Two weeks of intense messaging then silence, what did I do wrong?

[joanna123457]

Hi all. Just need some unbiased advice! I’m 44 and met this guy who’s 38 a couple of weeks ago online. Initially it was lots of your gorgeous you’re a fitty and I said do you want to chat via WhatsApp. He said yes we swapped numbers then have basically chatted every day since for just over 2 weeks. Day 2 it was oh it would be better if you were here with me, we’d be up to no good etc, to be fair to him every day if he couldn’t text back until later on it he’d always text and say sorry for the delay just finished work etc.

I’ve had lots of “I’ve had such a long day need a bath and a massage from someone…could that someone be you and I can think of someone in particular that I’d like to be here - you. 🤯 so all going well. Now…radio silence. No even reading texts. I got one text yesterday morning and that’s been it.

what did I do wrong?

I completely agree

lol - I think you have it - for some people this kind of stuff is just a nice time wasting diversion in a Groundhog Day/life - I have a female acquaintance who is like this too - doesn’t really want to meet anyone but loves an on line dalliance - stops it if she thinks they actually want to meet

Yep I agree.

Hes not a love bomber. Just after photos and dirty chat. He made vague promises to meet up, nothing definite.
Hope your face wasn't in the photos

I am really sorry to have to say it too lovely - I don’t think they think that it’s messing with people- they just see it as a bit of harmless fun /entertainment

Op don’t send strangers photos. Honestly, they can be anyone, their own pics prove nothing, and people catfish all the time. A few texts, a video call, and then meet. No sex talk, photos etc until you know them.

Agreed. He was only ever after one thing

its certainly not easy OLD just gone on it for the time and I ignore any messages that start with anything like hey sexy etc and the ones who are hours away as I can’t see how that works , also the ones way younger That then doesn’t leave many and even some of tjem send a like you match, send a message or two them nothing. Sounds like he just liked attention. I am rethinking my boundaries on it so I have something strict to stick to

Please, this bloke has caused pixels to appear on your phone. That is all. There is no relationship. You have been wasting your time, but now you can stop. Try not to think about him; he won't be thinking of you. Better luck next time.

Well, I texted him a week ago to say nice chatting to you and I give up and then all of a sudden he replies saying sorry he’s been unwell and chat more when he’s better. Thought I’d give him benefit of the doubt So we chatted every day this week…fri night all day and sent voice notes until 1.30 in morning..he started calling me baby and said he needed cuddles and some you know what and asked me why aren’t I there….since then radio silence again 🙄 and leaving texts on read. I’ve had it

Sorry texts on unread

🤦🏽‍♀️🤦🏽‍♀️🤦🏽‍♀️ why oh why did you go back?

Have some self respect.

Gave him the benefit of the doubt when he said he’d been unwell

Christ @joanna123457 please why are you being so desperate and going back when you know he just wants to pump and dump you?!

I'm finding it pretty hard to understand why you went back too, OP.
I mean those messages from him gave most (if not all!) women here the complete ick.

Wishing I hadn’t now to be honest as it’s just made me feel rubbish again. I even said to him I’m up his way in 3 weeks time and the answer was what week and cheeky

He’s a creep and now you’re sounding desperate and ripe to take advantage of. Surely you’re worth more than this?

I gave him a second chance as he said he had been rather unwell with flu

And that made him only interested in talking to you about being a cheap fuck? And unable to send a text message?

Come OFF it. I doubt you’re that desperate. He’s laughing at you.

He asked if I had deleted his number I said no but had new phone so didn’t have it all numbers on WhatsApp….within a minute he’d text me on WhatsApp saying hi last Monday went back to asking if I was ok and then got all heavy on Friday and has gone again

Maybe now delete his number. You're onto a loser here.
Find someone who doesn't just text you sleaze, and isn't 5 hours away.
And work on your self-esteem! You seem very very gullible.

I give up I hate it when guys are like why aren’t you here start calling you baby and then disappear

You should have blocked after the use of the word ‘fitty’

That didn’t bother me but maybe it should have been a red flag 😞