Can’t stop crying after holiday

[Laptopsas]

Just been away on a little mini break with my partner me had a great time. We’ve been together ages, he's lovely, kind, great company, no control or jealousy issues and I feel lucky to have met him.

He made a couple of joking comments. I know they were jokes. One was that I talk too loud. I often do. I know I do. One was that I talk about a hobby a lot. Again, I know I do, I know he was just teasing me.

But they have really upset me and I don’t know why. I know logically I shouldn’t be upset, but physically I just keep crying. Am I just tired and worn out?

He text this morning apologising if he’d been hard work, which he wasn’t, at all, I loved spending time with him. But I felt like I was annoying him and my reaction is utterly bizarre. What is going on?

I don’t live with him and he doesn’t know I’ve been upset. I don’t know why I am.

You what now?
Not saying this isn't a thing but in thsi situation it seems like a normal reaction or being upset by someone pointing out a trait you're painfully aware of.

Yeah I mean if you live with someone, see them daily, go through life’s struggles then mild criticism or irritation is normal. But if you don’t have any of that normal daily interaction, managing house work, chores, money, whatever then it’s not as close as two people who do live together and are life partners,

Housework and chores shouldn’t be what life partnership is based upon.

I think you need to re read, at no point did I say that, I feel possibly I’ve hit a sore spot so you’ve reacted.

badly.

And nor should crying all day after a holiday together because your partner appears to have got the ick

This

You were having conversations, it's really rude to be loud , I am quite a loud person. I'm a teacher and have learned to project my voice i have to be aware of it when I'm out.

Talking about your hobby to excess is boring , my husband constantly talks about work , it makes my teeth itch frankly. If you can't have honest discussions without feeling hurt then what sort of a relationship do you have ?

He's right to tell you if you are annoying him , I'm sure he does things that irritate you too. Do you tell him ? If not why not ?

🙄😂 Trying to insult me by saying he's got the ick isn’t going to work. There is no doubt he wants me.

Well he hasn’t finished with me and we’ve booked another holiday, so all is well.

I don’t think he does anything that irritates me.

Well you’ve not been on the holiday yet!

Are you the OP??!

I know they were jokes.

Because he followed up with “I’m only joking”? Or because you don’t think. / hope he was being serious?

Yes??

I think the poster was indicating that There is no doubt he wants me. doesn’t really go hand in hand with entire crux of your thread op

Yes very similar too

On holiday I was just so aware of how loud he was. Previously it had never been a problem. But on holiday, it seemed embarrassing. Yes, I was embarrassed to be with him.

I finished with him.

Well, he hasn’t finished with me and there is no indication he plans to.

YANBU OP. Don't gaslight yourself - you're upset because he said hurtful things and was trying to dent your confidence.

There are ways of kindly raising something with a partner if their behaviour is annoying you. If he sometimes finds you a little loud or feels you're monopolising conversation with hobby chat (and I'm not suggesting at all that these actually are issues of yours) he could speak to you about it kindly. Making mean little jokes so that you're embarrassed and second guessing yourself isn't nice behaviour.

Thank you. We’re completely fine now and there has been no repeats.