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I really fancy my dentist

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Letterstoyou · 23/04/2026 11:48

He's my age, really good looking and just a really nice person. I feel like we have chemistry. I know I might sound a bit delusional. Is there a way I could ask him out? How would I do this? He's ringing me next week about my treatment. Obviously I would need to find a new dentist and/or dental practice but I'd be okay to do that. Its just rare that you feel genuine chemistry and connection with someone.

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MSJ14 · 23/04/2026 20:43

Do I think you’re delusional? absolutely
Do I think you should do it anyway? yes

you only live once, worst case scenario it bruises your ego and you have to find a new dentist.

NoArmaniNoPunani · 23/04/2026 20:47

I fancy one of my patients.

Bunny44 · 23/04/2026 20:52

Do you know he's single and does he know you're single? I really fancied my gym coach and could tell he prob liked me too. So once when he asked me what I was doing at the weekend, I said I was supposed to go on a date but the guy cancelled... Which was a shame as I'd organised childcare. He said, "who the hell would cancel on you?! Well it'd be a shame to waste the childcare, I could come instead?" We've been together 6 months now.

Hard to chit chat when he's looking at your teeth though... Dentist appointments are usually pretty short 😬. Another option is to talk about a local event and ask him if he's been and then be like you should go and see if that convo goes anywhere...

keepswimming38 · 23/04/2026 20:57

Please don’t! How old are you? 12? Of course he’s nice and talks about all sorts. He’s taught to do that to put clients at ease. Don’t misinterpret that for attraction.

Vivaldi85 · 23/04/2026 20:59

Unless you're young and fit looking forget it.

cottingleyfairy · 23/04/2026 21:00

He’s paid to be nice to you.

VictoriaEra · 23/04/2026 21:02

I wouldn’t move dentists if you’ve got a good one. Crushes come and go. Don’t take too seriously and enjoy your appointments.

ocelot3 · 23/04/2026 21:03

I thought this for a millisecond re my dentist. Probably I had a hero complex (after he rescued me at a weekend when I was nearly dying of pain…and none of the utterly hopeless men I seem to land myself with in life have ever rescued me from anything). However, it really wasn’t long before I realised his wonderful bedside manner was also in full flow, in exactly the same way, with women 20+ years older than me. This made me feel very old and slightly silly. Unfortunately, it’s probably not exclusive, OP.

jammibats · 23/04/2026 21:05

These things happen and its natural but its also super awkward for you to ask him out when he's your medical care giver I think. He's paid to take care of you in some capacity and I think people often find that quite attractive, like with doctors or therapists, when to them you are just another patient.

If you really want to ask him out then change your dentist and then ask him.

hypnovic · 23/04/2026 21:08

If you reverse gender absolutely no one would give this the green light.

Cherrytree86 · 23/04/2026 21:10

He’s hardly gonna fancy you in this setting where he’s peering into your wide open gob is he?! It’s hardly attractive @Letterstoyou

Crwysmam · 23/04/2026 21:16

I will let you into a big secret. We are the same with everyone who walks through the surgery door. I have known a few colleagues who are grumpy and miserable but their patients love them for that very reason. As a profession we are hard wired to perform. Very early on in our careers we find out that interacting and chatting with patients encourages them to relax. It’s a standing joke in dental nurse circles that by lunchtime they’ve heard the same funny story 20 times.

It settles patients down. I also try and remember something relevant about a patient, it’s quite easy when you’ve been seeing them regularly, it’s my super power and patients feel that you have paid attention and that they are not just another set of teeth.

It also helps that I live and work in a small town so I get to hear all the local news.

Honestly he will be exactly the same with every female patient. We tend to flirt outrageously with the elderly because it’s fun and both sides know that it’s all fun. You tend to be pleasant with younger patients but are careful not to flirt because of professional codes.

With children we make weird animals with inflated gloves and chat about whatever the latest craze is. When my DS was young I knew all the popular games and TV programmes.

It is very likely that your dentist is just using his dentist - patient routine which works for him. Out of work he may be very different and not at all the same sort of character he presents at work.

I am super chatty at work but at home I’m much quieter and reserved. It’s a bit like meeting your favourite actor, it can be very disappointing.

Backawayfromthesausage · 23/04/2026 21:16

Op, looking at the other thread. I’d not do this, keep it as a fantasy, if he’s just being friendly it will damage your self esteem more.

DOCTORCEE · 23/04/2026 21:26

He can’t date you, even if he wanted to.
Changing dentists makes no difference - you met in a patient / practitioner situation.
He’d be breaching the code of professional ethics and more, Forget about him.

mumuseli · 23/04/2026 21:27

I would find a subtle way to find out if he's single first - think of a way to ask him next time you speak. It might be a bit obvious really, rather than subtle, but it's detached enough to not lose face if he says he's already in a relationship.
That's far less embarrassing / heavy handed than you asking him out and him saying he's already in a relationship.

....and if he says he is single, well he'll probably guess why you asked, then hopefully things will develop with one of you asking the other out. I agree though, that you shouldn't ask him out while still his patient, as it puts him in a difficult situation professionally.

MrsJoker · 23/04/2026 21:28

I’m a dental hygienist - I would fake my own death rather than have this conversation with a patient.

spottybelly · 23/04/2026 21:29

Moonmelodies · 23/04/2026 12:31

Have you tried running your tongue around his fingers when they're in your mouth?

🤣🤣🤣

PILEALLTHEPILLSONTHEFLOOR · 23/04/2026 21:32

Ignore the haters. Why don't you just ask him out!

Lavender14 · 23/04/2026 21:33

My dental appointments last about 5 minutes. And there's very little chat when I've things in my mouth so I'm genuinely curious how you've talked so much about all sorts.

I think op this is probably good bedside manner. If you're absolutely determined you need to change dentist and then if you live locally bump into him.

How do you know he's single?

Dishwashersforever · 23/04/2026 21:35

Have the work you need done then when treatment is over thank him and ask him if he fancies going for a coffee sometime ?

Terfedout · 23/04/2026 21:36

Letterstoyou · 23/04/2026 12:30

I'm private 👍🏻

My dentist is private and he is absolutely charming.

Why? Because we pay them a fuck tonne of money. I bet he is like it with all the girls, and probably some of the boys too 🤭🤗

Dishwashersforever · 23/04/2026 21:36

MrsJoker · 23/04/2026 21:28

I’m a dental hygienist - I would fake my own death rather than have this conversation with a patient.

Haha

Hammy19 · 23/04/2026 21:38

Letterstoyou · 23/04/2026 11:48

He's my age, really good looking and just a really nice person. I feel like we have chemistry. I know I might sound a bit delusional. Is there a way I could ask him out? How would I do this? He's ringing me next week about my treatment. Obviously I would need to find a new dentist and/or dental practice but I'd be okay to do that. Its just rare that you feel genuine chemistry and connection with someone.

Do it! What's the worse that could happen?!

I tried it when I was in my 20s but he said no because he couldn't date a patient. He's still my dentist over 20 years later!

Chatterlyssecret · 23/04/2026 21:41

If he is like my Dentist he will be in Scrubs whilst giving you oral examination, let the back of your hand accidentally rub against his groin area & apologise immediately, he may move closer for more accidental pleasure or like the previous poster said suck on his finger.

DripDripAprilshower · 23/04/2026 21:42

He has a right to practice his profession without a woman pestering him for a ‘date’.