I really fancy my dentist

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He's my age, really good looking and just a really nice person. I feel like we have chemistry. I know I might sound a bit delusional. Is there a way I could ask him out? How would I do this? He's ringing me next week about my treatment. Obviously I would need to find a new dentist and/or dental practice but I'd be okay to do that. Its just rare that you feel genuine chemistry and connection with someone.

I asked out my optician once, and he said yes and we went on a date. Then he went back to his ex, so it was only the one date!

So he was seeing someone else? 🧐

Sorry! 🤭

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I could say exactly this about my dentist except we are both straight women and she's 30 years younger than me.

I don't understand how you could've had that many conversations about 'all sorts'?

The majority of your appointment will be spent with your mouth wide open, and the rest talking about your dental treatment.

Then there'll be his next client waiting to go in?

How does he do fillings etc with his hands tied? (sorry!)

He’s being nice to you because that’s his job and you’re paying him. He’s very unlikely to be single. I’d try and find that piece of vital information out first before you switch dentists.

Watch that James Nesbitt TV short series The Secret.

Then you won’t fancy the dentist.

Actually the first thing I noticed when I switched from NHS to private was that they are all (both male and female) absolutely lovely.

Which considering how much the treatments cost, is a wise move.

On a practical note, I imagine I’m at my most unattractive when being seen by my dentist - flat on my back, goggles on, a big bib on, mouth open and drooling slightly. I reckon Cindy Crawford would struggle to look alluring in the circumstances.

what are the chances that he actually fancies you?

Go for it!

Tell us what happens 😏

Yes, you’re paying more for the service so they’re extra attentive.

Be real are you even in his “league” though? Are you very attractive/successful? I had a doctor who was my age/very good looking but I don’t think I was in the same league as a very attractive doctor somehow.

It’s inappropriate to have a relationship with a dr, optician, dentist , so OP had better find someone else, after finding out his marital status, of course!

It’s common to fall in love with health care providers, I fell in love with my somewhat nerdy and ankle flapper trouser wearing doctor years ago simply because he seemed to give a shit about me when I felt very lonely. He was very professional and insisted upon a chaperone when I went in for an internal exam 🙈 I think he might have guessed.

but seriously dentists and doctors are bound to the Hippocrates oath not to take advantage of patients so better best forgotten

Why do you need a new dentist? Surely that would be a perk... you only need the new dentist if you dated this one and then split up... or if he rejects your moves and you're too embarrass to show him your molars.

He's not going to date a patient though.

Plus the OP said the other day her confidence and self-esteem are at rock bottom, so I'm not sure setting herself up for rejection is a good move.

Health professionals abide by a code of practice. They have to communicate effectively and listen to patients, act with honesty and uphold the reputation of the profession. You might be reading too much into the conversations you're having with him. My dentist is a nice chap and is very chatty but that doesn't mean he would be open to a relationship. Id tread carefully if I were you to save yourself from embarrassment.

I remember that, it was cringingly funny. I once had (not in that sense!) the most gorgeous plumber, when I paid the company I did mention this to the admin woman who I made the payment to and she said that lots of people (women I assume) remarked on how good looking he was. It is the only time in my life that I have seen a good looking workman or indeed doctor or dentist. In fact I am so terrifed of the the dentist I doubt I would even notice what they looked like, I just want to get out of there as fast as I can

Get a new dentist. Then you can approach your crush. If he's not single, straight and interested in you then you might have wasted your time but nothing ventured, nothing gained.

My friends husband is a dentist and has been asked out by patients a few times. He is a nice man and talks to patients about lots of things to relax them and to encourage them to make regular appointments, but then some read more into it. He finds it really awkward and inappropriate.

Leave the man alone. He should be able to be polite and chat, which is just him doing his job to put you at ease, without it ending up with you putting him in an awkward position.

Yes, I was going to say this too. It's a thing - called Dr Kildare syndrome or something I think.

Your brain gets tricked by the fact they seem to want to care for you, even though they are paid to do it, but your brain kind of misses that bit.

My dentist is amazing, super friendly, we know about each others families and lives etc (been there years). A colleague also goes to the same dentist and they have the same 'relationship'. Tread carefully is my point.

If it ever came to light, the General Dental Council would take a dim view of it. Considered unethical and unprofessional.

Your dentist knows this. If he entertains an advance from you, he is crossing a professional boundary.

Which should then be a red flag to you.

A good looking dentist isn't going to be single 😂

Honestly, I'd rather hold on to a good dentist than have him as a boyfriend!