Husband is ruining our honeymoon getting drunk …

[inkyspells]

Today is our first proper day here
We are in Mexico
He doesn’t listen to Any sort of advice or seem to have any common sense.
Anyway he started drinking at 9am this morning in the drink up pool.
Whiskey /cocktails and shorts but no water or soft drinks.
He was with a couple,and let me go for lunch alone as he was drinking with them.
We had plans to watch the England match ,he didn’t even come to the room to get his England shirt -just drank with this random couple.
I went to meet him at 3pm and it’s now just after 4 and he can’t stand ,being sick ,dizzy and still won’t drink water .
I have put him into bed
In going out to the beach and grab some Food soon I think.
Im honestly so sad and feel really alone
Am I being ott or would you be sad too ?

It’s your honeymoon…. Can’t you get an annulment

Get a flight home early! Leave him there.

How long did you date and is this a genuine relationship or one of these fast ones

Really fucking pisses me off that a man can annul a marriage if his new wife if she is pregnant by someone else (fair) but she can't do it if he has another woman pregnant!

Awful behaviour from him.

Ignoring you and not spending time with you on your honeymoon (day one!)

Dangerous levels of drinking, making himself ill and putting you in a position of having to nurse him or feel guilty.

This doesn’t bode well…and you say he has form for this behaviour?

I would seriously be considering if this is his how I want to live my life going forward.

Please stop and think about what sort of life he offers you. Hope you have no kids. I’d look at an annulment tbh

first plane home. Move your stuff out. Get an annulment.

alternative is he goes home. But either way. You both split. And get an annulment.

what a waste of space.

oh and get b yourself a therapist. You will need it to stick to your guns and not be convinced to take him back

When someone shows you who they are, believe them.

Never too soon to get divorced.

So this is your life then, unless you decide it’s not going to be and do something about it.

Im sorry OP. His behaviour is grim and you should run for the hills. Can you separate yourself from him as much as possible and then file for annulment or separation as soon as you return home. He has form for this and "promised you he wouldnt do it again"

He has lied to you and he isnt someone that you want to stay married to if he drinks himself into oblivion at the drop of a hat. That is a sharp slippery slope into alcoholism.

Its unforgivable that he has done this but even more so on your honeymoon when his sole focus should be on you.

If you dont want to stay then you dont have to stick this out and you can get on the next plane home.

I’d be fuming, rather than sad. So disrespectful.

View the honeymoon as a wonderful lone holiday. Plan your days just for you. Have zero expectations of him.

Don’t let him make your feel sad. Head held high.You should expect better.

Okay. Lots of annulment, leave him, why did you get married talk here… He’s been a dickhead today. And on your honeymoon.

It’s really sad for you. All inclusive, unfortunately he’ll be wanting the gargle again, once he recovers. How long is the holiday?

I think, pop down to the bar for a cocktail. Maybe get a pizza. Read a magazine, watch a romcom. Have a nice bath. Take care x

Never believe what they say - believe what they do because that is what they are. He's a liar, a drunk and a selfish unkind man who'd rather be boozing with strangers than his own wife.

How old are you both? If he's 20 there may be some hope he'll grow up. If he's 50, that's his personality and will be for the rest of his life.

How long have you been together? If you've been together ages, you knew he was like this. Marriage will not change him for the better; it will only tie you more with a drunk.

Do you have children with him? If not, please don't inflict him on children, and if so, please read some of the sad accounts on Mumsnet from the children and wives of drinkers and how it ruined their lives.

You have a decision to make now; do you intend to stay and be treated like this for the rest of your lives, mopping up sick and scurrying about trying to get him to adult?

Don’t feel guilty spending joint funds to extricate yourself from the shared hotel room or the honeymoon entirely if you choose. Whether or not that is necessary depends on just how much he is drinking and how upsetting it is to be around him. There are no right or wrong answers here. It’s a personal decision.

when you do get home, you should see a solicitor. Don’t let this be the rest of your life. Don’t let your family holidays be you trying to distract the children from the fact that dad has had too much to drink yet again.

When he comes around you have to read him the Riot Act, it just isn't acceptable to spend your honeymoon with a random couple getting drunk.

Pointess question

I realised I made a mistake on honeymoon but I didn’t have the balls to end it because we’ve spent so much money on the wedding and I was embarrassed
I really really wish I had though
It got worse

On what grounds do you suggest OP can get an annulment?

Annul - sounds like unconsummated too….

Im trying to get him to sip on water but he won’t

Sweetheart, you are not his mother and he is not a child.

Leave him be and enjoy some trips around Mexico, it's a fab place.
The people at the hotel will help you organise it.

And file for divorce when you are home. You future self will thank you.

I'd go out and do you own thing today. Bugger looking after him and trying to get him to drink water.

Tomorrow he'd better be grovelling. If not, I'd seriously rethink who you have married.

This doesn’t bode well for your future together I’m afraid. Living with a drinker is horrible. Many occasions are spoiled because of it.

Try imagining you have a couple of children and they're wandering the resort by your side.
You'd better get some answers ready for your future children for all the questions about why daddy doesn't want to spend holiday time with them.

They could learn the recovery position and be trained to take second place in his life after alcohol and random strangers he's drinking with.

He's doing it to you and he'll do it to his children.

Jesus, way to make you regret marrying him straight away.

I would be very hurt and angry, give him a dress down tomorrow and if it doesn’t improve, book another room or fly back, whatever is cheaper and forget about the sips of water, let karma take over handing him a painful handover.