Husband is ruining our honeymoon getting drunk …

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Today is our first proper day here
We are in Mexico
He doesn’t listen to Any sort of advice or seem to have any common sense.
Anyway he started drinking at 9am this morning in the drink up pool.
Whiskey /cocktails and shorts but no water or soft drinks.
He was with a couple,and let me go for lunch alone as he was drinking with them.
We had plans to watch the England match ,he didn’t even come to the room to get his England shirt -just drank with this random couple.
I went to meet him at 3pm and it’s now just after 4 and he can’t stand ,being sick ,dizzy and still won’t drink water .
I have put him into bed
In going out to the beach and grab some Food soon I think.
Im honestly so sad and feel really alone
Am I being ott or would you be sad too ?

Don’t listen to what he says, look at what he does. And then look at getting an annulment.

edited to add: get a separate hotel room, and then you can apply to annul on the grounds of non-consumation.

14 pages of replies to the OP and nothing further from her. At this point it’s just rage bait. Some people just like the attention.

Why would he rather be with other people than you? (on any holiday, let alone honeymoon?)

You’re being OTT.

…Surely you know the situation is ridiculous and don’t need people on the internet to tell you this isn’t what others do on a honeymoon and that your husband is a raging alcoholic?

They wont be back, seems common they start a thread then dont come back. Give it a few weeks and they will start another.

Looking at their posting history, they do it quite often.

Urgh how annoying

you are not his mummy
its not your job to get to do anything

i would fly home and file for divorce
he is telling you who he is - he will not change

sorry

It's a really stupid thing of him to do but I have also seen my husband - the most caring and considerate and loving man - get carried away, too, without realising that he's missed the purpose.

He got sloshed on our wedding night (threw up, had to be put to bed, though it was about 4am!) and then stayed up drinking on one of the particularly special nights of our honeymoon with the captain of our boat (while I was back at the cabin in my bridal lingerie waiting for him!!!). The captain was so wrecked the next day, he wasn't allowed to be in control of the boat 🤣

Anyway, lots of apologies and genuine regret on his part (he still feels bad about both).

We're now 16 years together, and 12 years married.

He was just a very excited bloke who got carried away in a situation that was new and exciting.

It's not happened again.

I get the hurt. I would be too (I was! Very!). Leave him to rest. Do what you can to enjoy being in freaking Mexico on a beach!!! Speak to him in the morning. Explain the hurt and disappointment. Hopefully, he'll spend the rest of your honeymoon going above and beyond to put you first and make you feel like the most important thing in his world. If that's the case, one day you'll look back on a fabulous honeymoon and laugh at his escapades on the first day.

If he doesn't... Well, that's telling of what's to come and what happens next is up to you.

I would be sad I married him.

I don’t think it will work if he’s a drinker and you’re not, I worked in pubs in my youth and I met lots of regulars who were boozy couples who enjoy big drinking sessions, my own brother and his wife regularly have friends round for bbqs and plenty of drinks but they both enjoy it so it works for them and some of their friends who are couples but again who are both the same in that couple so they both enjoy that life together.
When one person in a couple isn’t a big drinker and one is it never works because of the resentment on both sides the non drinker ruining the wanna get drunks fun with disapproval and the drinker upsets the non drinker with their drinking and related behaviour.

You sound like a mismatch as a couple and I don’t think you are well suited. I would get the annulment and both find people who you align with as neither of you are ever likely to change.

What a cock womble. How long have you known each other ? I’d go and stay in a different hotel , if not , stay at yours ignore him for the rest of the holiday (make some new friends yourself ?) then divorce him when you’re back. So sorry xx

I’m afraid you have been deluding yourself and dismissing very obvious red flags. He has a problem with alcohol. He is incapable of prioritising you on your blinking honeymoon. If this isn’t a wake up call - and he either knocks the behaviour on the head immediately, books a GP appointment now for when you get back for therapy/alcohol counselling, then I think you should consider asking him for a divorce/annulment (get legal advice if going down this route - a divorce may give you more rights over shared assets than an annulment, not sure, but check).

If the hotel isn’t busy, I would be asking them about the possibility of a free room you can move to.

Some MNs really do live in a parallel universe....

And you married this drunken loser?

Welcome to married life.

You walked in to this eyes wide open.

Were you hoping to have a family with this drunken waster?
Inflict him on innocent children?

Some children really have no chance when women choose men like this.

Please wake up.

Ah the fabled promise to change.

I’ve put up with some rubbish in my life but honestly? I’d be on the next plane home without him.

Yet you still married him, it’ll only get worse, those that can’t listen to advice are the one that end up divorced.

My ex-bf was like this. We were together for a few years but thankfully no marriage or kids. He would spend weekends either out drinking, or asleep. Ditto with holidays. He also had a gambling problem. God knows why I stuck around as long as I did but I can only blame it on being young & naive to what a normal relationship looked like.
I’m afraid he won’t change, OP. Get out before there are kids involved. You deserve better.

I'd be absolutely livid especially on honeymoon unfortunately i can't see the marriage lasting long

OP said he’d done it on holiday before, not that he consistently behaved like this. She didn’t say whether that was once, ten years ago or whether it’s every single holiday.

A lot of people are doing a lot of reaching on this thread, in the absence of OP coming back to clarify.

Maybe the OP hasn’t been back because of the time difference. She posted this at approx 10pm UK time .I went to meet him at 3pm and it’s now just after 4 and he can’t stand ,being sick ,dizzy and still won’t drink water
That would check out as the UK is 5 to 8 hours ahead. It will now be almost 11am in Mexico so OP could update.
Trying to give her the benefit of the doubt!

I would be beyond furious.

You’ve married a dick
annulment ?