I really fancy my dentist

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He's my age, really good looking and just a really nice person. I feel like we have chemistry. I know I might sound a bit delusional. Is there a way I could ask him out? How would I do this? He's ringing me next week about my treatment. Obviously I would need to find a new dentist and/or dental practice but I'd be okay to do that. Its just rare that you feel genuine chemistry and connection with someone.

Not their doctor or dentist they don't.

I asked my vet out and he said yes!

Do you have excellent teeth OP? If not he's more likely privately judging you than not - I've never known a dentist not put off by dental hygiene issues.

Nowt wrong with fancying someone but I do think it's best to have a bit of decorum and restraint when it's a client/provider relationship.

Regardless of your perception of him matching your feelings,you can't really have spent that much time with him, so it all seems quite a leap. He can't date you if you're a registered patient either as far as I'm aware without potentially compromising his licence so if you do like him then let him be, or move to a different practice and make a move if you must.

It’s just a crush OP. You’ll get over it. If he’s so lovely chances are he has a partner anyway. Or he could be gay.

No, OP. Your dentist is someone you're paying to provide a service (and a good bedside manner). You can't even know if he's single, presumably. You can't act on this unless you were to change dentists first and then happen to meet him on a night out or something. You'd put both yourself and him in a really weird position if you were to say something, particularly if you only see him at work as his patient.

Do dentists take any kind of oath that includes not having sex with their patients? I'd imagine he could get struck off.

Yes just sexually assault him OP, that sounds ideal.

FFS

I had a dentist for years, who went on some kind of holiday, shagged a load of hookers and then came home and gave his wife an STD. I only knew this because I happened to see the story on the front page of a tabloid…

I think the first step would be to ask if he’s married or find out through conversation somehow otherwise this is a lovely day dream. Which tbh I think it’s more yours than his. Any decent professional will not date their patients.

We need more- tell!

Why shouldn’t she ask? He’s hardly her boss, he’s just a health professional and if it was that excruciating afterwards then just change dentist. Ask!

I'd leave well alone. Embarrassment aside, you could land him in trouble.

Reminds me of this couple we used to know. He was 30 years older than his new wife. In friend circles there was gossip that they met as she was his patient.

His and her story was that she was staff where they worked (which everyone knew was untrue, never even being in that line of work). Anyway they are divorced now. This was probably 20 years ago when they got together, thought very unprofessional and he would have faced disciplinary, I'm not sure anyone was going to stick their necks out then and to 'prove' it they would have to access her medical records to see that her was her treating doctor, which would obviously be illegal and wrong.

So guess it was never meant to be as it didn't last.

Totally agree! I have a hot dentist and it makes me feel even more humiliated and like a nervous wreck than I am already feeling 😳Can’t help thinking I would me more comfortable with someone less attractive 😆

I had a casual thing with my private cosmetic dentist. He treated me and then reached out to me on instagram. It didn’t go beyond a fling but I did think it was pretty unprofessional and wonder if he was allowed to do that at the time, often wonder what would have happened if I’d have complained about it.

I fancied him so I didn’t care about that though. I’d never have reached out if he didn’t though. I couldn’t imagine the embarrassment.

Perfect! I love Motherland. OP needs to look up “limerence”. Seriously, codes of practice may mean that he’s not allowed to date a recent client either.

Crack on ask something like have you always liked oral he'll soon catch on.

I really wouldn't!

People have mentioned this upthread, but crushing on your HC professionals is a real thing.

Eg, I've a crush on my GP. He's about my age. Handsome, smart, divorced and single. I also see a psychologist and was talking about it with her. Small town, the HC professionals all work out of the same hospital etc.

She pointed out that we fall for people who care for us. And that's normal. But that's ALL it is.

Please just leave it at that. I get it though. I always make sure I look nice when I see him. Mind you, I could never see him for a pap smear or a breast exam, I would die a thousand deaths.

He won't date you. Just enjoy your crush OP or if it's not enjoyable then change dentist.

No, he’s doing his job. It would potentially be embarrassing for both of you. As others have said, find another dentist if you really want to make a move on this one.

My dentist too is v handsome. I'm thankful we just natter about our grown up children.

It is normal for private practice. My dentist rang on a weekend after a procedure to see how I was.

I have a proper 'date the doctor' story! Bit different from the OP but I cannot resist.

I was taken to see a specialist Dr when I was 15. He was handsome, had a bit of a schoolgirl crush on him. He was recommended by a doctor in the family.

Fast forward 6 years. I was 21 and met him at a party thrown by the family-doctor who recommended him. He asked if I'd like to go for a drive in his flashy new car. I said yes. He was lovely & we kissed. He was 24 years older than me but I didn't care. I dated him for a year. It was awesome until it wasn't.

Eventually I realised he was shagging every nurse he could get his hands on & had condom wrappers in his car. He would take me out for dinner then dump me in a hospital waiting room whilst he attended to patients. Then a nurse would come in the room and laugh at me, saying "Oh, so who are you?".

Bleh, sorry for banging on! OP, I'm sure your Dentist is a nice man but still, just dont!

Remember this

If he wanted to ask you out, he would find a way.

How has the OP managed to talk about “all sorts” with her dentist?
Whenever, I visit the dentist, the dental nurse/assistant is always there. Can you flirt much in front of them?

I had an awkward moment with an optician once. He was charming & attractive & then started telling me how he was going through a rough patch in his relationship. I said I’m sorry but I’ve always wondered if he wanted me to react differently. I moved areas and never saw him again.

Although this will be embarrassing when it ends up in the news

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