Husband is ruining our honeymoon getting drunk …

[inkyspells]

Today is our first proper day here
We are in Mexico
He doesn’t listen to Any sort of advice or seem to have any common sense.
Anyway he started drinking at 9am this morning in the drink up pool.
Whiskey /cocktails and shorts but no water or soft drinks.
He was with a couple,and let me go for lunch alone as he was drinking with them.
We had plans to watch the England match ,he didn’t even come to the room to get his England shirt -just drank with this random couple.
I went to meet him at 3pm and it’s now just after 4 and he can’t stand ,being sick ,dizzy and still won’t drink water .
I have put him into bed
In going out to the beach and grab some Food soon I think.
Im honestly so sad and feel really alone
Am I being ott or would you be sad too ?

God he sounds boring

Yeah he’s done this before on Holiday
promised he wouldn’t do it again but here we are
I'm sorry, but if his drinking pattern was right there in front of you BEFORE you married him...why on Earth did you choose to marry him? If he hasn't backed up his words with actions before, what convinced you that he will act upon his empty words AFTER marriage? You've essentially married a man with a, known-to-you, drinking problem, and been naive to think that marriage changes a man.

He's sadly not going to change until he himself chooses to change. Question is if you can live with his alcoholism.

An ex-boyfriend of mine did the same.

His 11 year old daughter found him when she popped round to see him one Sat afternoon.

You've seen a glimpse of the future, so act accordingly.

If this is how he spends the honeymoon, imagine how it’s going to be for all your other holidays together….

attempt to have a serious conversation about it

fuck having a serious conversation with a man who keeps promising he wont get falling down drunk on holiday - id not be wasting my time or effort.

I'd just let him know he embarrassed himself, but not until we were on the plane home

Do you have kids or can you fly home and move out? At least til he quits drinking

I’m so sorry @inkyspellsyou must have been so excited for the Wedding, Honeymoon and your Marriage and he’s ruined it all hasn’t he?

No matter what he’s said, he will not change so you have a choice to make. Are you going to stay with him or are you going for Divorce and leave him behind?

Hoping you don’t already have DC with him. It sounds as though he has a massive drink problem.

You missed this pretty big info out when you posted about feeling worried about going on holiday l!!

You have the makings of an alcoholic on your hands OP. If it happens again I would have a serious chat with him & say if he carries on with this behaviour you are going to leave him & make sure everyone knows why. I'd tell him it's up to him now.

It might have been a mistake booking an AI honeymoon with a swim-up bar if he has form for this sort of thing.

What’s his relationship like with alcohol generally?

Did you talk about what you both wanted from your honeymoon?

YANBU at all. He’s being a complete dick.

He’s going to have to make a big effort to come back from this.

I agree, I'm know of a few that people hit the booze hard on an AI holiday for the luxury that it's "free" quite early on arrival and a lot of them aren't big drinkers in normal everyday home life.
If it wasn't limitless and you had to make spending money last I doubt the getting hammered would be so appealing.

OP, how was he on the wedding day? I got married recently too and I know guest offer drinks constantly to the B&G Was he drunk then early on in the day?

Your new "husband" didn't even eat lunch with you on your first day of your honeymoon because he was too drunk? That is a massive indication of what is going to come.

I'd tell its over.

It's day 1 - the holiday is still salvageable but only if your husband genuinely wants to make you happy.

If he doesn't, I'd be questioning your future with him.

I have put him into bed

Yuck! Maybe you should call his parents to come get him as well.

What do I do ?

Whatever you do, don’t get pregnant.

Bloody hell, I've just read your other posts and to say he has form is an understatement. He has been telling you what kind of man he is pretty consistently if all what you have said is true. I am never when for the "why did you marry him" responses, but honestly, why tf did you marry him?!

Just awful OP - so far away from my own experience that I just can’t get my head around it! Your honeymoon should be such a special time for the 2 of you. Obviously the excessive drinking is a big problem but it’s more that your DH is prioritising drinking with strangers over his new wife. You deserve so much better.

What do I do ?

Pack your own stuff up and head for the airport.
See if you can change your ticket for one in the next 24 hours and go home.
(He won't notice you've gone for 24 hours, from what you've said.)
Once you've got home and over your jet-lag, see a solicitor and make plans to get rid of this useless specimen.

By their deeds shall you know them

Don't put up with this for the next however many years, then realise you need to divorce. He won't change. Get home and see a solicitor now. Don't know what assets you took into the marriage compared to him, but ending a 'short marriage' should protect them.

I’d be livid and seriously considering if I want to stay married to this idiot. My ex had form for this kind of behaviour. It’s no fun having to always be the responsible adult. Please do not have children with this man.

One day? The first day? After a wedding?

was he stressed by the whole wedding ?

if it continues it’s a problem but I suspect it’s a blow out

He sounds like an arse.

How long have you been together? Do you have dc?

I would be sad but also losing my shit at him.

Looking at your other threads on this wonderful catch - why on earth did you marry him?