Husband is ruining our honeymoon getting drunk …

[inkyspells]

Today is our first proper day here
We are in Mexico
He doesn’t listen to Any sort of advice or seem to have any common sense.
Anyway he started drinking at 9am this morning in the drink up pool.
Whiskey /cocktails and shorts but no water or soft drinks.
He was with a couple,and let me go for lunch alone as he was drinking with them.
We had plans to watch the England match ,he didn’t even come to the room to get his England shirt -just drank with this random couple.
I went to meet him at 3pm and it’s now just after 4 and he can’t stand ,being sick ,dizzy and still won’t drink water .
I have put him into bed
In going out to the beach and grab some Food soon I think.
Im honestly so sad and feel really alone
Am I being ott or would you be sad too ?

@inkyspells book another room, don't go back to that one.

It's her honeymoon though!

This is bloody awful @inkyspells
It would be bad on a normal holiday, but on your honeymoon it’s unforgivable. I actually would not be able to forgive this.
If he’s done it before then I would seriously listen to the PPs and cut your losses.
It’s going to get worse not better.

This was back before the divorce rules changed but she may have waited a year actually. She came home, moved all her stuff out of their house and she was done. Her parents warned him to stay away or he would lose body parts!

I didn't like her DH. There was something off about him but I didn't know he was a drinker until all of this cropped up. She met and married again and this one she is still with. Married 35 years this year and he's an all round good egg.

I think you should seriously consider if this is the life you want

Oh god
I'd be so upset. You must feel very lonely and also as if you're the only adult in the marriage.

How long have you been together? I can't deal with anyone who drinks a lot. It makes me feel incredibly uneasy - evenings out are either boring (watching them get drunk) or an utter nightmare as they end up being sick / gobbing off / angry etc .

"When someone shows you who they are, believe them the first time"

Yes this

why did you marry someone like this???

It’s the first day of your honeymoon and he’s chosen alcohol above you.

I would end it now. I now it’s scary so soon after the wedding but better to start as you mean to go on. If he does this on his honeymoon it won’t get better- he has shown you who he is.

You haven't told us OP how long you've been together, how old you both are and whether you have any children together. But regardless, if you've been together for less than a year or have been together for several decades, and regardless of whether you have no children or 6, this is not the behaviour of someone any self-respecting woman should ever put up with, much less on a honeymoon! I second the advice that other PP have given you to get on the next flight home if you have enough money, or at least distance yourself as best you can from him whilst in Mexico and then immediately begin divorce or annulment proceedings upon your return home. There is no way someone who behaves like this is ever going to be a loving partner who is responsible and caring towards his children. I wish you all the best.

If he is the sort of person who cannot stop drinking once he's started he is an alcoholic and your life will be a misery

Is he normally like this, or is this very unusual behaviour?

I was with a drinker for 7 years, put me through hell. I take it though that this is normal behaviour from him? If not then maybe give him some grace, if so then you already know what you married. He sounds like he will be a pain in the arse if you have kids and want a
family holiday.

Don’t be ridiculous. What are they going to do, examine OP for an intact hymen?

Personally I wouldn’t leave him alone if he’s been drinking since 9am, not had a non alcoholic drink, throwing up and can’t stand. Even though he’s done this before, it doesn’t sound like he’s drinking like this every day. I would be absolutely livid and not prepared to continue the relationship, but I would want to check he hasn’t stopped breathing or choked

There are no grounds for annulment. And unfortunately I believe you have to wait a year before starting divorce proceedings. But you can legally separate. Do you own a property together? You will need to separate your finances asap.
Really the only way to save this if he stops drinking for the rest of the trip and goes for alcohol counselling when you return home.

Your 'DH' seems to let you down consistently, do you think he is going to change @inkyspells?

If not, then get rid now. Life is too short.

I would be livid! He is grossly inconsiderate.

He's an alcoholic who thinks being on an all inclusive holiday (honeymoon? what honeymoon?) gives him license to drink himself into oblivion.

You were mad to marry him if he's done this before but you can cut short the lifetime of misery you just signed up for and get an annulment.

Leave him to it, stop mummying him and trying to get him to sip water. He's doing this to himself.

Either get on and enjoy yourself as best you can on your own or get a flight home and start divorce/annulment proceedings ASAP.

When he’s sobered up tomorrow, read him the riot act and let him know how upset you are, which you’ve every right to be, what with it being your HONEYMOON! If he apologises and seems contrite, then move on. If he does it again, then I’m afraid you’ve a got a real problem and some tough decisions to make.

If they havent had sex since the marriage ceremony, then yes there is.

Archaic but true.

How long you been together?

This is your life now it gets worse sorry

Why did you marry him..

PP is correct. There are only a few circumstances where you can be granted an annulment. Just changing your mind because your DH is a drunken idiot unfortunately isn’t one.

You can get one if the marriage hasn’t been consummated, if one party had an STD when they got married, if one party is transitioning or if the bride was pregnant by someone else when you got married.

If you don’t have grounds for an annulment you have to wait 12 months to apply for a divorce.

Me too..he never changed...married far too long..get out now..honestly