Husband is ruining our honeymoon getting drunk …

[inkyspells]

Today is our first proper day here
We are in Mexico
He doesn’t listen to Any sort of advice or seem to have any common sense.
Anyway he started drinking at 9am this morning in the drink up pool.
Whiskey /cocktails and shorts but no water or soft drinks.
He was with a couple,and let me go for lunch alone as he was drinking with them.
We had plans to watch the England match ,he didn’t even come to the room to get his England shirt -just drank with this random couple.
I went to meet him at 3pm and it’s now just after 4 and he can’t stand ,being sick ,dizzy and still won’t drink water .
I have put him into bed
In going out to the beach and grab some Food soon I think.
Im honestly so sad and feel really alone
Am I being ott or would you be sad too ?

OP just end it now before there's any kids in the mix.

He's a drunk and he isn't going to change.

If he does change one day, it won't be because you stuck by him and let him treat you like shit. He's ruined your honeymoon and he'll go on to ruin the rest of your life. You made a mistake with this one.

I would see if I could get an early flight home or a different room and leave him to his own devices. Get your friends on the phone and talk everything through with the people you trust. Make a plan for how to end this relationship and get people on board. Don't be embarrassed - it would be more embarrassing to stay in this relationship knowing that this is who he is.

No more chances. He is going on a black out bender on your honeymoon, a time when you are meant to be celebrating your relationship.

Leave him to it.

I'd get on Airbnb and find a reasonable place to move to for the rest of the holiday and change my seat with the airline.

Because fuck that for a life. Honestly, there is a better way to spend it rather than a chain of deep disappoinments via this cretin.

Going by other posters, it appears you have had numerous issues with your now husband, prior to marrying him. He's consistently shown you, by his behaviour, that you aren't a priority for him and he's not particularly bothered if he upsets you.

My only reasoning that I can see, why you went ahead and married a man, who doesn't give a shit about you, is you thought being married would miraculously cure him of his twatiness. You have now seen, that marriage isn't going to change him.

He has no reason to change and no desire too. Why would he, you put up with every bit of shit behaviour he throws at you. My advice is to divorce him asap and if you don't have children with him already, then don't start.

Oh they will be heard from again, with another thread that they post on once and then disappear

me too. WIsh I'd ditched him much earlier. He's currently in hospital having fallen over drunk, black arms, dislocated shoulder, and his blood won't clot.

Actually, better yet, start divorce proceedings from your sunbed.

I wouldn’t even be worrying about him. Let him feel horrendous and hopefully he will change his approach for the rest of the holiday! Book yourself into the spa and do you today and tomorrow see how he likes it when you’re not around to wallow in his hangover

That’s so bad especially it being a honeymoon!! He sounds like he doesn’t care about you or your feelings in the slightest. I’d go bat sh*t crazy at him when he sobers up and if he doesn’t sort his act out in all honesty you need to leave him and enjoy your holiday he’s a moron.

Oh no!!!

She could move out and separate finances and then just do the paperwork in a year then may be.

Honestly I could’ve written this post myself about ten years ago. I married a man like this. Exactly like this. On our honeymoon he disappeared off drinking by himself and the final straw was him barging in our hotel room at 6am demanding €60 for a taxi.

I filed for divorce on our first wedding anniversary.

I would be fuming if my husband chose to spend the whole honeymoon drinking to excess with strangers rather than having quality time with me.

And no doubt you started a thread the last time he did this on holiday too, and was advised by posters not to go ahead and marry him.

But yes… “here we are”

And presumably you’d be shocked and surprised too because it had never happened before. Whereas….

I know it looks bad given past posts but remember it takes a lot of times before a person in a abusive relationship actually does take the final step to leave. She is maybe just reaching out and hopefully she will take that final step. It's not always easy or straightforward.

You poor thing. I think a serious chat is needed and unless he realises he might lose you and bucks up his ideas, you might need some time apart when you get home. Maybe get him to agree to a GP visit together. I really hope things improve but if he's promised this would never again but has already broken his word, you need to look out for yourself and consider your own future and happiness.

This has been rumbling on unhappily for ages. They’ll have had loads of chats.
and they’ll be loads more threads in the future once they are home.

I know. I am totally shocked that they haven’t been back.

New thread
by the end of the week

No, it isn't pointless. It's a serious question which OP has to ask herself, along with questioning whether she wants to remain married to such a useless arse.

“book yourself an excursion”. I initially read your comment as ‘book an execution’, which seemed a bit harsh.

I'm now wondering if there really was a wedding. No mentions except the use of the word honeymoon to describe something which has previously been called a holiday.

And apparently on one of the OP’s threads… it was a holiday to Mexico that her boyfriend cancelled!!

Ah, but he was going to rebook it last minute 😉
What he was going to use as money I don't know because he spent ( gambled ?) the £300 per month OP was giving him as her half.