Your biggest mumsnet character flaw (that causes you no problems in real life)

[HailMerry]

Having read a few threads that variously refer to peoples’ failings with organisation with them being variously late or missing in action I can never get over the ferocity of attack in response to these posts. I mean I wouldn’t understand as I am shocking and despite trying really hard I will forget things, get lost, confuse days, double book myself. And it causes me no problems whatsoever. No one thinks I think I am more important and no one sulks or ditches me.

I am a kind and loyal and helpful person so a bit of chaotic twattery is forgiven easily. I mean people organise me a bit and send me reminders sometimes but that’s it.

also never remember to offer tea and coffee and visitors just make their own or remind me and I will make a cup. Again, no one cares! What is easy in your life that mumsnet makes sound really complicated?!

I think the behaviour of Karens are much worse than them being referred to as Karen.
I also do't have rules on 'screen time'

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I love admin and would hate for my husband to take over doing it. I get a positive rush every time I receive an email telling me to renew my car insurance. Seeing all our incomings and outgoings neatly on my spreadsheet makes me feel a bit like I felt when my children were little and all clean and warm in their pyjamas after a bath, or the feeling of new sheets on my bed- a sort of comforting orderliness and satisfaction.

I am a social drug user and tradesmen are free to use my toilet.

I also find life admin overwhelming and put it off as long as possible.

I couldn’t give a shit if anyone sits on or gets into my bed wearing ‘outdoor clothes’.
I will happily eat takeaways the next day or the day after that haven’t been in the fridge.
I ignore use before dates on food.

Waiting for someone who is often late just because they are often late irritates me. I have no problems cutting them out of my life.

I'm not bothered by a bit of mess. I feel sorry for dc growing up in homes where people are obsessed with keeping everything clean.

Anyone is welcome to drop in anytime. I'll stick the kettle on and chat.

We invited family, friends and dc to our wedding. We spent less on dress, flowers and favours to allow everyone we love to be there. My friends did the same.

I love weddings.

I have friends from the school gate. If people didn't like me i didn't call them a clique.

I get on well with all my in-laws.

I will give any of dc's friends a lift, meal, bed for the night regardless of whether it's evenly balanced. My dc know all their friends are welcome any time.

I'm not rich. Or particularly successful. I am happy.

My dc went to nursery. It was fine.

My dog can be a real twat. No harm done.

I love DH and want him to be happy, spend time with his friends and do his hobby. If ge drinks it's ok.

Dhs hobby is not a massive secret. (It's football)

I am never going to make a chicken last more than two days. Or take in ironing.

SNAP!

I’m fat

I don't drive on motorways because there are none anywhere near me, I've never used Google maps or a sat nav
I'm not going to send my driving licence back to the DVLA as according to many on here I'm an incompetent idiot who shouldn't be on the roads.

I proudly say "Can I get," and pronounce the R in words with my regional accent. That doesn't mean I'm rude or ignorant.

I will admit lateness annoys me...though I was always the late friend. Maybe that's why I annoys me because I put a lot of work into changing myself to respect other people's time.

I have a friend who is always late but with things that matter (so we lose restaurant bookings, haved missed departures etc.) I have started simply leaving which, ironically annoys her no end. But she consistently underestimates how long things take and is too nice to push back if somebody suggests a meeting time she won't have time to make. She is a great friend otherwise though so I have figured out how to work her lateness into my schedule and if she goes past that simply leave or continue with my plan without her.

Also...

I say, and write "Mom" and I am neither a Yank nor Americanised.

I don’t have a toilet brush and it isn’t a massive problem and I don’t put the seat down before I flush.

A chicken lasts a day in my house, not five.

If I have words with my husband, it’s just that and I don’t need strangers advice on the internet. Similarly if one of my sons is doing my head in - I tell him, not mn.

I have never “grey rocked” or “ghosted” anyone in my life. I just say, “what is your problem?”.

I do love this forum but the things people get themselves into a state about is as funny as fuck.

I’ve actually sent one of my friends a link because I was telling her how people on here talk to each other and she didn’t believe me.

I did, however, tell her that there are also great threads which make up for the bat shit judgmental ones.

This is one of them 😊

I am pretty hot on raw meat hygiene admittedly
Hand towels / tea towels all the same, washed when I remember
Dish cloths washed when they start to smell a bit every couple of days perhaps
Same cloth for floor spills as counter spills
Very lax on use by dates on cooked meat / dairy / scraping off mould from cheese
Don’t fully wipe down kitchen between making a salad and starting dinner prep
Wash up in one bowl and don’t rinse anything apart from glasses
Floor washed once a fortnight. Quick sweep between.
Don’t wash hands before eating

But I stand by it - I can count on one hand the number of D&V incidents between all 4 of us and DS is 13 now…. We’re proof that the human immune system can cope with a LOT more than lots of mumsnetters can comprehend

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Exactly, and they would likely be fine with that because someone who is always late probably doesn’t really enjoy being around someone who is extremely picky about punctuality.

That’s my whole point - that the drama only occurs when people continue to maintain friendships with people they dislike.

There are things I find irritating in other people too, but I remedy that by simply being friends with people whose flaws don’t bother me. All the people intent on telling the OP that her friends are secretly resentful of her lateness are missing the point that most people choose friends whose flaws are the kind they don’t find bothersome.

I let my children go out to play and walk to school

I don’t wash my bedding daily

i don’t clean my house 3 times a day

i have pubic hair and never ‘tidy it up’

i turn my central heating on

i answer the door when someone rings the bell

the list is endless - I’m a MN failure

I love football and I shout and swear while I’m watching, both on television and at matches. I also do not believe that football is ‘just a game’ and I understand that for many people a football team is an important part of their heritage, identity, family and community.

I actively encourage my DP’s hobby, which entails him travelling a lot and spending money and is time-consuming.

I’m not in any way appalled or repulsed by the male body. I do not think men stink if they miss a day’s shower. I do not think penises are unhygienic. I also do not find penises unpleasant to look at and would actually love it if my DP could be persuaded to send me dick pics. I am not disgusted or grossed out by the knowledge that men wank.

I shave my legs and armpits because I think it looks and feels much nicer, rather than claiming I only do it because it’s ‘more hygienic.’

I’m not a misanthrope. I enjoy interacting with all kinds of people because I think humans are social people. I don’t want to stay in my house forever if I encounter someone not 100% pleasant.

Plenty of decisions I make depend on my mood.

I mostly wfh but would much prefer not to; I think wfh is bad for mental health.

Another one. Our DDs are in their early twenties now but I still gleefully indulge them at Christmas. New cosy PJs and fancy hot chocolate on Christmas Eve and they get to choose one present from under the tree. Their presents actually spill out from under the tree to the point where you can barely see the carpet for gift bags and parcels.

I spend a fortune on them and love every minute of it. They are my most favourite people in the whole world so why wouldn't I want to spoil them rotten?

Will never understand the MN preference for the 'Romanian Orphanage' aesthetic at Christmas.

Found one 😄

I allow “workmen” to use my toilet.
I wear trainers without socks.
I think lockdowns caused much more harm than good, and I said so in 2020 when MN was a pit of pro-lockdown hysteria.
I believe in the power of switching the television OFF: I did not watch Platty Joobs, the Queen’s funeral, the coronation, or most of the doom-filled “briefings”.

Exactly. I mean having great friends who you adore and don’t feel offended by is a whole category of its own.

I feel quite reassured. I feel queasy at raw meat juice but am quite relaxed about most other stuff too:)