I dont have to be a grand-nanny.

[WaryBlueFish]

I dont feel obligated to provide full time childcare to grandchildren and here is why. I am a 110% mother. I devoted my life to my kids. I worked full time but still managed to run a clean, happy organized home with family dinners every night despite the multitude of activities my kids were in. I did it all and I completely lost myself in the process. I have zero regrets, but that doesnt mean I am now willing to sign the rest of my life over to the next generation. I am happy to be the back up, to show up for their sports and events, to cover emergencies like snow days and holidays. I may even consider being "summer camp". But no, I am not doing a FT care job. I did my time. I am tired. I deserve to look forward to an actual retirement in 7 years.

All 4 of the “similar post” suggestions at the bottom of my page are on the same vein.

It's to balance all the threads about Mums who think that their Mum /mil should be carers for their GC .

I’m always 🤨 about the essay type posts with auto generated user names. Same topic repeatedly. Is it the whole thing just bot generated?

Er.....ok?

We’ve just had a thread about this

I’ve hidden 4 this week (so dull as they all follow the same pattern) and I’m not on MN that much. I don’t think MN check anything or we wouldn’t need the report button.

How is she being a disinterested grandma? It's not compulsory to provide childcare nor should it be.

I'm starting to think this issue needs its own board.

Most of them read like the ai generated engagement farming type stuff i see on other platforms. I’ve been on MN for almost 20 years and know that there is people who troll about the same subject but there’s something robotic, flat and entirely predictable in the type of repetitive threads about the same subject over the last year or two.

I don’t mean posts where a person uses chat gpt to generate themselves a post because they have learning difficulties or communication issues etc , those people tend to stick around and engage through the whole thread. Those have a different feel to them.

Nrft but why are peeps moaning this is one of many gp posts? Just scroll by and ignore it.🙄

Not another of these repetitive tedious posts.

Do what you fucking want, NOONE CARES.

If that's the way you see it why did you even have kids?🤔

Well bully for you. Personally I have enjoyed looking after my DGC and will continue to do so but I don't start threads about it

Yeah, it’s called gransnet.

YANBU

My mother was a fulltime SAHM (there were 6 of us). She then, in her 70s, looked after two of my brother's DC (as my SiL is hopeless basically), and it exhausted my mother. She said she enjoyed it, and she said she developed a lasting relationship with these GCs, but in her final illness, neither of them bothered to visit her.

Do your thing. Find yourself again @WaryBlueFish !

This is actually becoming quite comedic

I've never heard "grand-nanny" before. Is that a common name for a Grandmother?
Common as in used often not lower class BTW!

It's up to you.
What help have your children asked for?

I suspect everyone who has quoted me on this thread is 1 person

Unless it's one person with multiple logins then that's not possible.

And you couldn't have posted that comment on the myriad identikit threads around here @WaryBlueFish ?

How can you be a mother 110%? Do you have an extra arm or something for that extra 10%?

Isn't it 'obliged'? Not 'obligated'. I'm not even sure of my own pedantry. Are they both different words with the same meaning? Confused.

Ouch!

So many threads on this. Here is a idea. Why have kids in the first place? No gran is obliged to look after grandkids. Just think of the years you have wasted loving a man and children. Giving your time to family. Friendships.

But also no woman is obligated to have children. My 22 year old son wants to be sterilised. After reading all these threads on repeat I don't blame him.

Family should be a joy. Not a drudge.

Op go travel the world. Live your best life ever. Do whatever you don't need permission. But don't keep on saying that no woman should enjoy her family.

I'm a graduate corporate business woman. I have a five bed detached house in the Surrey hills that I bought. Traveled the world. Decades long stable marriage.

Nothing. Nothing has come close to giving me joy like my family. This obviously makes me a sad anti feminist. However I'm living life on my terms and not on the terms rammed down my throat as a woman.

It's sexist. No man is ever mentioned. Dad's can be involved grandparents or not without comment on these threads. But us sad little woman are being told how to feel. Act. Behave.

Let's burn our bras and fuck our kids in the name of feminists. Better still, let's all be single as surely men need something from us? Like sharing chores. Sharing space. Having sex. Why give anyone anything of us? Even if some of us like it?