hazelnutmochi?
hope your week is going ok and not too stressful @writingsonthewall.
x

Morning @Sneachta luckily both me and H are still working but he was furloughed for 15 weeks in March and I just wanted to get away from him and that’s even whilst I worked though it. I can’t imagine having to live in with him 24/7 I love him but he’s a big man baby!
The thumbs still not so good. Not as painful as it has been but still very very swollen.
I had another god awful day yesterday as DDs school rang me to collect her as she had a tummy ache so I had to leave work early to get her. Turns out she just had trapped wind and just needed a huge trump. 😂
I decided to weigh my self today and well. I’m absolutely fuming. How.... HOW have I stopped drinking.... and eaten so healthy for the past two weeks and I’ve gained 2lb. So instead of throwing the scales out the window I moved them into a different room. To which they then decided to tell me I’d gained 6lb! So I’ve decided they are faulty and I’m clearly 2 stone lighter than was I was last week 😁.
@Ynwa12345 I have heard some great things about magnesium powder and sleep. I’ve not tried it myself but I know a few people that have. You will be happy to know my ASOS order arrived and I flung my pjs straight on! I tried the dress on I bought in my normal size 14 and god it’s huge! Which only backs up my belief that I’ve lost 2 stone and my scales are a bag of shit.
Hope you’re all doing okay!

haha we sound the same sizing and height wise @LegallyBlondeee good to know the size 14 is falling off ya that definately means you have lose weight come on ! and the scales are defo wrong!
I dont listen to the scales anymore...I have tried very hard doing home exercises when I can, literally I do bicep curls while cooking the kids pasta...all H says is oh do keto do keto because he did it and lost sooooo much weight! and it has stayed off, he has bloody abs! I say whern he didnt push 2 kids out so...(he is also a bloody big baby!)
sorry t hear your thumb is still swollen but its good theres less pain! are you a key worker ? or critical etc is your daughter getting taught in school? theres some threads on here saying the kids in school arent being taught properly...I am defo not a frigging teacher , my H is lucky I cannot wfh.
another day.....

@Ynwa12345
I am a critical worker I support public safety. Yes DD is attending school, and no they’re not being taught the curriculum as they would if schools were open normally. I think that’s to kind of counter balance the fact that these children absolutely have to be in school where as they can see their peers still in there pjs at 11 o’clock on there zooms so they are trying to make it a bit more fun for them as such. Which I’m not mad at she’s enjoying it and not kicking up a fuss.
I’ve tried every diet under the sun. The only thing that’s ever worked for me is slimming world and I lost 3 stone and I’ve gained one back. I just hate having to weigh myself every week. It’s crazy how much a number on a scale can shift your mood and the way you look at yourself so I try and do it as little as possible.
I’m quite happy with my body shape to be honest. Well, I still have my off days. I just figure as long as I’m eating right. Moving my body and making sure I’m the healthiest person I can be. I’m on the right track!

Hi all glad you are all doing well and feeling positive. One weekend down I am on day 10 and starting to feel the benefits with my mood and my sleep. It's shocking to say I can't remember the last time I done 10days without a drink I think I was pregnant. I am off work this week as the kids are off school so I think I will struggle any tips 🙈🙈🙈

Morning all - I would like to join please.

I woke up this morning vowing to not drink until this new lockdown ends at least. I am drinking way too much every night and I need to stop.

I am using it as emotional support, but I know I will feel better if I get a good nights sleep and am not as groggy during the day.

Also to lose weight and get fitter will be good for me.

Good luck to you all :)

Yo yo yo, how are you all this eve? How was your yoga @Sneachta I should really do something like that but I just can't be bothered. I'm feeling bleurgh and lazy at the moment. Still running lots but can't find energy to do anything else.

I wonder how @Rupertpenrysmistress is doing too. Come back Rupert and tell us!

I seem to be able to cope with having booze in the house ok @HearMeRoarr Not actually sure how, but we have a full wine rack and a cupboard with a load of Spirits in it. It could well be my downfall at some point though!! There's too much to Chuck though lol.

@LegallyBlondeee well done for just having a couple the other day. And @SaladBowlsAndBasinsAndBuckets well done too. Everyone is going great guns 💪🏻 And lovely @Ynwa12345 of course! Booze and smoke free huzzah!! Sorry to hear about your friend's dad chick xx

I treated myself to a ton of chocolate and sweets for the first few months and now paying the price. I've been trying to do slimming world and I'm doing ok bit I'm just wanting to eat all the time, mostly out of boredom I think. I mean I'm busy at work but just sitting in the kitchen at home doing it means all I think about is what I can eat next.

Also happy to post stuff to you @Sneachta . Amazon appear here most days with something or other. Really need to stop that. I saw Ireland's cases had gone crazy!! It happens out of nowhere doesn't it. Beginning of Dec I thought it was all coming to an end and now look at us!

Was it someone on here that said about doing the alphabet thing to get to sleep?? I read it somewhere and bloody hell it actually worked a couple of times. I couldn't believe it the next day.

I think I've missed it but what is up with your thumb @LegallyBlondeee?

Well done @mumgg I was the same having not gone more than a week or so except for pregnancies!! Funny isn't it. It sucks you in so badly.

Welcome @Ineedaslap it's a good choice to have a break and I know lockdown is shite but at least we don't have to contend with social occasions for now. Keep talking to us and checking in and good luck!! You can do it.

Sorry to hear you didn't sleep much last night @Ynwa12345 wear some ear plugs tonight!

@Sneachta I finished stranger in the house, was good (may have told you that already). Am currently watching the serpent which is good.

Hi all x
Day 12 for me . I'm feeling great to be honest and don't feel deprived or anything. We to have a wine rack full and I'm not even bothered. I just feel like my body has had enough of drinking and my brain is saying "finally!"

Well done @PeacheyPeach I know what you mean about just suddenly having had enough

Morning everyone @mumgg I just remember how rough I feel after and what a god aweful night sleep I get when I’ve had a drink. I’m not very patient with DH or DD either. I don’t like the person i become when I’ve had too much to drink. So stick to the positives. Being sober means your much more emotionally available and equipped to handle what life throws at you! You can do it!
@PeacheyPeach well done on day 12! I echo how your feeling 2 weeks ago I wouldn’t have imagined actually enjoying being sober. I’ve got 25 litres of gin ( yes I know) in my house and I’m not bothered about touching any of it.
@writingsonthewall i have a skin infection which has caused my thumb to swell to an ungodly size, still swollen, but no where near as painful!
How are you today @Ynwa12345?
I’m still sober! Not touched any since Saturday. I’m not really sure how to count my days how because I had a few drinks on Saturday night but at least I know I can moderate myself now! Have a good day everyone!

Hi all, just checking in. Thought I'd posted earlier today but can't find it, it's probably my Facebook status or something
Feeling calmer in general after a few weeks of moderating. Tempted to go fully dry but willpower wanes once 5pm strikes. Definitely alcohol free today and probably tomorrow, then will reassess, trying to journal or read sober lit but find it difficult to focus and crave the passing calming of my mind a drink would give

Morning all! Hope you are all OK and sleeping better and feeling better! My sleep has been so deep I can't tell you even with the 4 year old next to me... I am getting cranky though around 9pm and he's still shuffling around etc. H IS STILL ANNOYING ME. I'm not sure why but every little thing he does pisses me off. I think it's because I think he's selfish because it's me literally doing every single thing every single day with the kids. He goes the dishes but on his own time and he ended up gaming with 7yo last night until 9pm... I reckon his sleep has been better too since dry Jan but he's not admitting it! Hes definitely going to be drinking Feb 1st probably champagne. I don't think I will as the better sleep and behaviour outweighs it all!!!
@LegallyBlondeee don't worry about counting days etc we are all on our own journey and if you can moderate then amazing. I did moderate before dry Jan but still felt bleurghhh even after 1 drink. I would love to say my aim is until my birthday this year (nye)
How is the thumb @LegallyBlondeee?
Well done at @HearMeRoarr for feeling calmer after moderating. I hear you about the 5pm thing used to happen to me at 3- 4pm but it slowly goes wierdly... Time helps everything.
Day 14 whoop!!!