I dont have to be a grand-nanny.

[WaryBlueFish]

I dont feel obligated to provide full time childcare to grandchildren and here is why. I am a 110% mother. I devoted my life to my kids. I worked full time but still managed to run a clean, happy organized home with family dinners every night despite the multitude of activities my kids were in. I did it all and I completely lost myself in the process. I have zero regrets, but that doesnt mean I am now willing to sign the rest of my life over to the next generation. I am happy to be the back up, to show up for their sports and events, to cover emergencies like snow days and holidays. I may even consider being "summer camp". But no, I am not doing a FT care job. I did my time. I am tired. I deserve to look forward to an actual retirement in 7 years.

Well what’s that then?

I don’t know why you are all so 👮

It is bonkers! What is happening? I think we need to start linking to Gransnet or something. It's becoming an echo chamber

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OK. Thank you for telling us.

I don’t think anyone’s asking you to be though are they? It’s not a public issue, just one for your own family 🤷‍♂️

if you’re asked directly by your DC, you can say no. I’m not sure why announcing it on MN is useful.

The thread is real - see above

Appears not to be- see above

stop detailing threads you know nothing about

WTAF us going on with these threads??

Its MN everyone everyone announces something.

Plus id never tell my children no because i dont have any to tell neither do i want them.
Only have to read MN on the drama i feel i dodged a bullet.

I'm fully expecting this topic to crop up on morning telly. Pure twilight zone going on.

People don’t tend to announce things on here. They’re usually asking questions. Literally just announcing that you’re not going to provide childcare, to a bunch of strangers that haven’t asked you to provide childcare…is objectively bonkers.

Perhaps eclipsed only by announcing you won’t be providing childcare and you don’t even have children, let alone grandchildren 🥴

Good for you if you don’t want to but why is it that all these posts lately, saying essentially the same thing, use the ‘I did my time’ argument? Gods sake, no one forced you to have them, it wasn't a punishment that you had to serve time for.

WTF is going on on here.

Anyway, you choose which relationships to invest in. Do as you please, just don't expect to have amazing relationships and a close family without putting some time and effort in.

I did my time and I clocked off when my children were 18. Adult children don't need supportive family.

Next post: why don’t my adult children visit me

🤣 Not seen my mother since birth. She assumed human children were like Turtles. She served her time…… 🙄

It’s a genuine post - I saw it as a mum announcing she’s not doing it because there has clearly been an expectation

im now wondering if you are all taking offence and saying it’s a fake thread because you feel it’s a bash at mothers - or you are the guilty party in this common scenario - the op is a mum btw

i just read it as a normal post

I don’t “use” my mum for childcare, so I definitely haven’t taken it as a dig. I just think it’s a bit mad announcing something to a group of people it doesn’t pertain to.

I don’t know a single person in my social circle or annoys my colleagues who used parents for regular childcare. Genuinely.

How do you know it’s genuine unless you wrote it?!

I don’t think anyone’s taking offence, it’s just a bit repetitive as there have been a lot of posts like this recently.

Also, how do we know any post on here is genuine, really?

We report the threads but they are left to stand, even though pretty much every post from the OPs get deleated because they are abusive. I guess that whilst Mumsnet claims it supports mums, abusing Mums creates more clickbait.

Because Mumsnet checked it out when one of you couldn’t believe it was a genuine
post

must be in denial

Spectacularly misses the point.

Good for you. I don't think I know a single person who would ask their parent to be their FT childcare, much less expect or demand it. Has anyone actually demanded it of you or are we all just naming stuff we don't feel obligated to do?

If someone told me I had to give them my car for free, or told me I had to climb Kilimanjaro, I would not feel obligated to say yes. Back to you.

I think there has been two similar posts - hardly massive

How does anyone verify whether or not a post is genuine 🤷

I could post on here saying a I lost my leg in a car crash, how are they going to check that’s genuine?