New Year, New Start. Probably dries and lows as we Tryers to be Dryers try 2019.

[Frouby]

New thread for the New Year.

Support thread for those who want to moderate and reduce alcohol. Absolutely no judgement, just advice and support. Absolutely everyone is welcome whatever your goals or hopes for 2019.

Am no good at clicky linke but there are previous threads and we look forward to continuing to moderate and reduce in 2019.

Especially today. 14 coming for 3 courses at 3pm and I have a raging hangover to start the year. Fml.

@Sioux I found out I was pregnant at 15 weeks and was on a bottle a day habbit and was in your boat (worried as hell). However I stopped after I found out and was the only time I was AF for months. My DD was born perfectly healthy no issues and is a sweet calm 18 month year old. Don't worry or beat yourself up just try stop and relax.

Can I join in too? I've drunk to excess for years and have done well in cutting out spirits. But my wine consumption is still way too high - and I have no idea how much I've drink over the holidays.

My emphasis is I need to lose a lot of weight and cutting down the wine is an important part of that. Finishing the wine off tonight and not buying any more till the weekend is a start. Dh is on board too!

Can I join too? Not bothering with dry Jan cause last time I did it I just reset my old habits on 1st Feb and made up for lost time!
My goals are to moderate (with regards to sugar aswell cause that's another thing I need to tackle!) and have no sugar or wine Mon-Thur throughout 2019 and limit it to one bottle of wine Fri and Sat and a chocolate treat on Sunday.
Need to lose weight / give my liver a rest / be generally healthier.

Wow there’s some serious plans here for 2019!! I’m mega impressed.
I’m just still wanting to moderate, not drink a bottle of wine a night, and looking for 2 AF days a week!! Which, as you know from previous thread..is a mega plan here too!!

Dion - how you doing lovely?
Frouby - how did the epic feast turn out?
Anglais - you ok lovely? Not heard from you for a while. Hope it’s because you’re having too good a time. Any New Year’s Day races?

Abby360 I like the sound of your plan! I need to cut down sugar too and lose at least a stone in weight. I might take a couple of weeks off completely first, rather than a whole month, that way I might feel less inclined to go mad as soon as I start drinking again. Or maybe I'm kidding myself!! I read that it takes 7-10 days for alcohol to completely leave your system so 14 days seems a good amount of time off.

Flossie, your plan and mine sound pretty similar. But as we know, easier said than done!

I am still a bit cross with myself for having Cava on Day One yesterday. But in a way, it could have been worse, because what I did is what I'm actually aiming for - namely having a couple of glasses, like a normal person (or like the person I used to be) and then stop.

Who knows how today will pan out, though.

@NewYearNewDisaster Oh God, yes, the long and boring evenings. They seem to last about three weeks each.

@Recoveryishard How are you feeling today?

Morning all. Welcome new dryers.

Lots of lovely plans being made. Mine are much more modest. Dry 3 nights a week at least, and 2 of those consecutive so sunday and Monday not a drop of alcohol will pass my lips. Moderate on 2 days a week to 2 drinks and then 2 free days which I don't intend exceed 4 or 5 drinks.

Dinner was lovely. I always get really stressed prepping and cooking but once it's out I love it. Had a lovely few hours afterwards just chatting and gossiping with everyone.

Didn't drink much either considering. 4 bottles of bud and 2 small glasses of wine. And won't be drinking much if anything today, dd off to the cinema later and needs a lift home later on, about 8pm she reckons.

Currently trying to drag ds (5) from his bed. Little sod not being going to sleep while midnight so lying in bed all morning. Hes back at school monday so we need to reset his routine before then.

Its not going well. I turned his lights on and opened curtains at 9am, shouted him at 9.30am, went up at 10am and he back asleep, dh just been in and ds said 'am sleeping daddy, 1 more nap'. Fml.

Morning all loving the plans here I was AF last night so feeling happy but I'm alone this evening so trying to think of something to do or else I will get a bottle

Haven't had a drink for 34 years, was drinking litre of vodka daily!

No alcohol yesterday, while DH polished off the leftovers from NYE. He's fine today, I've been up all night poorly, this doesn't seem fair!

Anyone else got any plans how to fill their time? I'm arranging nice things for weekend mornings to try and keep the motivation not to lose it to a hangover. Also going to think about buying nicer food with the money id save on the wine I won't be drinking with it!

Keen to join. First AF night since October - think I only had 7-10 days AF in 2018. Usually managed to keep to a limit of 1 bottle of wine a day but now creeping up. Feeling so unfit for it and seriously losing my memory! Aim is to have as many days off in 2019 as I have on though trying dry January. Hope I succeed🙄. Keeping a diary.

To the girl who is pg, I drank v little in first trimester but had one glass of wine a week after that. Having a healthy baby was motivation enough and I have 3 healthy children. I guess the issue is they don’t know how alcohol affects the foetus in pregnancy so having none is all the health providers can recommend. Congrats by the way. V exciting time!

Hi, can I join too?
I've only recently admitted I have a serious problem with alcohol but it was so hard over Christmas and New year to stop drinking with all of the parties and events.
But now that's all over I am going to stop! If I'm being honest, I don't want to but I have to, I need to! Before I ruin everything.

@frouby how you getting on with the little one?
@paranoidanddoomed good luck! Do you have a plan/goal?

My plan is to just stop. I didn't have a drink yesterday (i was very hungover though) and I haven't had one today so far. I'm just trying to distract myself.
I do have things going on at the moment that I would like to just drown my sorrows but I'm putting all my effort into not doing that.
I have a party to go to on Saturday and I really want to be sober, it will be the first party ever that I haven't had a drink so that will be a big achievement for me if I can do it.

Afternoon, all.

Paranoid, I think an awful lot of us have sorrows we try to drown (I certainly do). Currently feeling gloomy about the prospect of this evening AF. The really awful thing is that I manage one night (if I'm really lucky, and normally with a hangover), feel pleased with myself, then realise that every night is going to be like this from now onwards. And that doesn't fill me with delight. So I am already thinking about wine, and it's only 4.45. FML. I would certainly be struggling with a party. I would draw the line at being AF for that.

@recoveryishard I've seen your post on the old thread. Please come over here. We will hand-hold. xx

Frouby, I have decided that the school day starts at 4 PM. Or that's what DD seems to think will happen once she drags herself out of bed.

Happy New Year and thanks to Frouby for the new thread.
welcome to all new tryers to be dryers, I'm already lost with all the new posters but good luck to you all!
Flossie I'm fine, been up to my neck in cleaning and washing and ironing due to lots of back to back gîte rentals. Glad Christmas and NY are over and done with as even my simple ones are faff I don't need. Things fine with DP now and DS still banned from the PlayStation and is used to it now.
No AF days but generally half a bottle of wine so no excess. Will get back to AF in the week from Monday when teaching and school starts again, looking forward to it. Can't be bothered to even try Dry January but need to be stricter about moderating although it is difficult with DP around so much.
Dion just try for a couple of consecutive nights AF, I hope 2019 is better for you, you deserve it

Hi everyone, I need to stop drinking, I have slipped into a bottle of wine a night habit. Haven’t had a drink since mid day New Year’s Eve and planning on a dry Jan. I choose drink instead of food and then eat rubbish, rarely get hangovers but constantly feel fuzzy in the mornings. I hate to think how much it’s costing and it isn’t healthy for me at all. I don’t have a stop switch when drinking at home and I need to make some life changes.

Also hate waking up sweating in the night, my sleep is not good.

Zoflora, join the club...

Thanks @dionysa

No alcohol yesterday, today good so far.

I found it hard to drop off to sleep last night completely sober.

I seem to have a devil voice between 5-7 pm telling me kids tea time and bedtime would feel so much better with wine on the go. If I can stick it out till 8.30-9 then I know I'll manage the day booze free.

I want to lose weight. I also want this nagging random discomfort under my right rib cage to sod off. I'm slightly bothered it might be my liver.

Hello everyone, I’m slinking back in to confess to drinking like a bastard all of December and November etc

Drank yesterday because Tuesday (FFS!) but today is day 1. Again.

Easilyflattered could be a sign of an inflamed liver or it could be your gall bladder. I’ve been getting ‘attacks’ stabbing pain in that exact area which radiates onto my stomach. The pain is excruciating and I throw up (a lot). Always happens at night. I’m off to the GP tomorrow about it. I think I’ve got a gall stone.

The last time I had my bloods done my liver function was slightly elevated. Might be worthwhile getting checked out even if it’s only to set your mind at ease.

Water, welcome back!!