I dont have to be a grand-nanny.

[WaryBlueFish]

I dont feel obligated to provide full time childcare to grandchildren and here is why. I am a 110% mother. I devoted my life to my kids. I worked full time but still managed to run a clean, happy organized home with family dinners every night despite the multitude of activities my kids were in. I did it all and I completely lost myself in the process. I have zero regrets, but that doesnt mean I am now willing to sign the rest of my life over to the next generation. I am happy to be the back up, to show up for their sports and events, to cover emergencies like snow days and holidays. I may even consider being "summer camp". But no, I am not doing a FT care job. I did my time. I am tired. I deserve to look forward to an actual retirement in 7 years.

It’s different for everyone, fair play to you.

My mum minds my DS. She’s as close to him as I am to her. It’s lovely for us all.

Hard work, though. DS is high energy!

Has someone put a bet on how many of these types of threads can be on here at any one time?

Why are Mumsnet still allowing these trolls?

God knows. Of all the things I’ve seen MN ban over the years, I don’t know why these aren’t making the grade.

lol sure

How weird!

For what it's worth i'm a reluctant grand mother ! 🤣

Love GC to bits but she's not my baby. I think because my youngest (of 4) is still only 11 i'm entitled to feel like i'm still in the weeds (of parenting) and don't want any more on my plate thanks 😃

Another RandomThreeWords username, I see.

Maybe but not about disinterested - just putting themselves first for first time in their life AND being a decent grandma still

Yeah, getting ridiculous now.

Surely there’s a happy medium? Like a day or two a week/ every two weeks? Would you not have appreciated it yourself? While I hate seeing gps doing the same school runs as actual parents, and worse not being appreciated, the times someone has said to me I’ll do x, you deserve a break have almost made me cry with appreciation

Seems to be the theme of the week.

If you are an adult you should be able to tell your (adult) dc that you are not available?

The other threads aren’t this women’s feelings and predicament - dont Be so dismissive

Yes! There’s been an influx of identical threads over the past week or so on this. Weird.

Why are you letting yourself get drawn into debate about it when these threads are not real.

The OPs always make it clear that they are NOT grandparents.

@Eastereggschocolateisthebest woefully naive.

Maybe if parents raised their kids propely instead of screens doing it, they wouldn`t have to raise their gran kids.

Im knowones stannd or back up plan now, and i wont be changing it when im older.

This

These threads are getting very dull

This op has said they might even do the summer - read the post!

But don’t as an adult dc tell your parents that you’re not available, because that is blackmail…

Has Gransnet just emptied into here? All aggrieved and unpleasant. Or, my favoured thought, there's a concerted ageist, misogynistic trolling attempt going on.

WTAF?

Don’t be so rude and arrogant

No, she said she may do 'summer camp' and isn't due to retire for 7 years.

It's all go today !

Like you are…

im not…thought it was real

why don’t you report if you think its not real