Would paramedics refer me to social services if they didnt ask me anything

[Sophie2082]

Flat is very messy as husband is extremely poorly. Kitchen has dirty dishes. I am doing it on my own and baby is a velcro 9 month old and breastfeeds on demand. Typing this while he is suckling from me. Husband is so poorly he keeps vomitting into a baby potty (obviously never been used by baby, i just got it in advance)

He called the ambulance v early in the morning. He is sleeping in the spare room which has the baby changing table, baby wardrobe and a playmat with toys on the floor (noticed after paramedics left there was a cable on the floor). Honestly baby moves v slowly and i am usually with baby so will carry him off when he touches anything he shouldnt. He cosleeps with me in the master bedroom and the cot is full of clean clothes ( i put away some when i get a moment). Baby has never slept in it as he cosleeps (of course the ambulance staff dont know that but i think they saw it while standing in hallway).

They took husband away in ambulance, he honestly wasnt very lucid and kept saying he has a learning disability which means he cant reach his GP so no records of thr GP appointment. Truth is he has private health insurance so usually goes for private medical care do a & e staff can't see any records. He doesnt have a learning disability but has been diagnosed with adhd and he got a private antibiotics prescription yesterday.

They took my husband and left me with baby. No questions asked about baby but they did see baby as i was carrying him while talking to them.

Why do you think they might refer you?

DH has gone privately recently but all of those records are sent back to your GP especially if it's medication etc. It would be odd for his GP to have no notes of any kind or unable to be found in the system as everyone has an NHS number.

He eats 2 to 3 meals a day. Sometimezs he misses a meal cos he drinks milk and then goes to sleep on me. Baby is mostly recovered from a virus but still slightly ill so drinks more.

He was in paedaetric a & e 2 weeks ago but they discharged him.

He is with hca healthcare. They dont do it

Tbh they were trying to work out what is wrong with him. He has been to many specialists..

This time he got a virus from my son. But it has escalated to something awful. My son has gotten better. Still coughing and i am keeping him home and he is drinking way more milk but playing smiling laughing and no temperature.

Probably not, your husband was the patient. Is the house dirty and neglected or just cluttered?

I was also wondering this. My 9mo eats 3 meals a day and depending on what it is can feed himself so I can potter about putting things in the dishwasher for a few minutes while he eats. He has milk feeds maybe 3-5 x a day. He hasn't fed constantly like OP describes since he was about 3 months old!

No one get reported for a messy home.
They get reported if their living in filth.

OP, do you have any friends or family that could mind the baby while you have a massive tidy up?

I mean since it's clearly bothering you?

Is your child getting enough solids. Are they feeding constantly as they are hungry and not getting enough solids. Do you need help?

how dirty is your home? You clearly think based on the state of your home they will report you, is there drugs going on? Why would your husband not be lucid but telling tnem he’s got a learning disability?

It’s impossible for anyone to say without really knowing what your house looks like. If it’s just cluttered and untidy then I doubt they’ll be bothered. However if it’s like a hoarder’s house, dirty and with health hazards then yes, I imagine that would raise concerns. If it’s the latter, chances are you might not even be able to see yourself how bad it is - lots of people don’t.

Either way, it sounds like you need help to declutter and get the house back into a liveable state.

Drugs?? My husband and i dont even drink alcohol?!

My son feeds for comfort. He is getting his solids.

This was pic of room they were in.

That's barely a messy room.
That's a normal room.

If you’re home was at the point they felt it was dangerous yes they can report under safeguarding rules, in fact they must report but even if they did, social services would simply sign post services which could be helpful. As to your baby, I’ve been there but you need to be careful about allowing them to dictate, by 9 months you can place in a safe place eg cot and take 10-15 minutes to do a task, even if they cry they will be fine, it’s needs must situation- only you know how bad it is

Why are you worrying about this? Have paramedics or SS indicated anything to you? I wouldn't worry at all, ambulances are usually called when people are in the middle of something that went wrong or when they have been too unwell to maintain a house to a usual standard. Houses aren't guest ready when paramedics are called.

I thought it was. Bedsheet had some stains, i used stain remover but wouldnt come off, either way baby isnt on it . Hubby has such bad diarrhoea from the virus he is wearing my post partum disposable underwear.

No-one's reporting anyone over that room.

Is the rest of the house messy?

Kitchen and bathroom etc?

What makes you feel they may report anything? Duty of care was to your dh so unless they felt he was ill because you were ignoring his issues and he was vulnerable is unlikely to go any further. Private consultants normally share letters and outcome of tests with a gp. It is important that the doctors treating him in A and E are aware of his history and any medications or treatment. If he is not well enough to tell them you need to.

Yeah that's just a small room with quite a bit of kids stuff in it. Nothing is dirty, mouldy, worn or old. Not that having worn or old stuff would be enough to involve SS.

Why are you asking randoms on MN whether you will be reported and not at the hospital with your sick husband??? Surely if he was so confused earlier today, you'd want to be there to provide accurate info to the medical team?

FWIW- I used to work in A&E and knew alot of the paramedics. Reports were made if there was a hazardous risk to a baby/child- not general messiness. One house barely had a path for the baby to crawl through rubbish, partially finished cans of food, sharp edges, flies all over the place. The parent had a mental health issue and has stored plastic containers of her own vomit in piles throughout the house.

This is a really weird thread ...

On your original question no I don’t think ambulance crew would even bat an eye at the level of mess you are talking about. I’m with ambulance services admittedly not based in the UK at the moment but I’ve worked there too, as part of community work I do and honestly what you describe would not raise an eyebrow.

Untidy no, messy no, rats, pests, unhygienic then probably yes.

Can you get yourself a sling and you can feed the baby while you do chores. It was a lifesaver for me in those days.

They didnt see much of the rest of the home. Reception and master bedroom are separate rooms. Hallway is mostly uncluttered. Kitchen was dirty with dirty dishes, i put a lot of it in dishwasher this morning. Last night i fell asleep feeding baby.

You can see from the picture that that room is usually maintained. Blinds and desk are clean and organised, skirting are cleaned, floor looks vacuumed and the room is freshly painted. My house often looks like this when one of my DC are mid game.