Would paramedics refer me to social services if they didnt ask me anything

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Flat is very messy as husband is extremely poorly. Kitchen has dirty dishes. I am doing it on my own and baby is a velcro 9 month old and breastfeeds on demand. Typing this while he is suckling from me. Husband is so poorly he keeps vomitting into a baby potty (obviously never been used by baby, i just got it in advance)

He called the ambulance v early in the morning. He is sleeping in the spare room which has the baby changing table, baby wardrobe and a playmat with toys on the floor (noticed after paramedics left there was a cable on the floor). Honestly baby moves v slowly and i am usually with baby so will carry him off when he touches anything he shouldnt. He cosleeps with me in the master bedroom and the cot is full of clean clothes ( i put away some when i get a moment). Baby has never slept in it as he cosleeps (of course the ambulance staff dont know that but i think they saw it while standing in hallway).

They took husband away in ambulance, he honestly wasnt very lucid and kept saying he has a learning disability which means he cant reach his GP so no records of thr GP appointment. Truth is he has private health insurance so usually goes for private medical care do a & e staff can't see any records. He doesnt have a learning disability but has been diagnosed with adhd and he got a private antibiotics prescription yesterday.

They took my husband and left me with baby. No questions asked about baby but they did see baby as i was carrying him while talking to them.

Your GP surgery just "ignore" your calls??? Just yours or all their other patients too?

And how can they tell you to go to A&E if they're ignoring you and not returning your calls?!

Sorry but as others have said, none of this is adding up.

Sorry if I've missed something but I can only see he has a private ADHD diagnosis ?

I mean I also have ADHD but don't think that means I should hop on an ambulance for vomiting. 😂 I had plus three ketones in my urine and was exclusive breastfeeding my baby, but again wasn't about to waste ambulance time.

I do hope he is well but the whole thing does seem ridiculous unless you're missing something out. Lying about a leaning difficulty? Wow.

I’m sorry, op, but this is just nonsense.

They ignore my requests for an appointment. Then they tell me to go to a & e.

No it's not likely. My dh was carted off in an ambulance when my 2nd was a tiny baby, the house was a tip because I had been trying to keep him alive and care for two small children... nothing was ever said by anyone. Hope your dh is better soon xx

So he's mentally ill, not physically ill. So still not sure why he called an ambulance because he was vomiting.

This is so rude and unnecessary.

OP is obviously struggling.
She has a clingy baby and an unwell husband.
She’s worried and tired.

This is a drop in OPs standards of cleanliness and so for her it is a concern.

You might live in constant mess but not everyone else does.

Of course paramedics refer to SS if they think someone is struggling to an extent where they need support.

OP you’ll be absolutely fine.
Try and take some time for yourself as much as you can.
Most babies go through a really clingy phase but then come out of it and so this won’t last forever.
As soon as DH is feeling better things will get easier.

GP surgeries don't ignore requests for an appointment. You phone up and make an appointment. Is it that you email for an appointment and then they don't reply and then it becomes urgent so they recommend A&E? I can't quite work out what's going on here.

They tell you to go to A&E for what?!

GPs can't just "ignore your request for an appointment". What absolute nonsense. Do you / your husband ring them repeatedly with multiple issues?

Yes. In fact they are compelled to do so. They refer you to social services and they carry out the assessment. They must have been concerned about your circumstances and the fact you have a minor who is unable to fend for themselves.

A 9month baby does not need breastfeeding so frequently you can't tidy up. For one thing, by this age some solid foods should be being introduced so if they are hungry you can put them in the highchair with some soft foods and tidy the kitchen around them. They certainly should be able to go 30 mins after a feed without needing feeding again while you pick up the room a bit and they sit in a bouncer or are in a sling. They aren't a newborn

Not rude - factual.

Nope. Like i say we have private healthcare. I dont usually go to GP much and during my pregnancy i was cared for by midwives

For my son, we havent sorted out access yet so we are relying on nhs for now. Tbh he hasnt been ill much but for the few times he has we went to uclh paedaetric a & e where they were very kind and sorted him out.

Actually if the paramedics are concerned about your living conditions and general risk factors they have to refer you.

I used to feed my son in the sling all the time, it's super easy because he was right next to the boob 😂

I doubt social services referral for being untidy .
Unless they felt their was danger for your child in relation to hygiene or unsafe environment.
You do seem to be struggling which is not uncommon in the situation your family is in with your husband so unwell he need emergency hospital care and a baby.
i dont understand the need to lie to the paramedics though.
You clearly need some support IRL ,do you have any family or friends who could support with tidying,organisation and cleaning.
Priorities: Husbands health, babies wellbeing and you being supported to get your home clean .
I imagine you are exhausted with everything going on but i dont think the social services report or not should be occupying your mind .
Good luck,hope your husband is feeling better and getting the help he needs.

I don't know why people are being so mean to the OP, maybe I'm reading it wrong?

From what I can see OPs house had some mess when paramedics arrived, this is out of the ordinary for her so she is worrying and is asking if SS will be called.

You’re really not making any sense, op.
When did all these refusals to grant you an appointment take place, if you never approach the gp in the first place?
Weren’t the midwives NHS personnel?

Baby is in a sling now as i tidied up but rhen he startes crying he wanted to sleep. So i fed him to sleep.

He must sound a nightmare but when hubby is well, he is very easy and i am used to spending my time with him. Dh also plays with him so i get some time for myself.

There are multiple threads about people not being able to get gp appointments and so I’m not sure why people are being so harsh to the OP.

Just so you know a good sling you can breastfeed in :) x

Tbf the ambulance service do report concerns which often are not safeguarding.

The midwives who cared for you during pg and the doctors who have seen your dc will have shared information with your named Gp if you had one, Not being registered with one would be a safeguarding red flag. Have you seen a health visitor with dc or attended baby clinics and vaccination appointments? You sound very disengaged from such services , do you have family and friends nearby.

I personally dont use the nhs GP much. For my son when i called them they usually dont give appointments..

Maternity is different..we went directly to uclh. There was some monitoring even if they forgot to book my induction until the sonographer reminded them. I had gestational diabetes so i guess they needed to..

Oh God please don't do this OP 🤦🏼‍♀️

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