New Year, New Start. Probably dries and lows as we Tryers to be Dryers try 2019.

[Frouby]

New thread for the New Year.

Support thread for those who want to moderate and reduce alcohol. Absolutely no judgement, just advice and support. Absolutely everyone is welcome whatever your goals or hopes for 2019.

Am no good at clicky linke but there are previous threads and we look forward to continuing to moderate and reduce in 2019.

Especially today. 14 coming for 3 courses at 3pm and I have a raging hangover to start the year. Fml.

Water, that's brilliant. It sounds as if you are back on track.

Needless to say, I was awake at silly o'clock with beer fear. Managed to get back to sleep in time for the school alarm to go off.

Now feel tired, sick, headachey, cross with myself, paranoid, and miserable. Fab.

@dionysa don't feel too hard on yourself. I've done a week, but also feel tired headachy and full of a stonker of a cold. January is a tough bloody time regardless I think!

Dionysa - I know exactly how you are feeling and it sucks. But, today is a new day and another chance. Stay strong.

NC4Now - I’ve seen an App advertised called ‘Calm’ or something which apparently helps to relax you and aids sleep. It might be worth a try?

Day 2 here. I managed day 1 helped by a Becks Blue and some not too disgusting AF wine ( and a stinking cold). I was v pleased with my first star on my ‘Drink free days’ app.

Think I might download an app, might do one for dh too.

Only cos we can start with 2 gold stars .

Day 3 here. Will be tough I think. Dh back to work today which I am pleased about as it's a day earlier. But will come in and open a can of lager. Which makes it much tougher for me.

And I got weighed today. 2 days of no beer, no cheese, no crisps, no chocolate. Guess how much I have lost?

That's right, absolutely fuck all 😂😂😂. Can't cope with actually dieting as well as drying but just cutting out the snacks and crap. And obviously the beer.

Perhaps I need longer than 2 days for about 5 weeks of abuse for it to have an effect tho.

This week is going to be bloody hard work. Ds was inconsolable at school this morning. He fell asleep at 7pm, woke up at 9.30pm thinking it was morning. Fml. So he is exhausted. Dd is bright eyed and bushy pony tailed every morning but will crumple probably tomorrow after school, and DHs alarm went off at 6am when he hasn't been waking up until 10am.

The Frouby house will be very early to bed today I reckon.

Ahh frouby I struggled with DS2 yesterday morning. He just couldn’t sleep on Sunday night with back to school nerves.
Day 1 is always the worst.
And yes, dieting simultaneously is a killer. I need to do better today. Yesterday was a write off, physically, emotionally, everything-ly.
I’ve a huge list of things to do which at 3am my head is full of but come daytime I’m just too tired.
I think the best thing I can do is activate my depression relapse prevention plan, because I’m definitely heading down that road if I’m not careful.

Frouby, def get the App - it give you that extra boost/reminder which might help. Think you might need more than 2 days to see weight loss - hopefully you’ll start to see results soon. Maybe just giving up the booze is enough for now - don’t be too hard on yourself! We all need a bit of extra insulation in January 😅

@Frouby give it a little more time for the weight loss, often the scales stay the same for a while but if you measure your waist instead that will show a reduction.
@NC4Now Alcohol doesn't help with sleep or anxiety and if you can have a few days off I'm sure you will feel more in control of everything
@GhostSauce DS had put the soda stream on the fridge but not far enough back so when I opened the door it hit me on the head and fell apart after nearly stabbing me in the eye
@Flossie44 I've let things go since DP has practically moved in. I don't like drinking alone but with him it's easy to have a drink before dinner. Half a bottle isn't loads but it is too much for me and the menopause to cope with. I'll get back into good habits hopefully as my jeans feel tighter and my running is definitely worse!
@Canshopwillshop well done on Day 2. I don't like AF drinks but know they help a lot of people cut down on booze.

Want to so much be dry tonight. However first day back to school for dd2 since November!! Quite anxious about her being there!! Got meeting with the new head this pm. On the way to school this morn dd1, who goes to a different school, said to me “so you’ll pick me up normal time unless dd2 has been taken to hosp, then you will contact school, yea?” Why the fuck do we all have to live in this risk assessment world. It’s so tough.
Saw a ‘friend’ this morn who spent a lot of time telling me how she’s organising a plush bday party for her husband. Went into all the details. How fabulous it’s going to be in a lovely hotel etc etc. (We’ve been friends for years. We’ve been away with them several times too). Then she drops it in “we won’t be inviting you both, as you have dd poorly so prob won’t be able to come anyway so thought we’d save the invite”. I feel so hurt. She’d even told us the date etc. Yes we’ve got a v v poorly little girl. But doesn’t mean to say we should be like conderella and never invited to the ball. It’s bad enough having to live every day like it’s your last, let alone be reminded that we can’t function and enjoy like like others. I was so floored by her saying that, that I could hardly speak til it was time to go.

So I’m guessing at this point, that I will drown my sorrows as soon as I can. I feel bereft. I live in a bubble when I have dd2 home, I can manage her and we are ok. As soon as she’s back in school, reality hits at how fucking different our lives are to others.

Fml ten thousand million times over right now

Flossie, she’s a complete bitch, that is HORRIBLE, I am sorry. How unkind and vile of her.

I hope dd is ok today.

I nearly cried at work today but managed not to. Want a drink and it’s only midday but I’ve added alcohol free wine to my online shop instead. And chocolate.

Oh Flossie that was so unkind of her. Surely the right thing to say would be ‘we’d love you to come if you are able to, but we understand the situation with DD, so please don’t feel like there’s any pressure.’
I’ve had similar things happen and it throws the whole friendship into question for me. I know I couldn’t have joined in but I felt like they didn’t want me there.
Hugs from the NC4 camp

Flossie, that is just unspeakable. Who is she to decide for you? And surely anyone with half a brain would know that what you need is lots of people around you who will love you and take care of you.
Thinking of you and your DD2 xx

Gah why are people so terrible Flossie? What a shitty thing to say. I hope she's feeling horrible now but some people are just rhinoceros-skinned. I bet her party will be much the poorer without you.

I am starting to feel more positive about dry January. Skin is feeling softer. Looking forward to losing weight and feeling healthier. Just wish it wasn't so dark and I could get a bit more fresh (well, freshish, this is London) air.

DD1 is back at school today. I am home with DD2 but we are back in normal routine. Except I had to wake DD1 up this morning and drag her in. Bet she'll be vile when she comes home.

Flossie - I’m sorry to hear that your DD is so poorly. I hope she got on ok at school today. It was very thoughtless of your friend to say that - some people are so insensitive!

Flossie I’m sorry your friend was so insensitive. Hope your dd was ok at school today.
I’m having a shit start to the year, my washing machine bust last week and I’ve just tried to leave work and the car won’t start. And into that UC not paying me last month due to payroll cockup and the council stopping my council tax benefit and wanting £375 by the 15th and I just want to curl up in a ball with a bottle of red and let someone else be the grown up for a bit.
Day 8 here and it’s going to be a tough evening.

I’m completing my tax return. I was part employed, part self employed. Only it looks like my employers have ballsed up their end and I owe megabucks 😫😫😫
I bloody hated that job, too.
Query central now.
I will not drink. I will not drink. I will not drink.
The blanket of sobriety is coming back out tonight.

Oh Zoflora and NC4 that sucks for both of you. Hugs and camomile tea heading your way.

Hi all, can I join you? I’m trying my annual attempt at moderation by doing dry jan and hoping that this will be the year I can miraculously stop at the one glass. How do people even do that? I tried to stop in November and did really well until December which was a write off. On Day 8 now, so far so good but still feel and look like shit.

Tired welcome, 8 days is amazing!

Flossie your mate is a cunt. Next time you have a do say 'I would have invited you and yours but you're a cunt so I haven't'. Hugs lovely.

Day 3 here. Was really really tough to say no to DH earlier. Kept myself busy making twatting quiche. Dion I could have done with your baking beads, realised ds had mine then I threw them away as they were covered in fluff and sticky. Fml. Blind baking didn't go quite to plan. I might have squashed the bases down a bit.

Am hoping to be at least 3lb lighter tomorrow. I better be anyway 😂😂

Welcome tired. I look like shit too and don’t feel great either. Oh well at least I haven’t got wine fear

Zoflora and NC4, commiserations 💐

Tired - I look like shit too!!

Frouby....maybe we need this added into the title....

Frouby - your baking beads made me Pmsl!! Not funny for you but an hilarious read!!

“Twatting quiche”

Zoflora and Tired: Day 8??? That is seriously impressive.

Day One here, yet again. I have felt awful all day, but still wanted a drink at 6PM. FML. Instead I have had two full fat yoghurts, in the hope that the milky feeling would cancel out the 'want a drink' feeling. So far, so good. I wouldn't normally eat them, but I suppose they are probably less calorific than wine.

Frouby, you would be more than welcome to my baking balls. I bought them in a moment of optimism, thinking that if I possessed them, I would miraculously become the kind of person who bakes. I didn't.

NC4, I hope you have added to the Blanket.

Can i just ask wtf are baking balls/beads? I even did bake today. Admittedly I forgot the baking powder so the banana bread resembles more of a biscuit, and I burnt dd2's biscuit giraffe, but still. I also bought furniture paint on the basis my evenings are going to be filled with creative productivity instead of wine. Not tonight, obviously, but one day. In my defence I am revising for a test thing tomorrow and soon have to dismantle 2 tables that I rashly listed for bulky waste collection tomorrow.