New Year, New Start. Probably dries and lows as we Tryers to be Dryers try 2019.

[Frouby]

New thread for the New Year.

Support thread for those who want to moderate and reduce alcohol. Absolutely no judgement, just advice and support. Absolutely everyone is welcome whatever your goals or hopes for 2019.

Am no good at clicky linke but there are previous threads and we look forward to continuing to moderate and reduce in 2019.

Especially today. 14 coming for 3 courses at 3pm and I have a raging hangover to start the year. Fml.

Dreading the supermarket shop tomoz..will goto far end of the shop to avoid temptation

Well done Zoflora. I have my eyes on the one week prize but weekend will be trickiest bit

Still bloody tired. I go to bed at the same time as my DD these days but the 5 year old wakes me up every bloody night.

Well done those of you who stayed off it and don’t beat yourself up you others.

Longest - do you drink beer ? The Heineken 00 is actually ok. Nicer than becks blue or there’s Nanny State by Brew Dog which is good. These got me through a party last weekend.

Yes I have just stocked up on nanny state. Had one yesterday. Was nice!

Not dry here. Done 3 days in January and thats 3 more than December's dry days. Had 3 x 35ml gins, really enjoyed them but did miss lager I must admit.

Lager is no good for my belly though. Gin isn't either but it's not as bad calorie wise as lager.

Off to bed shortly, its hard work this week dragging my arse out of bed. Not sure if I will be wet or dry tomorrow, not decided yet. Possibly up early Friday morning so should be dry.

However. Am not making any promises. Except to stay off the lager and wine. Otherwise I am never going to shift my post holiday and Christmas gut.

Day 3 and feeling less bloated. Had 3 hours sleep just hope I can get.some more tonight.

After last night's fail, I am wondering how anyone gets beyond Day One. I can seem to manage Day One, normally as a result of feeling hung over. I know I have managed Day Two in the past, but can't remember for the life of me how I did it. Any advice?

I’ve found that having no alcohol in the house, getting home and putting on my pj’s helps. There isn’t anything in the house to drink and going to buy some requires at least 20 mins of concerted effort to get dressed and go out. So lots of time to consider whether you actually want to. And given these cold evenings not an attractive prospect!

Eating early, as I usually started drinking as I cooked tea for my dd and I’d think I’d have something later. But I didn’t I’d drink the bottle and then snack on unhealthy things.

I’ve started a bullet journal and I spend time doing that in the evenings and aim to read a chapter of a book a night. I’ve also started having one household job extra to do so it occupies the time. And I’m going to bed when dd does!

If all else fails, get in the bath.

Hope some of that helps.

I have just done 3 days, was tough but not as tough as getting up for a school run with a stroppy 5 year old with a mild hangover. So I can loan my 5 year old to you if that helps?

Feel pretty bleurgh this morning. Only had 3 gins, obviously I can't handle 3 gins. My kitchen looks like a bomb has gone off because I couldn't be arsed to wash the pots last night. I didn't sleep well and have a mild headache. I have a fuckton of work to do after the school run, as well as cleaning the kitchen and hoovering through. And all I want to do when I get back is crawl back in bed for an hour.

So tonight I will be dry. Hopefully. Plan is to do the basic housework stuff like pots and put some washing in. Then work all day, pick ds up and then do some housework to keep busy. Tea, bath and bed early.

And remind myself how shit I feel this morning.

Thank you, Zoflora. You have reminded me about eating earlier. The rot sets in if I start on the wine before starting to cook. I also tend (if the DC are with their father) to just have wine and then not bother with cooking at all.

Getting home and into pjs is another good one. I have, now, polished off all the alcohol in the house, and I don't fancy walking to the shop to buy any more when it's cold and dark.

You have reminded me that all these things do work!

Frouby, congrats on having done three days. I rather fancy going back to bed now, too, having seen DD off for school. Early dinner, bath and bed seems to be a recurrent theme here...

@recoveryishard Just seen you couldn't find this thread. I hope you get an email alerting you to this @ mention!

Thank you so much for having me back. Christmas and New Year started very early in December and I thought it may run until Easter if I was not carefu!☺

I need to lose 13 pounds to get back to 9st 12lbs. That is 6 pounds of white wine and 6 of red and a pound of scotch. I am trying to not drink three days a week and less on the other four. It is tough though. We have 32C here at the moment and a well chilled wine or beer would go down a treat, followed by many more probably.

Happy New Year everyone and I hope 2019 is kind to you

Yes, bath and PJs is a good move. I felt dreadful all day yesterday, anxious, forgetful and generally exhausted. Ordered takeaway for tea and promptly threw up.
I was in bed by 8pm and I’ll be heading back there soon. I need to get back on my feet and back to work. But not today.

Five where are you at 32°C? It is -2 here this morning.
Through to Day 4, first time in a while. Feel a lot better getting up at 6am dropping off DD for bus, 12km run then back to drop off DS at 8am. But it was bloody cold today.
I had one session of hypno yesteday to help get back to moderating. One of the pebbles I chucked into the lake was chocolate but as I was back on chocolate last night that didn't work. I didn't have a drink though, even when DP had his usual red wine.
Not sure if he will be DP much longer, his ex has been in contact threatening to commit suicide so he has gone to see her. I can't cope this this anymore. But at least I'm not drinking.

It does sound like he hasn’t drawn the lines very clearly Anglaise. Have you been together long? I can understand a partner having an amicable relationship with an ex if they have children together, but this doesn’t sound like that. It doesn’t sound healthy.
Well done on not drinking through it though.

Can I join? Sorry bit late to the party but am on day 4 of AF and joined Slimming World on Monday night. Need to lose about 3st!!!

Anglaise, it is great that you didn't have a drink when DP did. That would be a bridge too far for me - and especially combined with batshit ex.

Welcome, shrunken. I aspire to two days, never mind four...

Oh, and sorry you feel so awful, NC4 .

Welcome Shrunken. We are day twins I think.

Hi. Can I join in? Wow there are many posts to read through when I've got time.
I think I drink too much. Not a great amount of units per week, one bottle of wine on a weekend and sometimes more glasses during the week. Usually if I am stressed, which seems to be all the time lately.
Had a girls lunch yesterday and drank too much but didn't feel drunk, just a bit tipsy which was worrying. Usually I am pissed after 3 glasses.
Anyway, awful nights sleep, feel anxious and uneasy this morning . It's no good because tbh I drink to relax and get that fuzzy feeling but it just backfires on me the next day. Plus if I start drinking before I have dinner, I eat crap and too much and then feel fat and bloated.

Today is day 3 for me. I still don’t feel great but I’ve got a work do tonight, so I’ll end up having a few beers.
I’m looking forward to next week. My mum has agreed to come to WW with me, so there will be a bit more discipline and control. I haven’t shaken off December yet (bloody XH throwing me into turmoil).

anglaise sorry about dp but I’m impressed you didn’t drink when he did

Dionysa for me getting past day 1/2 means changing habits so

No cold wine in the house (there is nice white wine but it’s in the garage and there’s other booze but I’m not tempted by that so it’s still in the drinks cupboard)
Getting into bed at 6 ish
Not cooking too much, eg if I did a roast I’d want to drink but if I’m cooking cottage pie it doesn’t occur to me
Ticking off days on an app
Remembering why I’m doing it, eg wine fear, terror that my liver is fucked, wanting to prove I can do it, resetting the habit and also, for he, wanting to brag at the end of January (slightly embarrassed at that one but I haven’t told anyone except dh and a work colleague so I want to tell other friends on Facebook etc on the 31st/1st Feb)

Today is day 9 assuming I don’t drink tonight

Thanks, folks! I feel welcome here. I honestly can't remember a day last year when I didn't have a drink (apart from the odd rubbish attempt at "giving up" might've managed a day and thought to myself "clearly not a problem...." and backnon it again!) And like many others on here I'm fed up of sleeping badly, waking feeling crap, spending all day looking forward to "wine time" because it was the only part of the day I felt half human, and worried about my liver etc etc
I know it's early days but I just need to break the daily habit and rewire my brain to not expect it every evening then I wont miss it or crave it.... that's the plan anyway!
Joining Slimming World is a big step for me too as am carrying 10 years of ahem "baby" weight!?!!!

Shrunken your post resonated with me. I have only been a few days AF and always have about two days AF per week anyway so in one sense I haven't changed much but I have had a slight revelation in the last week that I really do drink too much normally- that my whole way of thinking is that slightly tipsy is the normal way to be and everything else is waiting for it to be that time. That's maybe why I get particularly crabby when the DC take ages getting to bed and it's delaying wine o'clock. I haven't totally shaken this way of thinking. When friends say they don't drink alcohol I still want to ask "but what do you do then?" but I think if I do dry rest-of-january i might make a bit of mental progress.