New Year, New Start. Probably dries and lows as we Tryers to be Dryers try 2019.

[Frouby]

New thread for the New Year.

Support thread for those who want to moderate and reduce alcohol. Absolutely no judgement, just advice and support. Absolutely everyone is welcome whatever your goals or hopes for 2019.

Am no good at clicky linke but there are previous threads and we look forward to continuing to moderate and reduce in 2019.

Especially today. 14 coming for 3 courses at 3pm and I have a raging hangover to start the year. Fml.

Evening all. I’m on Day 5 AF which I’m most impressed with. I’ve been exercising, which I find helps me. Slept really well last night too and hoping that continues tonight.

Saturday night is scary though. Normally a night of G&T’s for me...

Pringle, Day 5? That is hardcore. I am feeling pleased with myself at Day One (again). Went to the chippy with the DC and am now feeling so bloated that I won't be having anything else to eat or drink this evening.

Flossie, it's a bit like grape juice, but slightly less sweet than the usual AF stuff. It has green tea or something in it, which takes the edge off the sweetness a bit. Though it's still sweeter than I would ideally like (I don't much care for sweet things in general, not just in wine).

Now waiting to hear from DP. FML. This is when I normally need a drink.

Oh, and just because I know you've all been wondering... Stupid perimenopausal period is still deciding whether it's going to bother or not . Am hoping it is, so it is over and done with by the time DP returns - but on current form, it will probably decide to go away now and return in a week's time. What fun it is. My real favourites are the ones that arrive after a 60-day gap. No wonder DD and I fall out with one another with all this hormonal stuff going on.

Hello! Checking in as I almost lost the thread but am on holiday with dsis so uncharacteristically happy as dsis is ace and I love winter holidays. Also not really counting the units other than hangover damage limitation but will check right back in next week as have work plus DM visiting plus healthy living January. Ugh. Lots of love xx

Morning all.

Curry and poker night was brilliant, really enjoyed it. Love my cousin who is one of the nicest people I know and lots of fun to be around. Ds was a little shit though. Said as a treat he could sit in my bed, watch his tablet and tv while we ate. He was up and down a few timea which was fine. Until he didn't come down for a while until he emerged with my 2 tubs of no 7 day and night moisteriser.

Full of bastarding sudacreme. Full sized pots they were, only opened a few weeks ago. The first time I have had full size pots for ages. Fml.

Then when I went to bed and brush my teeth I couldn't work out why the toothpaste wasn't foaming. Bastard sudacreme all over the toothbrushes.

Little twat. It's no wonder I drink like a fecking fish.

Anyway. Tonight is the last night of free drinking. Tomorrow I will be dry, as dry as the Sahara. Have ginger cordial ready, and lots of ice so am all set for a good run of dryness.

Probably last until Monday night when ds is hysterical because he is tired, dh is under my feet all day because he isn't back at work until later in the week and dd is stressing because its assessment week at school. Fml, fml, fml.

Today is day 4, so have done 3 days AF so far. REALLY wanted to drink last night but didn’t. Will read the thread now.

Day 5.

Yesterday my body temp was all over the place. Today my skin has broken out. I'm red blotchy and spotty. I might be sober but I'm a minger.

Frouby. Laughed out loud at Sudocrem!! 😂😂

Bloody kids!!! Is it any wonder we’re all here?
Just a small glass of wine for me last night, and tonight I will be AF. The blanket of sobriety is growing.

I weighed myself this morning. OMG. I’ve entered the next stone bracket. 😫

NC4 I am getting on the scales Monday. If it's below 13st 7lbs I will be pleased. I am a fat bloated mess. Will post on here what it is to hold myself accountable. Need a stone off at least to get back in 80% of my clothes.

Sigh. Fucking lager.

Anyway. Obviously I am having my last drink tonight. Couple of cans down, will be having tes soon and an early night I think.

Bloody DH pissed me off today. Its our first wedding anniversary in May. We have had 2 nights alone in 5 years, one was our wedding night and another 3 years ago when we went to a concert and stayed overnight in a hotel. We didn't have a honeymoon as we were skint.

Anyway we said last month we would gk away for our anniversary, just for 1 night. Get my mam to have the dcs, treat ourselves to a few drinks, a naice meal and hotel for the night. He phoned me earlier, while with his mate. There are a group of dhs friends going to the races, then see a concert after the races (Jess Glyn). Can we go because it's our anniversary and it would be a treat.

I love the mate dh was with. He was our best man, we went on holiday with them the year before. I like his wife though we aren't close particularly.

The rest of the couples going I don't really have much time for. I call them (secretly) the Stepford Wives. The husbands are boring, arrogant, sexist wankers. One of the wives told me she was offended by me saying Cunt last time I saw them. How I laughed (no dcs or oaps present at the time, very adult environment ie the pub, was said in conversation not at someone). Apart from best man and cunt hater no one else bothered to come to our wedding.

I can't actually think of anything I would like to do less on our wedding anniversary than spend it with people I don't like much. DH looking sad and flopping around. I am standing my ground.

He knows I don't like them. Twat.

It's enough to drive me to the gin.

Frouby Sneaky fucker framing a night on the piss with his mates as a lovely anniversary treat for you.

Do you really care what they think? Races? Jess Glynne? Go, enjoy, drop the c-bomb all day long,because you don't give a shit if they like you or not. The stepfords may disapprove, but I bet their husbands love you! ❤️

NewYear I really couldn't give a shiny shite what they think 😂😂😂. But DH does because they are the friends he grew up with. He feels left out because we don't live in the village (thank fucking christ) and they all socialise regularly together. And we don't.

So I have always politely smiled and nodded. Until I started pretty much throwing the odd cunt or fuck or tell them some 'shocking' story about when I used to see their husbands before they were married or even together, absolutely off their tits on Es and Whizz in dodgy nightclubs back in the late 90s/00s when I first knew DH.

Apparently no one likes that shit either. Who knew?

And the husbands are actually more annoying than the wives mainly. Arrogant, middle management, tossers who think they are Very Important and Should Therefore Be Listened To By People With Vaginas If They Are Lucky Enough To Be Spoken To. They don't like me at all, not that I give a shit. I think they worry I will either corrupt their usually well behaved wives (I only ever did that once and it was very funny) or, as I usually do, call them out on their shitty, racist, sexist 'jokes'.

They epitomize male privilege. And I really don't want to spend my first wedding anniversary either biting my tongue or causing a riot. Especially not when I have had a drink. Not that it makes much difference, have sat with them sober while they have all been drunk before and they are even worse if you haven't had a drink to take the edge off them.

So no, I won't be going. I love the races, and I would love to go but not with them. To spend the best part of £300 to hate it I might as well pay for the gym for a year .

Oh Frouby.

I am slightly muddled due to an excess of gin (a friend came round with a bottle - she has problems with her twat of an XH, so fuck Dry January).

However. Part of your problem is the fact that men are complete tossers, however lovely they are otherwise. Any right-thinking person (i.e. a woman) would know that this is not the way to spend your anniversary. But men are in a different fucking stupid universe.

As for the Stepford Wives and their Male Privilege husbands. Well. I'm not sure what to say to that one. But I'm guessing you are a gazillion times nicer and more fun than any of them. I know whom I'd rather spend an evening with.

FWIW, which is not much, I wouldn't want to go to the races with them either. Especially not for £300!!!

Here, DP is upsetting me, just by being not here and pretending to his work mates that he doesn't have a long-standing girlfriend. Am I really that shameful? FML.

Frouby I’ve ballooned. 15st 1. I’ve never been in the 15s before. In fact late pregnancy aside, I’ve never been in the 14s till this bastarding year. FML.

I grew up in a village. I get it. The blokes and the wives and the Es and whizz stories that no-one talks about any more. It’s a weird world. I left but if I see any of the kids I grew up with there’s a thing that binds us.
I still wouldn’t go to the races with them!

Meanwhile, my exDH has come out of the woodwork and wants to talk. This has rattled me somewhat. However, I’m strong and protective of my little world and my boys.

NC4, will be thinking of you and XH. I can well imagine why this has rattled you... x

Well. Been on the bastard scales. 13st 6lbs and 4 fecking oz. Am 5ft 5in so should be about 10stone. Though at 10st I look rough, 11st I look ok.

So just 2st, 6lb and 4oz to lose then. Was about 12st when I got married in May. Fml, fml, fml.

So. No more lager, no more wine and I need to really cut down on any alcohol. More veg, less crap and no more fecking quality street. Or cheese and biscuits. Or sneaky slices of cheese on toast.

So dry tonight. First time since we travelled back from holiday. And dry until at least Wednesday.

Will hopefully pee at least 4lbs off though.

Frouby, I’m with you lovely!! I’m 5’6 and have always been about 11st since having dd2. (Was always 10st prior to her but hey!!) I’ve now crept up to 13st!! Want desperately to get to 11st again. That’s my goal. Want to go back to slimming world but can’t get to the bloody group til end of jan!! By that time I’ll be 14st!!!! I need motivation of the group!!
Cooking a roast for dinner tonight..already thinking of the wine I’ll be drinking with it!! That’s mentally bad isn’t it!! Only just had breakfast!!!!

So much for AF last night. I polished off a bottle of wine then as I was about to go to bed DS1 came down for the first time in a few days and decided to be sociable, so I got on the gin.
I feel terrible. A terrible mother, terribly anxious and stressed. Just awful. I’ve been crying this morning.
I’ve been doing so well with my mental health but these holidays and the re-emerging of XH have really sent me into a spin.

@Frouby Same! I'd been necking the leftover Xmas roses and cheese since the DJ app tells me I've saved 2600 cals in booze, but I'm starting to realise that's s terrible idea.

I might tell DP that if he hasn't eaten them all by end of day I'm binning them.

So sick of being 34 years old and feeling like a fat roly bloated walrus. I'm going on a big holiday in feb and none of my size 12-14s are going to fit, I'm going to look like an over stuffed saveloy.

@NC4Now It's ok, we all have the regret. It's such a horrible feeling the next day.

I've spent many a hangover in tears. It sounds like you should give yourself a day of being kind to yourself, drink lots of tea and hot chocolate and curl up on the sofa. Beating yourself up is completely pointless, though I know it's hard not to.

Thanks Ghost. I rang my mum who was kind to me. I’m taking the boys round for lunch soon.
Hoping I feel better when I get there.

frouby stand your ground on that one! They sound vile.

Hey NC4 - don’t beat yourself up 💐

Dionysa why doesn’t he admit he has a girlfriend? That would piss me off too 💐