Your biggest mumsnet character flaw (that causes you no problems in real life)

[HailMerry]

Having read a few threads that variously refer to peoples’ failings with organisation with them being variously late or missing in action I can never get over the ferocity of attack in response to these posts. I mean I wouldn’t understand as I am shocking and despite trying really hard I will forget things, get lost, confuse days, double book myself. And it causes me no problems whatsoever. No one thinks I think I am more important and no one sulks or ditches me.

I am a kind and loyal and helpful person so a bit of chaotic twattery is forgiven easily. I mean people organise me a bit and send me reminders sometimes but that’s it.

also never remember to offer tea and coffee and visitors just make their own or remind me and I will make a cup. Again, no one cares! What is easy in your life that mumsnet makes sound really complicated?!

I prefer spending time with my husband than friends, we live in each other’s pocket.

We don’t have fancy dinner parties.

I like McDonald’s.

I do hope I am:)

I am in knowing possession of a Y chromosome.

two of us and both lovable:)

I have really enjoyed this thread - what a jolly and forthright bunch of low drama getting on with life people you are with your- in no particular order but as I recall- revolutionary dirty dish cloth owning, outdoor clothes on beds being, cock enjoying and untrained pube, door opening types. You all sound 😊.

Absolutely.

Good to know there are so many of us about who just cba with the drama some people seem to live with on such a regular basis.

I don’t mind lateness.

I don’t automatically assume a woman is in the right because she’s a woman.

I don’t mind my husband having female friends.

I prefer spending time with him to groups of other women.

I think being kind to people is usually a good thing and not a sign of weakness

I often keep my shoes on inside.
my dog licks my face, and sometimes prewashes the plates on their way into the dishwasher
I don’t mind workman using my loo, even if it’s for a poo.

Despite all these MN flaws I have the immune system of an ox…..or maybe it’s because of them!

It’s a shame I don’t have Twitter any more; I could have put ‘cock enjoying’ in my bio.

Thought of another. I genuinely like my friends. Have had the same group of girlfriends for donkeys years. Never a single cross word. I'm genuinely pleased when they get good news. Always happy to see them enjoying themselves on social media etc.

No angst. No blocking. No grey rocking. No hissy fits. Just....nice.

Same with our DDs. I think they're fab. They seem to really like me. We get on great. Enjoy each other's company. I think the last time we had cross words was probably back in 2015 and I vaguely recall it was something about a duvet? I've never once sworn at them and it wouldn't occur to them to swear at me. It's all good.

Yes and sometimes people in my wider friendship group do stuff without me. And that’s fine! I don’t go no contact and scrub their faces out of photos.

Many on MN seem to have incredibly high and unrealistic standards for friends who have to be unfailingly loyal and devotedf. If they are not you are advised to dump them, Then complain that you have no friends.

YES!

I always find it really odd when people on Mumsnet complain about their friends posting about their holidays, kids, weekend or whatever on social media. I like my friends. I’m interested in their lives and pleased for them when nice stuff happens to them. I’m happy to see their kids on their doorstep on their first day of school. I’m interested in travel and love to see photos of places they’ve been. I find it incredibly weird that people would be supposed friends with someone and resent seeing a picture of them. I also don’t gleefully assume they must be desperately unhappy if they post something nice about their partners. I just think ‘Aw, they’re such a great team, I’m so glad they’re together’.

Don’t get me wrong, I’m a terrible, cynical arsehole and I dislike most people. But I absolutely do not dislike my friends, because why the fuck would I?

Agree! I love seeing friends holiday pics! And their kids to see how they’ve grown etc.

I tend to think that most of those posters struggle with friendships, and are probably theorising from a position of total inexperience, but with the ingrained woundedness of a six year old who didn’t get invited to someone’s birthday, hence seeing ‘exclusions’ and ‘cliques’ everywhere, and setting arcane friendship tests like ‘who contacts who first?’

I don't charge my adult son board for living at home.
I allowed my daughter to make a long distance train journey (requiring two changes) at the age of 14.

The one I will never get over was the women who went to a school event and wrote a whole thread about another Mum she barely knew who walked across the field in front of her to chat to her OWN friends .
Apparently she was still chatting to her friends when Op did a test walk near her later after WATCHING her all day.
This was someone the Op had said hi to 2 years earlier.
Apparently this made the woman, who probably had zero idea who she was,a complete bitch, cliquey , a queen bee, up herself etc
Bonkers

Oh the same and I appreciate them all so much. And I love pics of their kids and holidays and like to know how they are all doing.

My kids are lovely company with me and each other. Good people make me happy:)

Unless you need to for house finances then why would you. I think of it as our house rather than mine.

I don’t believe badly behaved kids need a diagnosis… just better parenting.

My adult son insisted on paying towards utility bills when he stayed with me for 6 months, because he thought it was fair and the decent thing to do. I didn't need the money but I accepted it and I'm so glad I have such a considerate son. Maybe it makes a difference that I'm divorced and now live alone?

That is frankly terrifying. It's worrying that people like this are living among us.

I also wouldn't dream of charging our DD's rent. They're holidaying with us this Summer and again at Christmas and we'll happily pay for everything. Yes, our DDs will both be working full time by then, in well paid jobs, but we have far more money than them, so why would we take theirs?

Another classic MN one - going no contact with close family over minor issues. Someone starts a thread saying their mum told her the dress she picked out for a wedding or whatever wasn’t very flattering and someone replies, “she’s a narcissist, go no contact. Block her on everything” 🤣

I can’t bear unannounced visitors
I don’t eat that much
I always believe the woman
I think men are generally obsessed with sex and most would have flings or affairs if they thought they’d get away with it
I can’t bear lateness
Not a fan of poor spelling / grammar irl but in MN meh, people are typing on phones
Earn over 100k a year
I do forget to feed people / offer drinks but we’re all friends it’s not a problem, they’d just ask or help themselves
I don’t like shopping
I don’t like exercise (except walking)
I’d never charge my kids rent for our house or a holiday home (which I wish we had)
I’ve never gone ‘NC’ with anyone

Are these typical MN things or are they atypical .. I don’t know!

These are absolutely typical Mumsnet things. You are Peak Mumsnet.

Oh yes PM. I forgot I’m a sex realist too. Woo hoo me.. 🥇