Day 1 for anyone just starting out

[Justdonthavethefirstone]

Hi all. This is my day 1. I have joined some other threads for support but thought I would start a new one for anyone just starting out on this journey. I have a drink problem. It got worse over lockdown.i have had day 1 before and failed but this time I am starting off prepared. I have books to read. I have joined Mumsnet for support and have told my family and friends.

[Justdonthavethefirstone]

@Okayokayok

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I have idea what happened to my post

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@Ynwa1234 that is so hard but you can do this. I don’t think I have the strength yet to refuse a drink so your doing amazing. Keep going

[Justdonthavethefirstone]

I always do the whole I can moderate thing. Day 3 today has been hard. And today I thought oh if I get through today maybe I can just stick to drinking saturdays. But I know I won’t. It’s a constant battle inside of little voices. I read somewhere maybe Annie grace that if you give the voice a name, and treat it as an annoying person then it’s easier to overcome it and chase it away

[Justdonthavethefirstone]

Our shop closes at 6 pm and the next one is quite a journey away. I know when I get to 6 then today has been beaten as I have no alcohol but this last hour is an eternity.

[Justdonthavethefirstone]

@Okayokayok your house sounds like mine, busy busy. I have 3 teenagers and 2 dogs so never a dull moment

@Rupertpenrysmistress i agree alcohol stops you being who you want to and can be. I am so ashamed of myself. But we are doing this and one day we will all be liking our sober selves. You saying that your sober self feels like they control their own life is exactly what I want as my life often feels out with my control.

[Justdonthavethefirstone]

Yeah the whole I will just do Saturday, then it’s a wee bit earlier on a Saturday, then it’s a Friday and t goes on and one. I can’t believe how much I have been drinking these past few months. It really is shocking

[Rupertpenrysmistress]

Be strong guys you can do this. It must be so so difficult if someone else is drinking around you not sure I could cope. You need plenty of alternative options, af beer and cider, I love iced coffee at the moment, anything to stop you reaching for alcohol. Can you go for a walk that's why I love my audiobook's. I have also set myself a 10,000 step per day challenge as I am not!! Dieting so eating what I want but, trying to offset. I need to occupy my mind in the witching hour. We can do this.

Think I will take myself for a nice cool walk In a minute, just waiting for my toenails to dry 😃.

No one ever woke up in the morning saying I really regret not having that wine last night, only regret drinking it

What about box sets not sure what you are into but my faves at the moment are, damages on prime and Brooklyn 99 on Netflix. Also some new detective books my lovely dad gave me.


I am here if you need me. Be strong.

[Justdonthavethefirstone]

@Ynwa1234 sorry but I think your husband is being a bit unfair. He needs to support these early days but this is a great opportunity to prove him and you that you can and will do this and it gives you that little bit more power over the alcohol. You can do this

[Justdonthavethefirstone]

@Rupertpenrysmistress I love that saying that no one wakes up regretting not having a wine 🤣 that’s my new mantra and so true

[Rupertpenrysmistress]

Allan Carr explains this really well in his stop drinking for women, it's very cleverly done to sell us the life with alcohol, that is somehow better, how amazing we all look drinking how sociable and fun.


Play that tape forward and what do our nights on the wine look like? here is my last one, started cooking dinner, can't remember eating it, can remember vomiting can't remember sleeping, can remember the pure hatred for myself and the talk from my DH. When dh told me how I had behaved my stomach sank I thought I would vomit again. I took that chat and spoke to my DC about my unacceptable behaviour and how damaging alcohol is, how it makes people behave in an odd way and how there is nothing good about it. I have told my children I am not drinking again, some of you may not agree with me involving my children but they deserved my honesty. I cannot break my promise to my DC . We can do this with each other.

Do you see how picture perfect my night on the wine was?

[noel66]

Hello justdonthavethefirstone can I join your thread? I'm on another one but like you said a lot of the people are further in their journey. This is my day 2🙂

[Rupertpenrysmistress]

Hi noel66 day 2 for me too. This is a really supportive thread, the more the merrier.

[Okayokayok]

Well I've just been for a run/power walk, legs are aching and I got drenched! But feeling good! Now to tackle bath/bedtime with kids! Got myself some tomic water and limes for later.

I'm lucky that my OH has agreed to massively cut down as well but I've decided if he has a beer at the weekend ill try the alcohol free version.

I've written down the reasons I'm doing this and they are 1. My health 2. My mental health (this one is my priority) 3. My bank balance 4. Because I'm an all or nothing person and 'all' is ruining my life slowly - so nothing it is!

[Justdonthavethefirstone]

@noel of course your welcome. I think its nice to have a group who are just starting the journey as the early days are tough and for me i fond seeing people mentioning 100 days overwhelming rather than encouraging. I am still at the stage of small steps.

I cant believe we are nearly at the end of another day. We should be so proud.

[Justdonthavethefirstone]

@Rupertpenrysmistress
Playi g it forward is a good idea as is sharing what brough us here

My last wine night consisted of me, drinking wine with dinner, dont know what dinner was, i then sneakedoffto shop to buy more, pretending to be sober behind my mask, i then settled down with my family to watch tv, hiding the wine in a coffee travel mug.

Woke up sleeping upright on sofa, feeling dreadful and not remembering a thing from night before. Luckily my kids are near adukts so dont need me inthat sense but the shame is just overwhelming

[noel66]

Thank you 🙂yes I agree seeing 100 days sober is very overwhelming! I was feeling extremely anxious yesterday but feeling a little better today. My copy of this naked mind has arrived so have just started reading that.

[noel66]

My reason for being here is after drinking to much on Sunday and over sharing with close family I felt extremely anxious and ashamed. I've realised all my past problems were either caused by or not helped by alcohol. I hope to improve my mental health and my relationships and be healthier. I realised I'm not good at just reducing so need to stop completely. Thank you so much for starting this thread!

[Okayokayok]

@noel66 I've been there, oversharing and then the feeling of fear the next day. It will pass. Onwards and upwards.