Husband is ruining our honeymoon getting drunk …

[inkyspells]

Today is our first proper day here
We are in Mexico
He doesn’t listen to Any sort of advice or seem to have any common sense.
Anyway he started drinking at 9am this morning in the drink up pool.
Whiskey /cocktails and shorts but no water or soft drinks.
He was with a couple,and let me go for lunch alone as he was drinking with them.
We had plans to watch the England match ,he didn’t even come to the room to get his England shirt -just drank with this random couple.
I went to meet him at 3pm and it’s now just after 4 and he can’t stand ,being sick ,dizzy and still won’t drink water .
I have put him into bed
In going out to the beach and grab some Food soon I think.
Im honestly so sad and feel really alone
Am I being ott or would you be sad too ?

Honestly looking at your previous posts I think you are in an abusive relationship. He reminds me of my ex. You need to leave when you are ready there is no point all of us telling you to, but if he is abusive be careful, he has it easy and might not want you to go without a fight. I can see what he is getting out of this relationship but what are you getting? The trouble is you know all of this, you know this is not a loving partner but what you don’t know is that you deserve better.

Can we have a guess in what the OP’s next thread will be about?

”My DH ran away with another couple he met in our Honeymoon and now he’s Bi”

”I got PG on my Honeymoon and I can’t believe my DH isn’t interested”

”I can’t believe that after my DH got drunk and then promised he’ll never do it again , unbelievably he has!”

On another of OP’s threads ‘he’s stupid when he’s drunk’. OP has form for posting drama and disappearing.

I would leave him. What a prick. You deserve a better man than that.

Ah, that makes sense. So this is the holiday to Mexico that he booked but never paid for, after blowing all his wages every month online gambling?

And OP married him?

This doesn't bode well for your marriage. I totally sympathise with you.

He also blued the £300 per month PP says she was giving him for her share of the holiday.

He was still a partner and getting drunk a fortnight ago.

I'm amazed we didn't hear anything about the wedding 😜

If you come back OP, you’ll spot a theme from the posts on here… lots of us referring to ex partners that did this. And they all became exs. My first husband loved a drink and never knew when to stop or when he’d had enough and over the years it destroyed us - he preferred to drink with his mates at our wedding, drank himself into oblivion at every social opportunity, and several when he was alone. He prioritised a good time or just the taste of booze before me again and again until I didn’t want to accept it or tolerate it anymore. I gave him an ultimatum and he lasted two days.

I left, and have never regretted it. He’s showing you who he is and what he values, and I’m so sorry, but right now, it’s chasing a good time, not your feelings. I hope he makes it up to you and does the right thing, but I suspect this may be a reoccuring pattern…

Op, you are an idiot, and am not going to waste any more oxygen on you…

Did you know he wore Engerland footbal shirts before you married him?

This also happened to a friend’s husband. She left him “enjoying the party” on New Year’s Eve to take their 4 young children home and woke up to the Police on New Year’s Day. Also choked on his own vomit.

Get a flight home and get an annulment

That poor couple he’s boozing with. They were probably just polite and friendly and have acquired a pissed leach!

I know! I’m a bit gutted about the missing Wedding thread, although it looks like it only occurred this week so there still may be time.

I'd be having a long hard think about the relationship upto now and his prior behaviour, looking for red flags that is previously brushed off or not picked up on. Because you don't sound like you're shocked and like this is totally unexpected abnormal behaviour for him. I'd be being very honest with myself about whether I'd married a selfish dickhead and if so, I'd be filing for divorce. One thing life experience has taught me - people are who they are, they don't change and if they're disrespectful you'll eventually get fed up with it and not want to be around them any more. I'd rather admit I made a mistake early on and right it, than continue on hoping for the best and praying things improve over time, because they inevitably don't.

Going on a 6hr bender on your honeymoon is despicable IMO, regardless of what drove that decision. I couldn't look at him the same way again. If he was mine I'd be on the first flight home and we'd be done. I can't actually imagine any scenarios at all where there'd be a valid explanation for this behaviour from him or any way he could make it up to me. Perhaps if this behaviour was totally out of the ordinary and he'd been diagnosed with a terminal illness but hadn't told anyone yet and this behaviour was his initial way of dealing with the news. Maybe under those circumstances I'd forgive him. Anything less than that, I don't think I could.

Oh geez it's that guy?!
OP you are insane. You need a fuckton of therapy to learn how to stop being so self destructive in your life as to marry someone who'd already treated you appallingly. You need to raise your bar for acceptable behaviour, it's currently set so low it's buried at the bottom of the ocean.

Look we all know the OP has no self respect or common sense— but we all also want her to wise up and get out. Please god let this be the last straw, but I doubt it is.

Leave him to it, if he dies from alcohol poisoning at least as the wife you inherit. If he doesn't, let him stew in his own hangover. Book some massage/beauty treatments and an excursion.

been here before so you know what he's like.
Sadly, women think men will change when they get married and just end up disappointed.

why did you marry him if he annoys you so much

After reading this I initially thought maybe cut him some slack, maybe there's a communication issue on his part and he could have said "look it's been a stressful few weeks for us, let's have a bit of a blackout day shall we". Then I read some of your previous posts and though actually no, maybe you're a bit over anxious and can't let yourself, your dad, or your new partner relax. Maybe chill out a bit, go get drunk for a day yourself and stop whining on Mumsnet? Though he does seem to be a gambler...so maybe don't marry him? Oh wait you did, despite knowing this, so stop grumbling about it.

He won't stop, believe me, my Dh never did. He wouldn't get blind drunk or be ill, he just liked to be in a pub drinking. Eventually as Dd got older we would go off and leave him to it and do our own thing. In the end I told him I wasn't going anymore with him and I never have. He stays home and I go with Dd and we have a lovely time. He's no bother at home but there's something about being on holiday that turns his head

Sunk cost fallacy

the phenomenon whereby a person is reluctant to abandon a strategy or course of action because they have invested heavily in it, even when it is clear that abandonment would be more beneficial.

This is where you currently are. You have invested heavily in this relationship, so it makes sense to keep going ? It doesn't, emotionally, physically or financially !

What a catch

Honestly? I'd consider cutting my losses and annulling the marriage.

And you married him, because...