Day 1 for anyone just starting out

[Justdonthavethefirstone]

Hi all. This is my day 1. I have joined some other threads for support but thought I would start a new one for anyone just starting out on this journey. I have a drink problem. It got worse over lockdown.i have had day 1 before and failed but this time I am starting off prepared. I have books to read. I have joined Mumsnet for support and have told my family and friends.

@noel66 i think most of us have overshared. The anxiety will pass and if the person you shared with was drinking, they probly dont even remeber 😂 so dont behard on yourself.

But i am same. I need to stop completely as i have no control over the alcohol after the first.

Sorry for typos i need to learn to proof read

Thank you okayokayok . We can do this one day at a time🙂

Thank you justdont. It wasn't the first time I've said more than I meant to but hopefully it will be the last!

The more sober days you have the more those cringy moments disappear. The key is not to do it again. It's waking up in the morning and thinking we'll nothing because, you can't have done/said anything awful because you did not drink. Have a lovely evening everyone as we head for yet another sober day.

Hi everyone. I wanted to put out some words of encouragement. Someone I was close to has just paid the highest possible price for drinking, twice, in a very short period of time. It's affected so many of us, and her denial of responsibility for the situation situation, the devastation is just awful.

I am going to officially start a year alcohol free from the 1st September.

Just to clarify, I no longer wish to be close to her after the recent events. I can't deal with it any more

I'm looking forward to it all being a distant memory Rupert 🙂drinking my camomile tea before bed😁

@vegansprinkle I am so sorry, alcohol really can be destructive.

Some very similar lives to me kids (unruly) and wfh DHs NIGHTMARE @ynma1234

@Justdonthavethefirstone @Rupertpenrysmistress all our sad stories will fade in time. I feel.a lot more confident in myself. Standing up to DH more as I'm sticking to being sober (he's not that bad lol) but he got away with doing shag all before as if I said anything it would be turned on me. He is shaping up nicely now

@BunniesBunniesBunnies I'm glued to the other thread and in awe of you and a few others

14 days now, I found myself singing Barbara Streisand in the car this morning. WTF Unheard of a few weeks ago, running my car into a wall more like. My withdrawals have gone. Exercising like a mad thing (have to go back to work next week boo)

@vegansprinkle Janey, sounds so sad,

Counseling again tomorrow.

Still craving at certain times but determined.

Good luck everyone. And new joiners

Day 3 here too, we’ll I suppose day 4 now it’s after midnight and hoping to join in the fun!

My drinking had been creeping up over lockdown and I realised I hadn’t had a decent break in at least a year- only probably 2 weeks then. I’m hoping for a month off to start then I might try and push through to the end of the year.
There’s a family get together in a couple of weekends I’ll need to stay very strong for but I’ll be well off it by then.

DH having a beer or a whisky here and there isn’t/won’t bother me, I’ve asked him not to suggest wine for a while!

I’ve been having twinnings cold infusions in water or diet lemonade, they’re quite nice. I plan on stocking up on fever tree ginger beer, that a huge favourite.

Hope you’ve all had a good Tuesday, here’s to Wednesday

Sorry to read that @vegansprinkle and glad you’re putting yourself first.

Morning all. This is my day 3 as well 🙂slept pretty well and then anxious feeling is starting to fade although I feel a bit tearful for some reason. Hope everyone is doing ok today.

Morning everyone awful sleep again last night, never mind will nap later. Glad to hear everyone is feeling positive and starting to see some positive change, it's what we need.

vegansprinkle I am sorry to hear about your friend and it sounds like you are taking the right action, when I read stories like your one it makes me wonder what I put people through I guess I feel a little ashamed.

Can anyone tell me how I put names in my post I have tried various ways but cannot do it!!! I am on the app if that makes a difference.

Hope you all have a fantastic day.

Morning all day 4 here. I am exhausted yet i slep really well. Exhausted isnt too bad as I dont have energy to even think about alcohol.

I still have terrible anxiety, worrying About things that might happen in a years time. My Mind giving me such a hard time

But i can do today. I will do today

Ynwa that sounds really tough I was just going to start moaning about my morning but you have it way harder. Remind me how old is your eldest? It is true they do learn from us but there is so much you can do to help him too. I think a walk and a talk is a good thing, I think we forget how tough covid has been in young people their while life is upside down and I believe they get confidence in routine. Blaming each other is unhelpful but normal! Hope you day gets a little easier.

I feel so stressed this morning and I know just the act of opening and pouring some wine would calm me instantly but I will not do it

Oh no ynwa that sounds really hard. I'm also having some marriage troubles at the moment. It was that I over shared about at the weekend.

Thank you so much for the words of support ynwa. We can get through this together 🙏🙂

@Rupertpenrysmistress that sounds so hard. Please don’t be hard on yourself. Also don’t be too hard on your eldest either, he is going through a really hard time with lockdown and changes at school etc etc. Our kids will have their own fears and anxieties that we don’t and just like us sometimes their emotions just bubble over and they take it out on the people they know they can trust. I am not condoning the behaviour but these are very unusual times.

As for your husband laughing, that’s not really on. He can’t be in any way encouraging your son even if it’s done unintentionally. That’s not fair on you or your son