Your biggest mumsnet character flaw (that causes you no problems in real life)

[HailMerry]

Having read a few threads that variously refer to peoples’ failings with organisation with them being variously late or missing in action I can never get over the ferocity of attack in response to these posts. I mean I wouldn’t understand as I am shocking and despite trying really hard I will forget things, get lost, confuse days, double book myself. And it causes me no problems whatsoever. No one thinks I think I am more important and no one sulks or ditches me.

I am a kind and loyal and helpful person so a bit of chaotic twattery is forgiven easily. I mean people organise me a bit and send me reminders sometimes but that’s it.

also never remember to offer tea and coffee and visitors just make their own or remind me and I will make a cup. Again, no one cares! What is easy in your life that mumsnet makes sound really complicated?!

I can’t drive. I walk, get public transport or an uber if it’s dark/raining/time is tight. It causes me no issues. I don’t expect people to give me lifts, although they regularly offer. I usually turn them down as I like walking. People seem to find it very odd that I don’t consider 20 minutes to/from the station a long walk.

DP has no interest in learning to drive and I don't care. I like driving, especially on motorways.
I open the door; sometimes it's a parcel for next door and occasionally it's an unexpected visitor.
Sometimes it difficult to get into bed because it's covered in animals.
I went to a Russell Group university and wasn't that impressed.

I salute you🤣🤣🤣 though your genius appears to have been missed by most.

When the doorbell rings, I go and open the door. It will be either:
A - family member forgotten their key
B - courier with parcel for neighbour
C - neighbour coming for their parcel
D - courier with parcel for me
E - neighbour with my parcel they took in for me
F - My local Member of Parliament

Okay, @BauhausOfEliott - clearly your reliance on your DP is currently working well for you, but who will do the driving, life admin and mental load if/when he is no longer around? Marriages brake down, husbands die, shit happens…

I don’t generally buy gifts or birthday cards for anyone other than my DC and nieces and nephews.

I don’t have ‘routines’ of any sort - I just kind of muddle along doing things in no particular order as and when.

I can take days if not weeks to reply to non-urgent texts - even from good friends.

I have no idea how many grams of protein I consume on average or how many types of plant I have eaten in a week or how many calories I consume per day or how many steps I take.

I have a toilet brush and I’m not afraid to use it.

I don’t ’rely’ on him. If he wasn’t around, I’d clearly do the boring admin stuff for myself, exactly like I did when I was single and living alone. I’m not incapable of doing ‘life admin’. I just don’t do boring shit unless there’s no alternative.

Similarly, my DP could cook for himself if something happened to me. He doesn’t cook now because I like it and I’m better at it. But he isn’t reliant on me.

I don’t get my DP to drive me to places. We go somewhere together, he drives. When I go somewhere alone - which is often - I get public transport. Exactly as I did before I met him.

It’s really not difficult for me to get around without a car. It’s not a case of ‘who will do the driving’. Nobody will. Millions of people do just fine without driving.

As the OP said - these are examples of things that Mumsnet stresses over but which cause me no drama whatsoever. So it’s ironic that you’ve posted with the most dramatic outcome you can think of and assumed the worst based upon it. Honestly, just relax.

Being a feminist and saying obvious feminist things. In groups and with colleagues, friends and family. Nobody's ever fallen out with me over it.🤷‍♀️

I say a very obvious feminist thing on FWR and get a pile-on.

I don't drive. I can get myself where I need to go on my own. Despite what the drivers I know, think.🙄

I like having people pick up after me.

I’m good friends with loads of mums at the school, I even talk to them at drop off and pick up <gasp>
I also don’t bother talking to the mums who stand away with faces like thunder and never talk to anyone. Largely because I assume they want to be left alone.
But according to MN they may come on and post about the Queen bee clique, while everyone tells her “yeah they’re probably bitches anyway” 😂

I give my children a sandwich and packaged snacks in their pack lunches. Older child might even get a packet of crisps 🫨

Love this thread and the normality of it. I answer the door. I would love it if family popped round unannounced but they live 50 miles away. They never come round 😓
My kids get packaged snacks and DS has the same sandwich in his lunchbox every day.
I am getting better at being on time once it was pointed out to me it is disrespectful to keep others waiting - just too dense to work it out for myself.
Can't stand MIL tho

I don’t make massive salads, we eat the chicken in one go and I don’t think its awful if my dc eat fishfigers or beans on toast occasionally.
I have no intention of leaving DH although he is unreasonable, from time to time.
I hate cleaning, I don’t care if my trainers are in fashion and I like my MIL, who has never once served penis portions.
None of my DC have to leave home at 18, and I don’t think their special adult info and ability suddenly kicks in on their 18th birthday, so they still need some help at times.

I'm a nice person so I don't tell my chaotic friends how frustrating and inconveniencing it is to have to accept they'll forget everything and be late for everything. Just because people don't tell you how much you're negatively impacting their lives, doesn't mean you're not causing massive problems all around you as you crash through life in this way. It's pretty selfish behaviour even if you're not getting any repercussions directly yourself.

I don't shower every day. I like my MIL far more than I ever liked my mother. I don't like splitting the bill when eating out with a group.

I had a baby via surrogacy

I don't work full time, I let dh pay all the bills guilt free. I never paid 50/50 even before we had kids. I don't have relatives to stay, I never even offer. I won't be providing care for my parents when they age. I couldn't care less if people use my driveway to turn their car around.

So many but the first ones that spring to mind-
I answer the door
I take in parcels for all the street
I don’t wash and change bedding every week
I poo in the ensuite bathroom

I open the front door if my (normal) doorbell is rung.
I have lovely neighbours.
I use a loo brush.

I use a loo brush

I had a child free wedding…no exceptions. If you couldn’t attend, that was fine.

I never need to ask advice from MN regarding an outfit for a wedding/funeral etc. I can make my own mind up.

I also know if I’ve been offended or not, I don’t need others to tell me!

I shower when I get up and before bed. I use a clean towel every day and care not a jot that I’m ’drying a clean

I get on well with my neighbours, we are all very happy to take in parcels, take bins in/out if need be, help out in times of illness (shopping eg) we live in a small street where we all know each other.

I don’t care if someone is mean or bitchy to me, or gives me the evil eye, or excludes me. It says everything about them and nothing about me, and who wants to be friends with somebody like that anyway?

I wash towels and bedding as little as I can get away with.

I have lots of friends that i see often for drinks, dinner, runs, walks, coffee. They are a lovely part of my life and we never fall out or block each other.

I made some of them at the school gate.

Smoke weed, our neighbours don't hate us. No criminal underworld involved. Had a sensible covervesations with our teens about it a long time ago. It's no big deal.
Don't drive and still manage to get everywhere I need to be.
Don't do xmas or birthday cards, noone is arsed.
Teens well under 6ft and don't eat me out of house and home.
My best friend is a man, OH genuinely not arsed.