Husband is ruining our honeymoon getting drunk …

[inkyspells]

Today is our first proper day here
We are in Mexico
He doesn’t listen to Any sort of advice or seem to have any common sense.
Anyway he started drinking at 9am this morning in the drink up pool.
Whiskey /cocktails and shorts but no water or soft drinks.
He was with a couple,and let me go for lunch alone as he was drinking with them.
We had plans to watch the England match ,he didn’t even come to the room to get his England shirt -just drank with this random couple.
I went to meet him at 3pm and it’s now just after 4 and he can’t stand ,being sick ,dizzy and still won’t drink water .
I have put him into bed
In going out to the beach and grab some Food soon I think.
Im honestly so sad and feel really alone
Am I being ott or would you be sad too ?

Well…absolutely ‘fuck this manchild’…but even my stone cold heart couldn’t leave a clearly dangerously incapacitated person lying on their back, in high temperatures, with no water ffs!! What the actual fuck is wrong with you? 🤯

Kick his sorry arse straight in the bin ONCE he’s not in danger of choking on his own vomit…not before!

He sounds like an alcoholic. You knew he does this and married him anyway!

You know your options. He isn't going to change - he won't be able to.

Annulment?

Id be upset too. How selfish and inconsiderate. Tell him how you feel and hopefully it will make him realise.

I would strongly advise getting out now. After you’ve enjoyed a well deserved holiday avoiding this drunk.

Hard disagree. A person who, on what is supposed to be one of the most joyous moments in the start of a marriage, is drinking himself to oblivion, has a serious drinking problem. No one who had any self respect or care of their spouse would do this.

If he is doing this in the loved up honeymoon phase, what is he going to be like when he has three young screaming children in tow.

Men like this don’t improve.

Unacceptable

Just done a quick Google on Annulment in the UK and it appears that if you don't have sex after the wedding you could get Annulment on grounds of non consummation.

Ok, this is day 1 and he’s totally overdone it. Presumably he’ll feel like a rats ass for another 24 hours and moderate for the rest of the holiday. I’d be furious too but everyone makes mistakes. If it keeps happening though….? Hmmm.

If he’s in his forties I’d agree.

suspect this couple are younger and he’s just an over excitable idiot… I used to be like that in my 20s until I learned my lesson a few times

You have children with him do you?

Google a divorce lawyer and get the ball rolling immediately.

"inkyspells · 29/04/2026 11:40
My partner works 8-4 Monday to friday
Then 1 out of 2 Saturdays 9-1
Anytime I suggest doing anything he says “no I only get that time off I want to rest “
I booked as a surprise a night away on Saturday and he’s told me to cancel it.
What makes me laugh is two weeks ago he finished work at 1pm and drove 4 hours down the other end of the country for a work meeting the next day -stayed up with his work colleagues till 3am ..to start a conference at 8am
Then drank till 1 am that night as well.
So he’s too tired to do anything on a weekend but will happily do that?
aibu to think that’s rubbish?
so we just never do anything on a weekend and he just sleeps then ? Or lies in bed
Aibu ?"

^^ This is your past, present and future with this raving alcoholic.
The reason why he goes straight to bed every day after work is because he's pissed.

That’s probably why they’re advising the OP to cut her losses.

That’s not grounds for annulment though! You can’t walk into a court and say, “I’ve changed my mind about this drunken dickhead…annul this marriage because we didn’t shag on honeymoon!’

There are legal definitions of the circumstances in which a marriage can be annulled. And not shagging the drunken dickhead isn’t one of them!

Google is your friend here…👌🏻

Well, her threads are pretty dramatic.

What a cunt. I don’t understand people in an AI hotel-determined to get their monies worth? When he’s sobered up I’d have a sit down grown up conversation-this is our honeymoon. The start of our married life together. If this is what it’s going to be like then I don’t want it.

This! With the biggest bells on!

Only if there are very specific criteria: An annulment on these grounds can be granted if either spouse is physically incapable (ever) of consummation or simply refuses to do so ever again…so again, for clarity, not simply because the drunken dickhead was being a twat 🤷‍♀️

When he wakes up I’d not be chastising him for last nights behaviour as you can’t undo it and I’m assuming you want to have a wonderful honeymoon.

However, I would advise him that his behaviour today will dictate whether you tell his future grandkids the funny story of gdad getting pissed on the first day of his honeymoon - or the reason you tell your solicitor why you are getting a divorce.

Surely these posts are a joke I’ve read some of the others, how would anyone stay with someone like this let alone Marry them. If it is real I’d be deeply shocked how anyone would be so horrible consistently and how anyone who be silly enough to keep going back for more.

Go out for the day alone, ignore him, go enjoy some freedom from the alcoholic man-child, get through the rest of your holiday anyway you can, when you get home - Drop him off at AA, then get a annulment. You don't deserve this treatment. It's only going to get worse, so I wouldn't waste anymore time on him.

So he has form for this and you still married him? Some people have really low standards🤷‍♂️

How does anyone know if you’ve had sex? Was he wasted at the wedding?
Could you slightly embellish the truth & state that no sex was had because of his drinking?
I would believe the words of the sober bride than those of a drunken groom.

If you didn't consummate this marriage I'd be getting it annulled 🙈 if he does this on your honeymoon it doesn't exactly bode well for the future does it?