Your biggest mumsnet character flaw (that causes you no problems in real life)

[HailMerry]

Having read a few threads that variously refer to peoples’ failings with organisation with them being variously late or missing in action I can never get over the ferocity of attack in response to these posts. I mean I wouldn’t understand as I am shocking and despite trying really hard I will forget things, get lost, confuse days, double book myself. And it causes me no problems whatsoever. No one thinks I think I am more important and no one sulks or ditches me.

I am a kind and loyal and helpful person so a bit of chaotic twattery is forgiven easily. I mean people organise me a bit and send me reminders sometimes but that’s it.

also never remember to offer tea and coffee and visitors just make their own or remind me and I will make a cup. Again, no one cares! What is easy in your life that mumsnet makes sound really complicated?!

I was chair of the PTA. And my child was Mary <gets coat>

I mean it would be worrying if I hadn’t always been the same! We do joke that it will be hard to tell if I do suffer cognitive decline. I once saved up weeks and weeks worth of earnings as a very badly paid teen to buy something I coveted. I had only had it for a few hours before I left it in a cafe and went home without it. Got home and had an evening in before I realised. They kept it for me happily. Recently I left a case at a hotel - a whole case. I only noticed it had gone when I wanted my foundation the next day. I was very paranoid when the children were babies. I did leave them here and there too!

Ha ha ha ha 😝

I don't organize family outings at the weekend. Mostly my kids want to laze around in jimjams and I'm happy to do the same even when it's sunny out. I also really love baby showers.

Well naturally your lateness causes you no problems. Your friends will take the trouble and time to send you a reminder, so clearly they are trying to prevent the problems caused by someone who is chronically late. Be thankful that you haven't lost friends yet because of this. Once menopause hits, you may well find your friends have less patience with the little dramas you create.

My children are short. Even my sons. Not a strapping 6’2”er amongst them.

I’ve dropped people who can be relied upon to be late. It’s just not worth it.

Same.

I love showers, Hallowe'en, seasonal decoration up to a point, and I see no issue with neighbour children hopping the fence to retrieve a ball or shrieking on their trampoline.

Working hard to earn decent salary
I studied an worked hard - no apologies or being made to feel shit for it

Lateness

I don’t dust very regularly - NO ONE got sick and my life did not implode….same goes for a few other areas of cleaning

There is more drama in that post than in my last decade!

I put up with a lot of noise from neighbours and am happy to take in parcels for them

I am retired and beginning to find some things a struggle . . . I am very aware that I may need their help one day so do everything I can to maintain good relations with my neighbours

I've been known to fart loudly and often, and I'm not remotely ashamed of it.
I take in parcels for the neighbours.
I answer the door without having been given a week's notice.
I shower every other day.
I occasionally nap on top of the bed in the same clothes I've worn to the supermarket. (I take my shoes off, I'm not a total savage.)
I have a toilet brush and it's not purely ornamental.
I enjoy a good cathartic swear now and again.
My house is less than pristine, and I don't care.

When I worked part-time and DH worked full-time I didn't expect him to do 50% of the housework, cooking and childcare.
I'd done the same job as he did before I had children so I couldn't kid myself that the housekeeping and child rearing was just as hard; it was massively easier.
I also didn't think how wonderful I was for having grown a whole human in my body twice and then "birthed" them (I just "had" mine) - I accepted that's the way biology works.

My tableware mainly consists of some very ancient Pyrex plates and bowls which belonged to my late DP's, interspersed with a few random serving dishes from Ikea & Sainsbury's. No lovely matching Denby dinnerware . . .

I don’t mind seeing dc on their screens in a restaurant.

I am on benefits.

And - steady now - I shower 2/3 times per week.

What do you mean 'don't believe' in then? 😂😂
they happen all the time everywhere; whether you 'believe' in them or not.

Yup, same here. I can't say I have ever been horribly used or let down by anyone despite trusting people.

I feel like this too. Most people are great.

Fortunately I am very competent in some areas but I have the same issues at work too but people are very good humoured about it. I set off for a very important meeting last week and popped into the toilet before that kind of redirected me and I forgot what I was doing so I had a mini meeting with someone else (not important!) and went home. Didn’t give it a thought for two days!

Wow. What happened after two days? If there were no repercussions one can only assume that, whilst the meeting may have been very important, your presence clearly wasn’t.

People being ‘good humoured’ about your various fuckups may be true, or it could just be your (inaccurate) perception. Either way, one day someone is likely to get fed-up and a whole load of shit might blow up in your face.

In any way your behaviour is unacceptable and rude.

Well fortunately, despite my many years and many jobs, no shit has blown up yet but we shall see, I guess. I mean that was the premise of the thread - things that don’t cause you any bother in the real world but are hated here.

In terms of the meeting, the clerk accepted my apologies - the ones those present agreed I must have sent - and being one of the people who is reported to rather than attending to make reports, I had a little time to go through submitted material before needing to take any actions so all was good:)

My food hygiene would give a lot of posters an attack of the vapours - but we’re hardly ever ill so I’m happy to carry on as I am.

I feel like this raises the most questions. I mean are we long sell by dates or dish clothes with fuzzy mold or chopping war meat on the bread board???

I answer my front door
I don't make people take off their shoes
I don't care if cars encroach on my driveway while turning
People are usually made welcome if they call unannounced
I speak to strangers even men
I don't mind giving anyone a lift in my car
I speak up at the time if I think someone is a CF
I don't care what FB posts say
Nothing ever boils my piss

I'm not a cleanfreak or a germphobe and I don't retch or 'boak' (stupid word) at perfectly normal things.

I open my front door when someone rings the (absolutely dumb) bell.

I don’t lock - or even close in the summer - my doors and windows if I’m home

But most of all: I’m a bloody fantastic mother-in-law, who is trusted to look after my grandchildren