This is it, my day 1

[Stopthisshit]

I drink too much
I need to stop
This is my day 1
Join me

@jackstini that's great that you sidetracked the cravings!
The NYE party went with a swing, everyone was on it but I stayed on Nosecco and felt so uplifted by the kindest comments from my friends. It goes to show that as long as you are surrounded by lovely friends who support you, this new way of life is easy.

How is everyone doing?
I had a big test last night - friends to our house for dinner. And was really thrilled that I managed it on sparkling water.
the only difficult bit was saying no to the first drink - after that I appreciate everything about not drinking. I felt so much more present in every way and I enjoyed the evening alot more because I wasn't drinking.
it's painful to think how much time and authentic engagement with people (including my children) I've lost through drinking. not even from getting particularly drunk - just a few drinks is enough to take me away from being fully present to those around me.
day 9 I think - I'm not much of a day counter. but I'm not taking anything for granted, having stopped drinking for 3 months a few times in the past.

@Ontheshingle theres another thread on here called:,-

Anyone else stopping completely in 2020?

It's full of people going a completely dry (me included) I think you will find it helpful

@Ontheshingle that’s fantastic. I totally understand what you mean about not being present after a couple of drinks. For me, a couple of glasses would also sap my energy, so that I would really not be interested in getting off the sofa to see what the kids were up to, etc. With a glass in my hand, I was in adult time, or so I thought, and mentally and physically checked out. But I try not to focus on time lost through “adult time”, but remember that I could so easily just have kept going with those choices, since all my friends live that way too and society is full of messages telling me that I deserve it, that I need wine to get through adult life, etc. So I try to be grateful for finally seeing it for what it is - a thief rather than a support. You are doing great.

Really good point about not being completely present after a drink or 2

I can absolutely think of times I have lost because of this - huge incentive to keep going