I dont feel obligated to provide full time childcare to grandchildren and here is why. I am a 110% mother. I devoted my life to my kids. I worked full time but still managed to run a clean, happy organized home with family dinners every night despite the multitude of activities my kids were in. I did it all and I completely lost myself in the process. I have zero regrets, but that doesnt mean I am now willing to sign the rest of my life over to the next generation. I am happy to be the back up, to show up for their sports and events, to cover emergencies like snow days and holidays. I may even consider being "summer camp". But no, I am not doing a FT care job. I did my time. I am tired. I deserve to look forward to an actual retirement in 7 years.