I really fancy my dentist

[Letterstoyou]

He's my age, really good looking and just a really nice person. I feel like we have chemistry. I know I might sound a bit delusional. Is there a way I could ask him out? How would I do this? He's ringing me next week about my treatment. Obviously I would need to find a new dentist and/or dental practice but I'd be okay to do that. Its just rare that you feel genuine chemistry and connection with someone.

I fancy the dr who shoved a camera up my nose. Trying to think up a new nose based illness so I can gawp at him again.

Hahahahahahhaha this is seriously the reason loads of dentist wives work at the clinic! She gets to control the finances and admin, and keeps an eye on all the young assistants or hot patients eyeing up her husband.

There is zero reason you have to change dentists if you get together with one! If anything, it's way easier since you can get slotted in between other patients and never have to wait for appointments. It's hardly a relationship turn-off if he sees your teeth😆

Bloody hell there are some negatives Nancy's on here. Just ask the receptionist if he's single OP and if he isn't don't go back!

Please don't!

Your brain is mixing dental anxiety with professional care and kindness from an attractive man as attraction.

Dentists are supposed to act friendly and caring to help patients and if private to make patients return and recommend them they act more nice than a time pressed NHS dentist. SOME male dentists overplay the charming bedside manners so it's almost like flirting but not quite, think of them like a car salesman flattering you. They can always backtrack it's just friendly but they intentionally or subconsciously are doing the sales tricks on you so you return. Sales and charms are part of the training of a private dentist.

They may remember details and ask after them, maintain good eye contact and positive body language to create rapport. They may compliment. A lot of those overlap with flirting... except he won't be actually wanting to take it further. He probably finds it flattering and amusing to see patiengs squirm and relax as he charms them. It makes his day more entertaining and the patient more compliant.

Handsome dentists have a lot of dating options and a lot to lose by dating a patient even an ex patient is a redflag in 2026 UK dentistry. Changing dentists won't make a difference him dating you, he still won't. I know this because if he was desperately into you he would have made a move. Calling you regarding treatment is standard after care and part of the whole private dentist sales charm. They make you feel special and cared for because it gets them return customers, good reviews and recommendations. If he wanted anything romantic or sexual with you he would have done something about it already himself. He isn't shy or hesitant. They are type A go-getters.

Dating Vets is absolutely not the same!

Please don't encourage her or give inapporpriate sexual harassment ideas - not everything is a joke. Some people post on here and they may not have the mental or rational capacity to discern your weird and inappropriate jokes. It also trivialises SA at work. I'm amazed the comments been allowed to stand.

I wouldn't stalk or ask the receptionist. That is insane and he would find out. It would be worse than just asking him because now thr receptionist and whole office know you fancy him, it's more awkward and embarrassing for him. If he wanted to date you he would have done something and certainly letting his colleagues know of your interest is like a bucket of cold water on any interest if he bad it it also makes the staff gossip about what he may have said or done to make you think you have a chance or laugh at another delusional patient.

I would see a different dentist because if he is making you feel this way whether intentionally flirty or not, then he is not a good dentist to you at least. I agree with finding a dentist you aren't attracted to but that's more for you to feel comfortable on your appointments not to go and ask the first one out.

You sound like you have low self esteem and to find someone successful and handsome pay attention to you must have been such a high and an unusual feeling. His attention probably felt validating and accepting. The right dentist for you will feel accepting, nonjudgmental, kind but there wouldn't be attraction or flirting from either of you...because yes some private dentists do flirt lightly to get you back and make the appointment run smoother.

So advice is

1. Change to a dentist you wouldn't fancy
2. Do not ask him out or enquire it
3. Work on your self esteem. I can recommend exercise and being in nature.
4. When you are ready, date.

Unless you have perfect white teeth and immaculate breath I highly doubt he would be interested Op @Letterstoyou

Yeah, no. Don’t do this, OP. My husband is a doctor and I know he would be absolutely mortified and not impressed if he had a patient ask him out (although he’s married and works with children so 😂).

He’s being friendly, nothing more. I had a dental implant a few years ago and the dentist who did it talked about all sorts and was a generally all round great person. But it was clear he was just a nice person and was being friendly.

Don’t do it. It will just be embarrassing for everyone involved.

I fancy the man who works at my optician and according to DD, he fancies me too! I'm just enjoying it for what it is - a bit of an ego boost for both of us and a nice way to spend half an hour every so often. Just do the same.

The chances of a handsome dentist with a lovely personality and £££££s in the bank being single are slim to none - I bet the dental surgery staff have quite a giggle about his patients's crushes on him 😂

He’s not into you. At all. Ever.

You’re mistaking a dental procedure for intimacy.

He didn’t study so hard at University to hook up with his patients.

I agree with all of this. My dentist is pretty handsome and he gazes into your eyes on purpose. It works on me, I always go back to him and have some quite expensive braces as I feel so reassured by his manner. It's always professional though and he absolutely won't be single, he's wealthy, handsome and won't risk his great job for a patient.

I’m I fancied my chiropractor and stopped going for this reason. I never asked him out, but he was always really lovely to me, we talked about a lot, he was intellectual in many ways too. But I was just another client to him. He didn’t even see me that way and I know that now.

Not bursting any bubbles but you have to be really sure because it blurs a line that could be awkward if rejected.

Read Funambersnail’s post!

It’s probably a bad idea OP but I do understand you a little bit. I’ve become great friends with my physiotherapist - we just clicked. I also see a doctor (woman of around my age) once a year who I get on so well with I’m always tempted to ask her ‘how about we continue our conversation over a glass of wine sometime?’ and I am fairly certain she’s thinking along those lines as well. Nothing romantic (love my husband!) but we just have a click. But I would never ask and she seems too professional to suggest anything like that, so we just say goodbye saying ‘Well that was fun again, see you next year!’ Long story short, if you feel a click, romantic or not, you’re probably not imagining it. But thread carefully OP, because it still doesn’t mean he’s romantically interested or free … I wish you the best of luck!

Just don’t OP!
all registered professionals have very strict rules in place about sexual behaviour- for a good reason.
Sometimes they don’t play by the rules- I was assaulted by a medical professional and it fucked me up for years. I did absolutely nothing to give him the impression I was interested but clearly he saw things differently.
Professional standards exist for the wellbeing of staff and patients. Just enjoy looking at him and don’t do it

Oh bless you, OP. It's such a classic situation. We're feeling more than usually vulnerable at the dentist/doctors/osteopath/etc, they only have to be a tiny bit nice or sympathetic to a patient for most people to respond with gratitude and a bit of Stockholm Syndrome. I mean, I'd imagine research has been done on this. I find myself being a bit flirty with our family dentist even though I don't actually fancy him ... but I'd never do anything about it. I'm not crazy. He's an NHS dentist and we'd never find another!

Seriously !!! Look you're only human but take my word for it: DONT. Lots of reasons AND when or if you do, then he will guarantee to strike you off and blacken your name with other surgeons ( they all know each other you know). When in the future you need help or treatment no one will go near you because everyone is afraid of allegations made against them. You will ruin your life if you flirt with a medical person and it's OBJECTIFICATION to boot.

Well my Mum admitted when she was in her 80's that she'd had a brief affair with the vet! I'd always wondered why she kept taking the guinea pig to the vet, he always seemed quite healthy!

Yeah dentists can be charming, they hypnotise you with their eyes, like cats do to the birds, to make you whip out your credit card for their expensive treatments

I work in a pharmacy and have had a few men ask me for my number just because I’ve been friendly with them and take time to have conversations about absolutely anything with them. It’s literally just part of my job to make people feel comfortable and because young and ‘attractive’ to some people they take it as I’m flirting with them when all I’m doing is just talking to them. It has made me feel put on the spot and uncomfortable when men have asked for my number for given me theirs. I feel like most people in healthcare professions are just generally nice people and want their patients to feel comfortable.

Ewwww.lol

Or stalk him to the shops……lol no please dont

DH is a dentist and we met at a bar. I once asked him if he would’ve asked me out if I’d been one of his patients and he said absolutely not.
It’s massively frowned upon for dentists to date patients as it’s a power imbalance. The dentist is in a position of authority and the patient is in a vulnerable position.