Husband is ruining our honeymoon getting drunk …

[inkyspells]

Today is our first proper day here
We are in Mexico
He doesn’t listen to Any sort of advice or seem to have any common sense.
Anyway he started drinking at 9am this morning in the drink up pool.
Whiskey /cocktails and shorts but no water or soft drinks.
He was with a couple,and let me go for lunch alone as he was drinking with them.
We had plans to watch the England match ,he didn’t even come to the room to get his England shirt -just drank with this random couple.
I went to meet him at 3pm and it’s now just after 4 and he can’t stand ,being sick ,dizzy and still won’t drink water .
I have put him into bed
In going out to the beach and grab some Food soon I think.
Im honestly so sad and feel really alone
Am I being ott or would you be sad too ?

Sorry, this doesn’t bode well. Good luck I think you’re going to need it. 😔

op - if you know he gets pissed on holidays and has zero common sense and that doesn’t appeal to you - why did you marry him?

This is so so awful and unexceptable. It's your honeymoon ! I'd be vivid if a normal holiday. You really need to question if you are ok staying with someone like this. 😢

Fuck giving him water and putting him in the recovery position.

He chose this; let him organise himself.

You married a man, not a teenager after all house party.

Go and get yourself a nice dinner.

Seriously, you should get an annulment.
Unless you actually want to spend your life worrying about his drinking, bargaining with him about how much he should drink, finding out he's drunk more than he said he would, and ultimately being seen by him as the Fun Police, out to ruin his "good" time.

He’s done this before? I can understand being caught out if you’ve never had a hot holiday abroad or if you’ve never done all inclusive. But he’s done this. Presumably you’ve made your feelings crystal clear. And here you are again. This is how he is.

Do not have children with this man.

Can't annul if they've had sex since getting married, unless the marriage isn't legal in the eyes of the law.
Please tell us you haven't slept with this idiot and potentially pursue annulment when you get home. I'd be on the first plane out of it,

I married one of these.
It’s so easy to look back and think “I should have ended it after he got drunk at X Y or Z event” but it always feels like too much has been invested already. I didn’t do it until we had 2 children and a business. Should have done it weeks after we met.

His behaviour is appalling given it's your honeymoon. DH and I were glued to each other on ours but you already know that's how it should be!

In your shoes, I would give him one massive bollocking and then see how he behaves after that. Once more and get a plane home.

I have an ex that I'm still friends with and his wife came home from their honeymoon because of this exact shite. He stayed on, got wasted every night and ended up in hospital with pancreatitis. By the time he got home she had started divorce proceeding (easier than an annulment). Their marriage lasted four days.

Sorry OP, he's a drunken, selfish bore. You should be all loved up and in a bubble, not playing nursemaid to a man who doesn't keep his promises.

He does sound horrid OP. Why are you getting him to drink water? Leave a bottle by his bed and leave him to it.

Youre surprised that it’s hot there though? In Mexico, in June?

If he can knowingly and willingly ruin your honeymoon it shows you exactly how he’s going to be for the length of your marriage.

I’m sorry OP, but I would be on the first plane home. Annulment asap. Please don’t spend years hoping it will get better, it won’t and you deserve more! Especially on your honeymoon

Get an annulment don’t have sex with him and if you can leave and go home

That doesn't sound right tbh i don't think you can apply for a divorce in the first year of marriage, You can have a legal seperation or annulment [not had sex] but that isn't the same as a divorce. I think she misunderstood the legal aspect,

Oh no poor you. Is it too late to annul the marriage?

Once he sobers up tomorrow, maybe suggest he goes home and you stay and have a nice holiday.

That’s awful OP, no way to behave in honeymoon. He sounds like a right yob.

How miserable for you.
You don't want him to die, so keep encouraging him to drink water and get medical help if he won't. He won't be the first idiotic tourist to behave like this in an inclusive resort.

I wouldn't be sad, I'd be furious! And he would know that I was furious!

That's grim. If he doesn't control his drinking the years ahead will be miserable.

I’m so sorry for you. I think I’d book a flight home.

Nearly 20 years married and my wife would kill me for this - not that I’d try, she’s attempted mudder for less…
don’t have kids with this man he’s an arse.

I’d have purposely let him sleep through the England game, for starters. And I’d have gone out and found some more interesting people to hang out with. He needs to learn consequences.